[Lynn]

I would say that while there are some lesbians who are offended by the idea of stripping for money, there are also those of us who aren’t. To be honest, I would love to go to a strip club but would only go with a group of friends because I’d be concerned about being harrassed by male patrons. There are a couple of lesbian strip clubs in LA and NYC, but none here in DC that I know of.

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[Jonathan29081]

My closest friend is a female stripper, and let me tell you, at least from what she’s told me, they like it so much more when they are dancing for a woman. First of all, a lot of the women dancing are bisexual or lesbians. Secondly, few women are going to attempt to molest a stripper, unlike quite a few men. Why do you think there’s always a bouncer there? Go for it, just remember, most of the time, no matter how much the stripper seems like she’s enjoying what she’s doing, she’s not.

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[Rebecca]

Just wanted to tell you that I too enjoy going with my husband. While I did experiment with women when I was younger, I would definitely say that my preference is being married to a man. However, I still appreciate the beauty in the female form. We have gone to ‘gentlemen’s’ clubs and even ‘full contact’ clubs in Florida. I have found that it is as sexually exciting for him as it is for me to see another women who finds my husband as attractive as I find him, even if it is only in the fantasy that we are paying her for. Regarding the lesbian question, while I am not gay my older sister is. Not only does she frequent the bars with her girlfriend, she has worked as a stripper for more than 8 years. Just thought I would post to let you know you are definitely not alone in this bit of voyueristic foreplay. We often see other couples in the bar who are enjoying the same activities.

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[Mac]

There are definitely lesbians who find strip clubs offensive, they see it as objectifying and degrading to women. I don’t know of any lesbians who go to strip clubs as a regular social activity, either. I’ve been a few times and I found it entertaining, but not overly ‘stimulating’. While we don’t have any such clubs of our own that I know of, you may find it interesting that the women dancers seemed to REALLY enjoy our presence … I don’t know if that’s because it was refreshing for them, because we were very enthusiastic, or if they were bisexual … we got quite a bit of attention from them! Thanks for the opportunity to relive the memories … 🙂

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[Olivia P.]

There are a few clubs (usually in larger metropolitan areas) that cater specifically to women. I have been to some of them, and even danced at one once, but I also enjoy going to the gentlemen’s clubs. I don’t think the idea of stripping is offensive to all lesbians/bisexual women at all; I definitely don’t find it offensive. I think that if you like going out to strip clubs, more power to you, and enjoy!

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[S.L.]

Well I’m a lesbian, I’ve been to a strip bar once and didn’t much care for it. However I have friends who like to go on occasion and they really enjoy it. I did hire a stripper for a friend’s 30th B-day party once and she loved it..as did all the lesbians at the party. To some people, stripping is offensive..it’s not what I’d do for a living but I don’t fault a woman who wants to.

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[Casandra]

I too enjoy going to strip clubs with my boyfriend, but at times I think it makes some of his friends uncomfortable. Now I am by no means the lesbian spokesperson, but I have found from my experience that there are lesbians who attend gentlemen’s clubs, especially those in smaller cities and rural areas where there are no lesbian strip clubs. I have also found that many strippers are either homosexual or bisexual and have received several free lap dances at the expense of the stripper when my boyfriend and his friends were required to pay. Now there is some discrimination that exists at certain strip clubs. On a particular evening I entered a strip club with a girlfriend without men accompanying us, but meeting us there. We were initailly denied entrance because we were not accompanied by a man. I politely inquired as to the reasoning behind such a rule and was told it was an effort to keep both lesbians and disgruntled wives out of the club. We were allowed to enter upon the arrival of our male ‘escorts’, but later when I went into the restroom and found one of the strippers engaged in some pretty heavy petting with another woman, I could only laugh at the irony.

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[Katrina26724]

Well, when I lived in San Francisco and went into strip bars there were always some women there, never the majority, but some women. I’m not aware of there having been any lesbian strip clubs in San Franciso. Getting somewhat off topic, when I moved to L.A. I was surprised to find out there were some strip bars that wouldn’t let me in unless I had a guy with me. One place, where my roommate was working, wouldn’t even let me in unless she came out to tell them to let me in. Other places don’t care. I don’t know what the deal is. A friend from Atlanta told me that in several places she knew of in the South that women wouldn’t be allowed entrance if they didn’t have a guy with them.

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[andy]

My bi wife and I go to strip clubs once in a while. We find it interesting that we don’t get approached (or didn’t at first) for dances for her. haven’t run into clubs especially for alternate sexual orientation, nor have i ever seen a group of women at a mens strip club. hhmmm, maybe we should open one?

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[Beth-R]

I’m not a lesbian. I have had sexual encounters with women, and enjoyed them. I have gone to strip clubs and enjoyed that as well. But since I don’t identify as lesbian or even bisexual, maybe my response doesn’t count.

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[Sarah]

Well, I’ll respond first to your last question– I think that, just as with straight women, there are lesbians and bisexual women who find stripping for money, etc., distasteful for a variety of personal and political reasons. There are also those who don’t. As a lesbian woman, I’ve gone to strip clubs, and gentlemen’s clubs, though I’ve never seen a ‘lesbian’ strip club… there are pansexual clubs that feature a variety of dancers, usually in sexy gear, though not necessarily naked… this is a slightly different environment, though. Interestingly,in Korea (where I was stationed with the United States Air Force) there are many clubs where girls dance in bikinis and work as ‘escorts’ for a fee. Military lesbians and bisexual women are a small but noticable percentage here, and often take up with these women. And lesbians and bisexual women enjoy a certain amount of popularity with the working-girls as well. I know several women who frequent their ‘regular’ clubs and are adored, not just by their gay or bi ‘working’ girlfriends, but by all the girls in the clubs. I’ve talked to many of the young women that work in the clubs who are from the Philippines and Russia and have done similar work in other countries and say that it’s the same everywhere they go.

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[Mark22067]

I am not a lesbian. But I sure wish more woman were like you, especially my wife. You are married to a lucky man.

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[aysha]

Basically, everyone has their own opinion. Sure some lesbians or bisexuals think it is offensive. Some think it is great. Some are the actual exotic dancers. I know a good number of women who go to ‘gentleman’ clubs and get lap dances. Usually, from what I’ve seen, all the men are turned on by it, so they don’t object. The dancer is getting paid by a customer, so they don’t object. Any other women in there that isn’t an employee, is in there for the same reason as you, so they don’t object. I’ve never seen, or heard of, a women being told ‘no, they couldn’t buy a lap dance’. In larger cities I’m sure there are specific clubs for lesbians. Reason being, it is a marketable area with potential profit, so someone, somewhere must be trying to make money from it.

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[Ursula]

I’m not a lesbian but I have many gay and lesbian friends. I’ve gone with lesbian friends to ‘gentlemen’s clubs’ and I have only noticed that they don’t get as excited as when we go to a lesbian club during the strip show. And I don’t know if the situation is the same everywhere. But at the few lesbian clubs there have been in Hawaii (that I’ve gone to), the shows can be really graphic and extreme. I’d like to know if it’s like that everywhere, it was shocking for my taste and I considered myself open to things.

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[Ken]

I can only speak from my experience, there are so many questions to comment on here, but first let me tell you that here in Los Angeles, there are clubs for lesbians that feature stripping. It’s an old joke that the strippers are all ‘straight’, which plays into the popular culture myth of gays wanting to turn straights. It’s an inside joke. The stripping in these clubs is more a feature of the club, for atmosphere, than the whole focus of the club. None of my lesbian friends have ever told me about their stripper experiences, i think that’s a guy thing, and straight women. My last three serious relationships were with women who enjoyed strip clubs, one club here in particular that is known for it’s late night Co-ed crowds. My buddy and I went there for his birthday with our lesbian couple-friends. I don’t think they would have gone there on their own cause it’s just not there speed, It’s still oriented for men paying women, but they had a good time anyway. Gay couples are as diverse as straight ones. None of my lesbian friends give it a second thought, it’s not on their minds. Perhaps there is a divide within the lesbian community about stripping, but my experience has been that almost any Gay debate sounds just like everyone else’s debate. There is no real single category – you’re either on this side of the line or you’re not. Much in the way my Gay brother is not in any way a stereotypical gay man, even his own friends find it hard to believe sometimes. And what is the stereotype? One answer might be that bi-women go to strip clubs all the time – with their boyfriends. Two of the girls i mentioned before had had female lovers and readily talked about it. After all, are they not the classic bi-sexual reference? In their cases, as many lesbian friends of mine, the level of offense to women acting-out or being forward is about equal to that of straight women – i’m sure you know several straight women who are offended by stripping? Whether religious or post-modern feminism, some women have always been offended by women dancing for men’s money. I don’t think sexual orientation is a determinate factor here- ultimately, it’s a political choice.

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