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- I know exactly what you are talking about. Indians (from India) as well as South Asians have a deep-seated color complex that is based on their own history of racism. Indians have the caste system, where dark Indians are treated like dogs while they praise white white white. Asians do the same: Japanese think they are better than Chinese, who think they are better than the many other dark Asians as well as all blacks. They detest dark skin and hate themselves. Why do you think most Asian women literally throw themselves at white men and only white men? They think the lighter the better. Believe me, Asians have no love for black people because they have been put down and hated for their skin, so what do they do to make themselves feel better? They turn around and do the same thing to black people.
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Name : Angela, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,You have no right to say such an ignorant statement. Most of the African-American women in my family have naturally long, beautiful hair. The only difference is that we (African-American women) don't obssess about beauty the way some whites do. We are confident enough to wear various hair styles such as braids, or even to cut our hair and still see ourselves as the gorgeous women that we are. You must not know many African-American women to say what you did. I find it funny that people here at Y? Forum are always implying things about other cultures. There are many black women with natural, thick long hair. Your statement implies that you feel we are jealous of white women and want to look like them. Tell me, who do you think white women are imitating when they spend millions on artificially darkening their pale skin, getting lip implants for fuller lips, and breast implants? Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery, baby!User Detail :
Name : Angela, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Look, I know many black women with strong healthy hair that happens to be permed. What gets on my nerves is when we choose to judge each other's physical appearances. Black women (just like all women) are free to create whatever look that they want. No one says anything about the number of white women who wear weaves...and YES they wear them too! Or the Asian women who dye their hair red and blonde and also wear color contacts. Black women in Brazil wear their hair in many beautiful styles whether it is straightened, left natural, permed, or wavy/curly. I feel that black women in the USA judge eachother too harshly. Instead, enjoy the fun and freedom of change once in awhile. Most women that I know try different things with their hair just to do something different, it has nothing to do with being ashamed of the culture. I guess you have not heard of the tribes in Africa that straighten, braid and/or color their hair. If it makes them feel good about themselves, no matter who is doing it, why knock someone's fun?User Detail :
Name : Angela, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,This problem that your girlfriend is having with her roommate has nothing to do with her skin color, culture or religion. The girl is a straight-up thief. My roommate also stole food from me in college. She also wore my clothes without asking, and both of us are black. (I'm mixed black/Brazilian.) This person who your girlfriend has to put with is one of the major reasons why I moved off of campus. People who take advantage of others, sadly enough, come in all shapes and colors, and it can be a real pain trying to deal with them. I know your girlfriend probably doesn't want to create tension with a person she has to live with and see every day, but going into someone's private things, be it food, clothes, mail or money, is a serious no-no. This other chick knows it, and it sounds like she's trying to intimidate your girlfriend. I would either confront her face to face, or move out. Who wants do deal with that crap? It's rude and unfair.User Detail :
Name : Angela, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Jenny, when I read your question I thought about my own battle with weight. I have gone up and down the scale, and I know that family, friends and strangers can make you feel so ugly if you are fat. When I was 11, I was larger than most girls, and the boys in my neighborhood were horrible to me. As I grew up, around 15 or 16, I began to slim down, and can you believe those same jerks who teased me without mercy actually wanted to date me? I kindly reminded them that despite my change on the outside, I was the same little girl who was hurt from their words on the inside. Then I told them to go to hell. Not very nice, I know, but large people (like all people) have feelings, too.Even if or when you lose weight, you still have a self-esteem issue to deal with. I was thin, but still so afraid of how others saw me. Big or small, we have got to find a way to love ourselves.
I am still dealing with this, Jenny. You are not alone. I caught hell from everybody. It was very hard for me not to give up on myself. I have three brothers who teased me, and even my dad would give me hints when he felt I had eaten enough dinner for one night.
I am an adult now, but I have will always have thoughts that my family loves me more because I am not as fat as I used to be. As for men, they make me sick, because their words can really crush you, and I agree that they are afraid to get fat themselves, so they find an easy target. Two of my brothers are overweight now. I look at them and remember how they treated me, and then I ask God for better health and kinder words than those that were given to me.
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Name : Angela, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Hey Ozzie, if you REALLY want an answer to your question, check out the live video-taped footage of white policeman in LA beating up a handcuffed 16 year old black kid. Then take a trip over to New York City and watch how many cabs stop for ANY black person, male of female. Read a book called Women, Race and Class by Angela Davis and find out how the english colonists gave Native Americans small pox disease and purposely sterilized hundreds of Native American women. After that, go rent a movie called AMASTAD and watch it without leaving for popcorn or the bathroom. You will never ask that question again because you will know what we all know: Whites have a legacy of hatred against anything and anyone that is not white. Your history books can show you this. There is not one place on this earth that white men have not gone to and have not killed or destroyed...history also teaches this. They never sought peace with others, only domination through violence, rape and bloodshed. In history books, whites had the nerve to look at other races that they knew absolutely nothing about and call them savages. Its hard for you to see this because you have never had to look, most whites dont want to look and pretend everything is fair and equal. If I was getting most of everything in life and just an advantage in life because of my skin,I guess maybe I wouldnt say anything to rock the boat either. The truth is whites will never understand what it feels like...never.User Detail :
Name : Angela, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,If you want an answer, check out the live videotaped footage of white police officers in Los Angeles beating up a handcuffed, 16-year-old black kid. Take a trip to New York City and watch how many cabs stop for any black person, male of female. Read a book called Women, Race and Class by Angela Davis and find out how the English colonists gave Native Americans small pox disease and purposely sterilized hundreds of Native American women. After that, go rent a movie called Amastad and watch it without leaving for popcorn or the bathroom. You will never ask that question again, because you will know what we all know: whites have a legacy of hatred against anything and anyone not white. Your history books can show you this. There is not one place on earth that white men have not gone to and have not killed or destroyed. History also teaches this. They never sought peace with others, only domination through violence, rape and bloodshed. In history books, whites had the nerve to look at other races they knew absolutely nothing about and call them savages. It's hard for you to see this because you have never had to look; most whites don't want to look and pretend everything is fair and equal.If I were getting most of everything in life, and an advantage in life because of my skin, I guess I wouldn't say anything to rock the boat, either. Whites will never understand what it feels like. Never.
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Name : Angela, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I can understand your complaint, but when I read it again, I was really wondering why you would include their color/race. If your daughter was being bothered by other white girls, would you have typed your complaint here? What is the point of bringing up their color? You may not realize the racist undercurrents of your letter, but they are there. Racists whites can dish it out but cant take it once the tables are turned. Ever heard of the term 'you reap what you sow?' Well, Whites have pushed every other race on this planet around for hundreds of years, and while I do not condone what these girls are doing to your daughter, America is racist and blood-soaked in racial wrongs done by whites. Now your family tastes a CRUMB of what people of color have sufferred for most if not all of their lives. My father told me how racist the military was and still is, so tell your kid to grow up and deal with it. She has to live in this world with the rest of the majority: the Black, Brown, Yellow and Red people of this earth! Maybe if your daughter had black friends when she was smaller, she would have better ideas on how to confront this situation. Has she tried to confront just the one roommate alone and seriously talk to her...or does her BLACK SKIN scare your daughter too much to even try? In any case, she must fight this battle alone, and if you didnt prepare her for dealing with bullies or she grew up the pretty white princess whom everyone admired or kissed her butt, then you are partly to blame for her inability to stick up for herself! Welcome to the real world... 'And the sins of the fathers were passed down to the sons of the fathers...'User Detail :
Name : Angela, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Of all the postings at Y? Forum I have responded to, this one is the most personal. When I was 17, I felt so much pressure from everything and everyone. I had to get the right SAT score, get into the right college, have the right friends, look the right way, or else I would just let down so many people. I was starting to really lose it. I was depressed, angry and had crying fits all the time. I came to the conclusion that it was just better to not be here than to let my family down.So, one afternoon, I took a razor and opened my wrists. I thank God to this day that I didn't die, but sweetheart, you need to know that you are not alone. You are loved even though your mom may have been very upset with you. Grownups get scared, too. Kids don't come with instructions. So sometimes, would you please do something that I couldn't at your age? Please talk to someone about how you feel and the reasons that you cut yourself. Don't leave us, dear,. We old folks need you. Whatever the reason, it will get better.
Thank you for asking that question. Did you know you are the first person I have told this to? See what I mean? You have helped me (told you we need you).
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Name : Angela, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,If you read the postings here at Y? Forum from the Asians who have commented, most of them admit that Asians do dislike dark-skinned people, and mostly blacks. You can write about Japan seeing no color if you want to, but it is obvious to the world how prejudiced Asians are to every other race except the white race. I have seen it here in the States and abroad. I am well-traveled, and I can tell you that the most narrow-minded and racist comments I have heard against the black race have come from Asians. One Asian in my old church actually shook my hand (meaning giving peace to another) and then wiped his hands on his pants. He didn't think I saw him, but I did. I don't know why Asians kiss white people's butts and try to be just like them, because they don't see you as equals, anyway (the racist whites, I mean). You need to wake up and deal with the prejudice in your own back yard before you tell other people to travel and see how nice and non-racist Japan is.Here in the United States, Asian girls trip over themselves grinning and smiling at white men. Other than that, they walk around all bunched up together in packs with their noses up in the air, just like snobby white girls. It's ridiculous.
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Name : Angela, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am an American teacher in Germany and just read your letter. All I can say is Amen! So many teachers have a sincere committment to educating and caring about our young people. But the others ... I have never been so disgusted at the number of people who are here only for the experience of being overseas. I love to travel, too, but my first love is teaching all children. Some teachers here are racist and insecure of younger teachers; they cut students down rather than building them up. Some are old mentally and physically, and their way of teaching is so outdated it is ridiculous. Some teachers don't even like children. I ask myself, 'Will I act like them when I am an older instructor?' I pray not. I respect the profession and hope that the poor image changes, but we have a lot of problems that teachers themselves need to work on and change, too.No one has the right to destroy a child. Every kid deserves a chance. I remember nuns who told me to take up shorthand because I wasn't college material. I wish I could find them now so I could shove my graduate thesis and 4.0 transcripts down their racist throats. But instead of being angry, I chose to become a teacher to make sure no student of mine would ever suffer the same treatment.
Oh, and Sister Amelia, if you're reading this, look for a copy of my doctoral thesis real soon...
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Name : Angela, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am an American teacher in Germany and I just read your letter. All I can say is AMEN!! So many teachers have a sincere commitment to educating and caring about our young people. But the others!!! I have never been so disgusted at the number of people here only for the experience of being overseas. I love to travel too, but my first love is teaching ALL CHILDREN! Some teachers here are racist, and insecure of younger teachers, they cut students down, and put them down rather than building them up! Some are old mentally and physically and their way of teaching is so outdated, it is ridiculous! Some teacher dont even like children...I ask myself 'Will I act like them when I am an older instructor?' I pray not! I respect the profession and I hope that the poor image changes, but we have a lot of problems that teachers themselves need to work on and change too... No one has the right to destroy a child...and every kid deserves a chance. I remember nuns who told me to take up short hand because I wasnt college material. I wish I could find them now so I could shove my graduate thesis and 4.0 transcripts down their racist throats! But, you know, instead of being angry, I chose to become a teacher to make sure no student of mine would ever suffer the same treatment... Oh, and Sister Amelia, if you're reading this, look for a copy of my doctorate thesis real soon...User Detail :
Name : Angela, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am African American (also Brazilian mixed), and one of my best friends before I left the states was white. It is possible for the two to become good close friends. We were co-workers, and the friendship grew from professional to personal (hanging out after work, etc.). The thing that made it honest was that neither one of us tried to be what we weren't. I didn't try to act white or assume I knew everything about their culture(s), and she did not try to act black or assume she knew all about black culture(s). Despite physical difference, women of different races can share the same types of experiences, joys and pains. I think fear and peer pressure keep both races from making more friendships with each other. Also, both of us were in interracial relationships, and we talked about them, too. It was great that I was able to really talk about black/white issues with someone who wouldn't be offended or touchy. We were real because our situations were real, and it was there that both of our educations began. I think it's always a good thing when you can learn and grow from sharing your experiences with other races/cultures. You may not end up being best buddies, but you will never regret putting your 'fear of the unknown' aside and taking a chance.User Detail :
Name : Angela, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Girl, you GO! I was so proud of what you wrote ... and it is the truth. Every single word. Be strong and proud of who you are, and remember, black people: Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery. I get so sick of Disney movies, movie videos and regular movies (Step Mom, etc.) that constantly have black music, clothing, mannerisms and many examples of black culture; yet you don't see a black person on the screen. We set the tone for many things here in the United States. Without blacks to copy, many would have nothing to say and no audience listening. I'm not being self-centered, but blacks in the United States are not given half the rights that all Americans deserve. And to the writer who is sick of hearing about slavery: Baby, you better plug your ears, because if you think we will ever forget 400-plus years of slavery, you better think again. Your great, great, great grandkids will read about these crimes so that it will never happen again. We are re-writing the history books that said nothing of the Middle Passage, the millions that were murdered, raped and slaughtered. It is a horror when anyone's life is taken, and a worse horror to forget. They did not die in vain, and for other races to say 'get over it' is a cowardly cop-out because they can't deal handle their own personal feelings.No one is asking for your guilt, your pity or your apathy. Slavery was an historical crime that affects us today. If we don't study and learn from the past, we will repeat it. It's more important that blacks remember and continue to fight for their rights, wherever they are on God's earth. All the rights that black Americans have today are based on our ancestors' struggle, from slavery to civil rights to this moment. Don't ever forget that your blessings were bought with the lives of many. Many who loved you before you were born, and paved the way for you to succeed. All races should remember what their ancestors did - the good, the bad and the ugly. We are bigger than this, people. We can face our past. I know it hurts, but we must remember. Studying your history does not mean you are dwelling on your past. It means you are not ashamed of yourself and are not afraid to look at all of our past mistakes, in hope of a brighter future. You will continue to hear about slavery, and nothing will ever be forgotten. As an educator and a published writer, I am going to make sure of that.
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Name : Angela, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 30, City : Washington, State : DC Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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