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We have become a ‘hyphenated society’ because American society has hyphenated us. It partial stems from the implementations of Affirmative action. Only in America is you race ‘attached’ to your country. You would not hear of an African-Asian, or Hispanic-Asian, or for that matter…African-African. There are many ‘black- British’, however, you never hear them claim to be ‘Black-British’…They clearly state that they are just British. This should be a clear indication that we still have a long way to go before we can become ‘One nation’
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Name : Audrey, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 36, City : Tampa, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Diversity Consultant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,It is not offensive to distinguish someone by their color. The fact is, color is an obvious feature. I will use “color” to narrow down an identity of someone – just like I use hair color, eyes or weight. Even within a crowd of blacks, there are various hues. Many blacks will state various shades of black (high yellow, red, etc.). Not too many whites know about these descriptions because many blacks don’t openly discuss this in front of whites.
So don’t walk on eggshells regarding the description of race. Race is a fact of life. It describes who we are not what we are.
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Name : Audrey, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 36, City : Tampa, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Diversity Consultant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,You are correct. Facing ones truth is an extremely difficult task. Until my community can be honest with ourselves, we will continue to have these “unnecessary” challenges.
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Name : Audrey, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 36, City : Tampa, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Diversity Consultant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Brian, This is a very good question. I myself have experienced that same observation. Being a black person who does not yell or talking during the movie, I have to state that it is environmentally related. If “everyone” around you is conforming to…(whatever), you will find yourself falling into that same pattern. Now, you may find yourself saying, “well, I would not do that if I lived there”. And you would probably be right. You’re a 32 year-old Corporate Executive college graduate. The 4 years of college and a strong “Corporate” environment has shaped a lot of your behavior. That coupled with your values that you may have regarding “talking or yelling” during the movie, will probably keep you away from doing that. But, the people in that movie theater have different “shapers, and values” regarding the issue. For example, I use to attend a very “reserved” Black church. Everyone was quite, no one would yell out “amen” etc. When I attended that church, I “conformed” to their style of worship. When I left and started to attend another, this church yells, shouts, etc. I found myself joining in. Though many people say it’s a “cop-out”, environment plays an enormous part in shaping who we are. Now, its not to say this is who we will continue to be in the future, but it is an obstacle that we ALL have to LEARN to deal with.
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Name : Audrey, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 36, City : Tampa, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Diversity Consultant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,The content in which I have heard are used is in the thesaurus definition of: to down grade, or belittle. I have not heard it used for ‘blacken’.
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Name : Audrey, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 36, City : Tampa, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Diversity Consultant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Acceptable by whom? In the Black community- we are more prone to accept a Black male with a white female- yet, in the white community it is reversed (dates back to white masters and slave women). However, even within the black community- many black females are offended when they see their black male counterparts with women of other races. But the real question is, Will the day ever come when we will “care less” about skin tone, and focus more on values?
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Name : Audrey, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 36, City : Tampa, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Diversity Consultant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Mimi, This is a very ‘brave’ a legitimate question that you are asking. Many whites have questions about it but are afraid of asking because they think black females will get offended (which, quite honestly, many would), that’s why we have this forum. Wearing weave is no different than Women who get breast implants (and not the ones that are doing it because of breast cancer). In general, white women will go under a knife… major surgery…risk their life unnecessarily, for boobs. Why? Because in ‘their society’ bigger breast equals beauty. Many years ago, black women straightened their hair to give the appearance of “whiteness”. We were more “accepted” in the white communities. Even if the black community is being honest with ourselves, we know that many times we would make negative references to our own people (kinky, nappy head, etc) if they did not have straight hair or do something to have it straightened. Now a days, many blacks wear their hair natural. I am a black female who wears a weave. Why? Well everyone has his or her own reasons for it, mine is because, I just look better with longer hair. I am a heavyset woman with a very round face. My own hair (unlike my sister who has naturally long hair) will not grow. Weaving gives me the option to do what I feel that makes me look better. Weaves can be inserted many ways. The ‘old’ way was by a way of ‘pasting’.. but it’s called ‘Bonding’. It is a glue like substance that allows the weave to stay on the hair. But it can also damage your hair, so the most popular type of weave is to have it sewn in. Many women and men do various things to enhance themselves. There is nothing wrong with wanted to do that . But make sure that you truly love yourself for “who” you are “right” now. If you don’t, no amount of “enhancement” will ever be satisfyin
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Name : Audrey, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 36, City : Tampa, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Diversity Consultant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
