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Im a white parent of four children, all in the age range of your question. I believe all children, black or white, have become much more disrespectful in the past 10 years. Im an educator in a school that is 40 percent white and 60 percent black, and its not only white children who use profanity. However, none of my children have ever used profanity toward or around me.
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Name : Mitch-B, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Baptist, Age : 42, City : Charleston, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I agree that it happens more in the white community than the black. I just don’t know why.
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Name : Luann22607, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 45, City : Jasper, State : AL, Country : United States, Occupation : CPA, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,What white people are you hanging around with … trailer trash? Any decent middle class Christian white family is not going to allow profanity aimed at adults. I think black kids are the rudest and crudest of all.
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Name : TF, City : Flowery Branch, State : GA, Country : United States,Melissa, T.F. Young children cursing, especially at their parents, has nothing to do with race and you know it. It has to do with parenting style and maybe socio-economic status. I’m a teacher who has worked with many types of students. White or Black, children learn what they live. Somewhere these children learned how to swear. Somehow they learned it was OK to swear. I’ve seen this behavior in black and white communities. This is a parenting issue.
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Name : Steve, Gender : M, Race : Black/African American, Religion : African Methodist Episcopalian, Age : 30, City : New York, State : NY, Country : United States, Occupation : teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Im white so i must must be an exception. Me and my brothers couldnt curse at our parents or even use ‘curse’ words in casual speech period. I did notice alot of my white friends using curse words casually with their parents, i always remember being surprised they didnt get slapped or yelled at.
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Name : Andres, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 25, City : Chambersburg, State : PA, Country : United States,In matters of ‘respect,’ white people are more tolerant of informalities or outright disrespect. White culture, especially of the middle class, is one of constant cheek-turning, mediation and venting. I respect this, but it isn’t something I grew up with. Black culture and other working-class culture places a higher value on respect and pride than middle-class whites, generally because we’ve been taught it’s worth fighting for, even dying for. This respect is greatest for your parents, even if they are less than perfect, as in my case. Ironically, those who seem to respect their parents the most often disrespect strangers and casual associates the most. Again, it’s because pride and respect is often gained through aggressive assertiveness, and even disrespect in some quarters.
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Name : Seamus28223, Gender : M, City : Charlestown, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : Construction, Social class : Lower class,It might be the class of whites you are seeing to. Yes, I’ve seen misbehaved white children, but I’ve seen misbehaved black kids as well. And as far as swearing, it is common for teens of any race to swear (although I’ve NEVER seen them do this around their parents). I know some blacks have a perception that white kids must be more out of control than black kids because white culture doesn’t encourage spanking. Spanking alone doesn’t create a good child, yet neither does time-out. Both have a tendency of forgetting the main fact that creates a happy, well-adjusted, well-behaved child — simply spending POSITIVE time with them. If the only time you can spend with a child is through discipline, of course you will get negative results.
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Name : Kristina26252, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 21, City : DC, State : DC, Country : United States, Occupation : Transcriber, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,There are rude children of every race, it depends on how the child is reared. Your stereotypical answers shows that your parents didn’t spend time teaching you how to have an open mind and be realistic. I am proud to say that me and all of my black friends are respectful to our parents and they are equally respectful to their children. Only people of the lowest denominator speak to their children that way and trust me there are low people in every race on this earth…. including yours! I don’t know where you live that every black mom curses at her child, maybe you ought to consider improving your environment.
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Name : Get-real, Gender : F, Race : Black/African American, City : orlando, State : FL, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,I’m 40 and grew up in Chicago. From what I see the blame falls with the changing times. Especially childrens ‘Rights’. My now 20 year old came home from school one day and got into trouble. At the time he was 13. Enough trouble that he needed a paddling. He had the nerve to tell me ‘You can’t spank me, you’ll go to jail’. This is what they are teaching in school. I simply told him that I’d be home for dinner. He’d be living in a strangers house. As a youth in Chicago I agree that this is not a race issue. I also believe blacks are more disrespectful in private. By that I mean among family and friends. By far the most disrespectful are ‘Hill Billies’ I knew several families of such and kids were really ‘White trash’
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Name : Ken, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Baptist, Age : 40, City : Wilton, State : WI, Country : United States, Occupation : machinist, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am a white female and if my daughter EVER used profanity towards me (or any other kind of hostility) she would be reprimanded accordingly.
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Name : Natalie, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Deist, Age : 32, City : Toronto, State : NA, Country : Canada, Education level : Less than High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,Now when a black mother tell their child ‘Get the f**k over here’ what do they do? They come. No I wouldn’t cuss at my child but when I say come you better come. I am the mother and they are the child. They do as I say not as I do. But whats wrong with white people is that they want to by a friend instead of a mother and they don’t want to beat they child and the child grows up and think they can do anything and get away with it. Most white people act like thet are scaried of their kids. What black child you know making bombs and blowing things up?
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Name : Mireya, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 21, City : Baltimore, State : MD, Country : United States, Occupation : Computer Technologist (WWW), Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,White kids disciplined more than black children? Where have you lived? You can go into any store, park, whatever in America and you see white kids with “Whitekids Syndrome”: Acting up, yelling, telling their parents what they will and won’t do, being defiant, being demanding. You never see black children acting like this because they know better. White parents give their kids way too many choices. Black children may act out around each other, but you can best believe when they are around their parents, they know how to act.
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Name : JAMARA, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 32, City : hampton, State : VA, Country : United States, Occupation : exec asst, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,How come you let your kids curse at you? Black mothers are more are more strict and expect to be listen to by their children. Think about y so many white kids grow up to be racist or terroist. Hmm
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Name : MJ20279, City : D.C, State : DC, Country : United States,Being a white 15-year-old, I can speak from experience that my parents do not tolerate me using profanity toward them. I don’t believe I have ever ‘cussed them out,’ though there have been instances when I wanted to. I do have a few friends who cuss at their parents, but it doesn’t have anything to do with their ethnicity.
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Name : Daniel, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 15, City : Tulsa, State : OK, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Social class : Middle class,I’m white, and my parents never tolerated me using foul or blasphemous language with them or anyone else in their presence. They didn’t even like ‘Gosh.’ I think this cultural viewpoint you are seeing is not quite as racially determined as you think.
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Name : Matt22030, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, City : Chattanooga, State : TN, Country : United States, Occupation : Music, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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