My mother is European-American (White), and my father is African-American and African-Bermudan (Black). Among many people who are first-generation biracial and born since 1967 (when interracial marriage bans were legally ENDED in the US), this is the case. The reason has to do with the legacy of slavery and the post-slavery racism, segregation, and oppression. Before the civil rights movement, a majority of black/white 'unions' were at best coerced and hidden, and at worst, rape. Invariably, this was a white male and a black female. At the same time, a black male who even hinted at flirting w/ a white woman, however unintentionally, risked being arrested, beat up, or killed. This was the legacy of racism and slavery, that taught that black males were sexually aggressive and 'after' white women. White males were encouraged to maintain segregation and separation to 'save' white women. With that history, a white female/black male relationship may be more tolerated than the reverse, among people who know the painful history. There is also the possibility that since 'white' has still been used as the societal beauty standard (although that's changing somewhat); therefore, people unfairly see a 'white' female as better/more acceptable/desirable for everyone to want. In general, the more educated/socially aware peopel are, the more accepting they are of any interethnic (i.e. inter'racial') couples.
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Name : Lyonside, Gender : F, Race : biracial: African-American, European-American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 27, City : Philadelphia, State : PA Country : United States, Occupation : Environmental Scientist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, I always heard it was more acceptable for White men to date women of any race than for White women to date any other than White men. As a White women who occasionally dates outside my race, I still get odd looks, and some hostile ones.
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Name : SALLY, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 43, City : PHOENIX, State : AZ Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, That is an interesting question. 'Round here' in Atlanta, depending on where you are some people are going to its not acceptable regardless or that is is acceptable. If you come to the Greenbriar area where I live and ask this question to various people they would probably respond that neither a black man or black woman needs to be dating a white person period. They would not care if it is a black man dating a white woman or vice versa. Now if you go to Buckhead and ask, they may reply that there is no difference or it is neither more or less accceptable. I believe the Buckhead answer is the way it is because of the large gay population in the Atlanta area. So they would not care about a black man dating a white woman or vice versa when Tony and Tido are walking down the street holding hands. So if they can accept Tony & Tido then they can easily accept interacial dating.
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Name : Joe Oden, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 23, City : Atlanta, State : GA Country : United States, Occupation : Salesman, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, I actually prefer to see white men with black women. Black men and white women are so common nowadays. I think black women wait or settle for their men too often, when obviously, the men are dating whomever they choose. It's almost like we believe that they are the only ones who can love us...but i know a couple of white guys that only date black women and treat them wonderfully...Growing up, I used to hate black guys dating white girls because they each would boast about it, like it was some kinda ego trip - but now i realize that each situation is different, and i can't judge anybody's relationship. I'm a black women, and I will date anyone who I find attractive...'red, or yellow, black or white'.
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Name : NF20229, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Seventh-Day Adventist, City : Aurora, State : CO Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, I don't know if 'acceptable' is the right word to use here. I can say, that it is more common to see Black men out with White women. In this country, there appears to be a hierarchy of power beginning with White men being the most powerful, then White women, followed by Black women and men respectively. It is 'subconsciously unacceptable' in this society for a White man to have a Black woman on his arm. Somehow it reduces his 'value'. I don't agree with this twisted mentality. But that is the way it seems. Black men, on the other hand--are on bottom of the totem pole in terms of respect that they are given in this country. It seems that they have more to prove than Black women. Furthermore, this society has idolized 'white beauty'. Thus, some Black men feel that they will earn more respect by choosing a White woman as a mate. There are of course millions of people who date and marry interracially, based solely on the inner qualities of their mates. But this is the stigma that has been attached to interracial dating for many many years.
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Name : Ayanna, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 32, City : Atlanta, State : GA Country : United States, Occupation : Implementation Support Specialist, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, It is regrettable that some deny the statistical truth of your observation! Having said that, I'll clarify that this observation is 'generally true' when it is the black community doing the accepting or rejecting. It stems from the residual sense that 'white is up and black is down' in economic, social, and politial terms. Black men are sometimes seen to have proved themselves superior to the white competitors and there is an allure to that in itself. Moreover, since men 'typically' bring women into THEIR culture vs. women bringing men into theirs it is also generally viewed as ATTRITION when a black woman dates or marries a white man. Either ethnic group (black or white) will generally see it as a thinning of their group if it is their female that has left to the other group. This dynamic is perhaps more pronounced in the black community only because they would be more likely to feel jeopordized given their stronger desire to protect their ranks as a group. Blacks would naturally want to bond together 'against' whites moreso than the reverse until the economic, social, and politial landscape becomes less of an issue.
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Name : Ray Van Gelder, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 38, City : Santa Clara, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Sales, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class, As a 'white' guy married to a Hispanic woman I have also noticed and wondered about this. It seems in this state (Arkansas) at least, the black male/white female couples outnumber the white male/black female couples about ten to one. The following are my personal observations that may or may not be mean anything: 1. Could it be that black males think dating/marrying white females is a step up socially while white males think dating/marrying black females would be a step down? They just don't have the guts to go against the dictates of society. 2. Could it be that because black women seem to start having children at much earlier ages than white women they thus put themselves out of the market to white males who may not want to marry someone who already has children? 3. Now for a 'politically incorrect' observation. It seems to me very few of the white women who date/marry black men are 'drop dead gorgeous'. Maybe some are just going out with what's available to them. 4. Lastly, except for school or work there just does'nt seem to be a lot of opportunities for blacks and whites to interact socially. For example in music whites mostly like country/western, hard rock, heavy metal or alternative while blacks mostly like rap, hip-hop etc. These are my observations for what they are worth. I'd be happy to hear from anyone on this subject.
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Name : Temple D, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 57, City : Hot Springs, State : AR Country : United States, Occupation : Cleaning, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, In my (unfortunately) rather racist region, white girls who date black men are seen as nasty, lazy, undesirable girls who went there as a last resort. And black girls who date white men are seen as trying to hide from their race. I don't think either is true, that when a person finds someone they connect with it goes beyond colour of skin and all other outter things. I am welcoming of any race/gender mixed couple in my home and my life. I feel that we should all be so strong as to say 'this is my choice, not yours, so if you don't like it, move on'
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Name : Jessica G., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 24, City : Greenville, State : SC Country : United States, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class, I don't think 'acceptable' should be a term when it comes to humans dating humans. I think people should just get over it, seriously, I've dated white folks, hispanic folks, black folks. What's the big deal really? Now if you saw me walking down the street with I don't know, a lemur maybe, then there should be some cause for alarm. I myself am mixed, Native American and European. And personally, I like to see opened minded mixed 'race' couples. That tells me there is some hope for the future. It tells me that these two people will not raise their own children to see color as something that separates people, but that it's just a color.
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Name : Kathy, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Native-Euro Mix, Religion : I don't need religion!, Age : 24, City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : Full Time Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 
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Why don't you think it is OK for inter-racial dating? Is it not the wish for us human beings to live with one another without the regards of skin color? Being so closed-minded is what tears this country apart and brings war among nations.
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Name : PD, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Asian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Dallas, State : TX Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, I really would like to know your reasons for coming to this astute conclusion. I think that you need a hard dose of reality and realize that 'color' does not equal 'barrier.' The problem with many people today is that they have these preconceived notions lacking logic that perpetuate the constructs of 'race.' Aleviation many of the unnecessary problems in the world involves open-mindedness including not just 'toleration' but acceptance. I think that it is unfortunate that at such a young age you think this way. This is also not simply an issue of black or white but also of brown, yellow, etc...where do you draw the line? Think before you speak (or type) next time.
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Name : Ashley Z., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, City : Baltimore, State : MD Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, For the most part, because of a subconscious cultural resentment. The whites has dominated the blacks for far too long, and now that they are equal under the law, blacks don't want to submit to whites. Regardless of personal feeling, the social view is that a girl submits to a guy in dating. So where on one hand a white girl is submitting to a black guy, on the other a black girl would be submitting to a white guy. This still happens and there are lots of people who don't care, but for those who do, this is a prime reason.
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Name : Nathan21447, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 17, City : Montreal, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, I dont' understand why people place such restrictions on themselves and others about interracial dating. I have dated White, Black, Hispanic, Ect, and that is nobody's business but my own. I date certain people because I like them and I am attracted to them, not because they are, or are not of a certain race. I do understand that some people are more attracted to people of a certain race or ethnicity, but if the only reason you will not date someone is becasue of their race, then that is very closed minded. I feel sorry for people with these types of guidelines because they may miss out on something really good just because of their irrational opinions.
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Name : Kathryn, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : Biller, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, Question #4: black-male/white female more acceptable to whites? IMHO #7) black men are perceived by white-men as more extroverted, bigger, stronger, aggressive, and more violent. I don't know if black-male/white-female pairings are more accepted by whites, I suspect that they are not, but I know that because of IMHO#7 that white men are unlikely to initiate a confrontation, dirty looks, or other signs of outward disapproval. IMHO #8) males perceive everything in terms of sex. IMHO #9) perceived believes in sexuality, muscle-mass & penis size have a profound effect on white-men. IMHO #10) despite other circumstances or facts, white-men will belive in the back of their head that white-women chose black-men for sexuality releated reasons that white-men cannot compete on. If a black-man feels financially insecure to white-men, that's something for historically unjust reaons and something to get jealous or angry over. But a white-man feeling sexually insecure to black-men is perceived to be genetic, unchangeable, and just depressing rather than anger or confrontation inducing. Question #5: black-male/white female more acceptable to blacks? no idea.
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Name : Bal, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 27, City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : Technical, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, Question #3: black-male/white-female more common? IMHO #4) black women are perceived by whites as more confident, stand-offish, and brash than white women. IMHO #5) white men are more introverted, less hip, more reserved, and less confident in thier ability to hit on members of the opposite race than black men. being at the top of the racial pecking order has advantages but also breed racial insecurity. I don't believe that it's as much a question of acceptable as a question of likely to happen. If I see a black woman in a club, who is together with a similar group of black women, what reason would I believe that she would welcome advances from an unhip geeky white yuppie rather than someone who has more in common with her life and background? I'm lucky that my S.O. came over to me first, as I never would have gotten the nerve to come over to her. Look at Rap vs Emo music for a stark distinction in racial emotional confidence. So much of black culture seems to be confidence & fronting; not to say that it works, but a culture of confidence means that rejection is the limiting factor to hooking up rather than courage. IMHO #6) perceived sexuality and size related rumors may have an effect on women. probably not much of an effect, but I'd gather there are more white-women curious to find out if black-men are bigger than there are black-women just dying to find out if white-men are actually smaller.
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Name : Bal, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 27, City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : Technical, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 
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