I know when I was younger I would've thought dating an older guy was great but may be you should just try dating an older girl(like your age)who's flat you'll have more to talk about than with someone who still reads Sweet Valley and...talking about this with a psychiatrist(no offense it's just a good idea)
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Name : Ashley, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, City : Pasco, State : WA Country : United States, Social class : Upper middle class, You ask if being attracted to 13 and 14 yo girls because of their small breasts make you a pedophile. The question you need to ask yourself is do you ever find girls/women your age or older attractive IF they have small breasts as well? If the answer is yes, then I probably wouldn't worry so much about it. As you get older, you'll find girls/women older than 13 and 14 more attractive as well. If the answer is no, that you seem to ONLY find girls at age 13 and 14 attractive, then I might be concerned. I would make an effort then to talk to someone at a youth counselling center (preferably that is NOT religious based! Especially not Catholic or Fundamentalist!)
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Name : Ray N. Grant, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Atheist, Age : 42, City : Minneapolis, State : MN Country : United States, Occupation : Software Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, Hi Rafael, Your attraction to young teen girls, I think, is natural and common. Like being attracted to a woman's beautiful face, or an oil painting, or a well-planned house. That's very normal. But until there only. So long as you don't touch or grab young teen girls, or plant an unwelcomed kiss on a pretty woman, or steal an oil painting, or vandalize a house, YOU ARE OK. The moment you misbehave or do something illegal, then you commit a crime. Then the police and media will brand you a 'pedophile' - one who victimizes young teen girls. I hope this helps to enlighten you on your question. Wally
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Name : Wally, City : Toronto, State : NA Country : Canada, I don't think there is anything wrong with you liking 13 and 14 year old girls when you're 16. Write back to me when you're 30, then we'll talk. But, to answer your question on what defines pedophilia, I think it's the active pursuit of young girls, or the collection or making of pornography involving minors. I think practically every adult has caught themselves looking at someone still in high school sexually, they are in their physical prime. The problem comes when it results in an obsession.
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Name : Ben, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 26, City : Audubon, State : NJ Country : United States, Occupation : Waiter, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class, What you are, I suspect, is a pretty horny teenager. Girls a few years younger than you are less threatening than your agegroup peers. There is an abundant supply of acceptable 16 year old girls with smallish breasts. Don't necessarily expect your current attitude to be a permanent condition.
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Name : Gatorboy, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 55, City : Melbourne, State : FL Country : United States, Occupation : retired, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, Pedophilia is defined by TAber's Medical Dictionary as: 'An unnatural desire to have sexual relations with children.' You are correct in assuming the defination presumes the agressor to be an Adult. The moral considerations fall into another catagory when both are children, and at 16, you are still a child, believe it or not. I don't think you have to worry about being a Pedophill unless you find your self at 25-30, and your girlfriends are still 13. Right now, I would worry alot more about what there Father's will do, and they ALWAYS find out eventualy. You have every right to like small breasts and tight, athletic bodies. But at 16, there are penty of small boobs in you own class. Ask youself, 'Do I like little girls because they are easy to control?' If Yes, then you run the risk of stunting your own emotional growth.
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Name : Christopher Schroeder, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Lutheran, Age : 41, City : Jackson, State : WY Country : United States, Occupation : Surgical Assistant, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, Time will tell. As you mature, your likes should mature too. If you actually 'date' these younger girls for the reason they have smaller breasts, then you may well have a problem. A healthy mind dates a person because of who they are, not because of their breast size. Children are defined as undeveloped adults. There are plenty of girls your own age with small breasts. Are you attracted to small breasted girls your own age? If not, then you are on the right track by seeking help before you find yourself in deep trouble.
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Name : Celi W, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 62, City : Galax, State : VA Country : United States, Occupation : Professional, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 14 and sixteen is only a two year difference, and 13-14 year old girls aren't defined as children i mean they are developed and stuff. maybe if you were like 30 and still attacted to them, but lots of guys like younbg girls, i mean look at the olsen twins.
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Name : kirsten, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Religion : Agnostic, Age : 16, City : miami, State : FL Country : United States, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Upper middle class, Rafael, the definition of pedophilia according to dictionary.com is 'The act or fantasy on the part of an adult of engaging in sexual activity with a child or children.' I have always been more attracted to a woman if she has small breasts, too, but I would NEVER have considered engaging in any activity with someone the age of 18. Look around, there are plenty of girls your age and older with smaller breasts. STAY AWAY FROM THE MINORS!
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Name : Bill23241, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Buddhist, Age : 45, City : Baton Rouge, State : LA Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, I don't think there's anything wrong with your attraction to the younger girls. At your age, it is natural to be attracted to girls of all ages: older, the same, and younger than you. Heck, when I was your age I had a thing for a girl and her Mom at the same time! Since you seem to be focused on breast size, preferring smaller ones, that doesn't necessarily lock you into wanting 13/14 yr. old girls the rest of your life, because you'll find lots of great and beautiful women out in the world all your life who have your fave kind of breasts, and a lot of other things you'll like about them, too. Good luck...don't sweat it.
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Name : Mats, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 37, City : Eau Claire, State : WI Country : United States, Occupation : Clerk, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, Don't worry, as long as your attraction for 13-14 years olds doesn't carry on to after you're 18 it is not pedophilia.
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Name : Courtney, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Native American/British/German/Ukranian, Religion : Christian, Age : 18, City : Toronto, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : University Student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class, At 16, it is natural to be attracted to girls within a couple of years of your age due to common interests and the fact that you probably interact with them at school and during other activities. This does not mean you are a pedophile. And the fact that you like small breasts (good for you!) does not mean you can't date girls your own age, either. There are plenty of young women with small, shapely breasts that will never develop into huge cleavage. I know - I'm one of them! I was 14 when I started dating and my boyfriend was 18, and we were together for seven years. But don't limit yourself to only dating girls whose physical attributes match your 'preferences' - you could miss out on some wonderful girlfriends that way. Also, Rafael, make sure you know the laws in Washington. You can get in a lot of trouble if you have sex with a girl who is underage according to the laws of your state. Look it up.
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Name : Samantha, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 36, City : Woodstock, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Secretary, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, It basicaly depends where you live. In some states, its perfectly legal for a 16 yr old and a 13 yr old to have a relationship, in others, its not. Now, if you were 18, I'd say there might be a problem. I too am attracted to girls with small frames and small breasts. Luckily, my gf was a figure skater and is only 5'. I see nothing wrong with being attracted to younger girls, as long as its just for physical looks, not mentality, and as long as its not acted upon. I know all kinds of girls online between the ages of 13 and 17 that are extremely attractive, they are just, well, either too immature to associate with without going insane, or the idea of hanging out with them in real life is unsettling due to the fact that they are still in HS and they have vastly different priorities than I do. Though sometimes they are interesting to talk to, if only to fill that big brother roll and share some of the experiences I've had growing up. Anyway, at your age, I see nothing wrong with it, as long as you are attracted to them in spite of thier age, instead of BECAUSE of thier age. And as long as it doesnt break any laws.
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Name : Jason31244, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 25, City : Panama, State : FL Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class, Whether or not you suffer from Pedophilia depends on where you live. Since you are in Seattle you would be a pedophile if you had sex with boys or girls who under the age of 18 and are 4 or more years younger than you. I would take this as meaning that if you continue seeking people at the same age group as you get older then you will become one. BTW: 13-14 is not prepubescent, if you like small brests try dating people who don't typically drink milk.
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Name : Steve27859, City : Seattle, State : WA Country : United States, I think that at 16, liking girls in the 13 to 18 year old age range is normal. if you liked three-year-olds, then there would be cause for concern.
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Name : Colleen, Gender : F, Age : 26, City : Lakewood, State : WA Country : United States, 
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