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It is disrespectful if there is no attempt to refrain. For some people, cursing is just part of their vernacular. That doesn’t make it right, but it just makes it ‘the way it is’. If I am speaking with someone who I know uses profanity extensively, and I see that they are trying not to curse but are falling short once in a while, I’m often not offended. They are trying to show respect, and perhaps their intentions are what should be judged. On the other hand, if it were my child talking this way to me, I’m not going to be as understanding. If it were my young child, we’re going to have problems. If it is an older child, say over 21, certainly I’ll let them know it’s not OK.
Generally speaking, I have slipped a curse here or there in conversation with my folks. They were the types of slips that as the words leave your mouth, you are trying to take them back. But, of course, you can’t. And my folks pointed out that it was unacceptable. As I get older, I try not to curse, and the problem has all but diminished. All in all, I have never cursed AT my folks. The proof is that I’m still here to talk about it.
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Name : Dave, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 34, City : Long Island, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Technical, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,Bernice, I’m sorry to hear your trip has been so lousy. Depending on where you are in the U.S., you could get the red carpet rolled out, or the door slammed in your face. I believe it is the same in many other places, as I have traveled a bit. But that makes me think, have you been stuck in a single place for those 6 months, or have you been traveling around. Have you been to Fort Collins Colorado, where people leave their doors unlocked and can leave their bicycle out front of a store and it will still be there when they return. What about Vermont, where you can stop at a farm stand, and make your own change at an ‘Honor System’ register. Not to mention the everyday nice people that are out there. Years ago, a business colleague who is also from South Africa, (He Jokingly dubbs himself a ‘Real’ African American), had told me of how he came to be an American. He came here on business trips regularly, to various U.S. locations, and decided to move here, at that point he had been here about 10 or so years. So my point is: Perhaps you haven’t seen enough of America yet, is that possible? Antonio, I know you stated there are exceptions, but I have to be the voice of those exceptions. First off, not everyone hates his or her job. Not everyone watches the clock. You sound like you are not happy with your job, Im sorry to hear that. Would you like some very simple advice?…Make yourself more valuable. Either go back to school, or learn a trade. Basically, gain some knowledge that makes you more marketable at whatever it is that you do, or would like to do. Therein lie a better paycheck, perhaps some benefits and a little more respect. I’m thinking your 29, so you should have a plan, right? If you do, and your plan is sound, things will get better, keep working hard. If you don’t, start working on one today…your 29! And in ten years you’ll be 39, how long does it feel since you were 19? Went fast didn’t it, 39 will come twice as fast. Make a plan, set up some goals, and keep your eyes on the prize. Whatever you do, do it well and the job will need you more than you need the job.
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Name : Dave, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 34, City : Long Island, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Technical, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,I can speak from some experience on this, as I was a customer service representative for a large financial institution for almost four years. In that time, I answered approximately 140,000 calls. My take on the white/ black / red / yellow question of ‘who complains most’ is this; The people with the most time on their hands did the complaining. In as much as it is difficult to determine race by voice, there are occasions that offer some indication with a fair amount of accuracy. For example, if you heard someone with Locust Valley lockjaw say ‘Lovey, Ask the driver to pick up the Rolls after my afternoon tea, and have the maid fluff the pillows a little extra tonight’ you probably couldn’t get past picturing Thurston Howell III with his sailor hat and day coat. So to some degree you can guess who you are speaking with. And based on that, my experience is that the complaints came from every color, flavor and nationality. In all the time I was on the phone, I never ended a day feeling that a particular group of people were any more or less likely to be or act a particular way. Ignorant and learned minds know not the bounds of race or gender. MarronBella, I am curious to know what type of business you answered calls for. Is it a type of Business/Service where you would be more likely to speak to a particular gender or race? For example, do you work for Clairol’s ‘Hair Coloring for White Chicks’ complaint hotline? I’m making a joke, but I am serious in that the type of business just might have something to do with the type of calls received.
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Name : Dave, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 34, City : Long Island, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : Technical, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,
