By PHILLIP MILANO Question What is the hardest thing to deal with as a gay individual? C.D., Johnson City, Tenn. Replies Probably the sudden death of a loved one. However, many people have a misconception that being gay is all we are. I’m sure straight people don’t dwell on their heterosexuality (“Do these pants make me look straight?;” “I wonder …

By PHILLIP MILANO Question Why do some men attempt to cover their balding heads with a comb-over? You all would look much more attractive if you would get a decent haircut. My gentleman friend reacted like I asked him to cut off his you-know-what when I suggested he would look much better if he changed his style. Jo, 53, Fort …

By PHILLIP MILANO Question I live in an area with a large Filipino population. Most of them smack their lips when eating – and not quietly. Is this common to the Filipino culture and not considered rude? Mike, 43, Santa Cruz, Calif. Replies I am married to a Filipina. It’s cultural. Filipinos, as well as others from that part of …

By PHILLIP MILANO Question Why is it that if I’m 15 minutes late for a doctor’s appointment, I have to reschedule, but if I wait more than an hour past my appointment time, that’s OK because the doctor is busy? Alma, 48, Kempner, Texas Replies I was a waitress, and if I made people wait 15 minutes before I went …

By PHILLIP MILANO Question Why do so many elderly people drive Crown Victorias or huge Buicks? Chris, 34, female, Madisonville, Ky. Replies I think you have to be 100 in order to buy a Buick Century. Andrew, Salt Lake City My guess is it’s a combo of comfort (big-boat cars are easier on old-people joints) and the Depression-era desire to …

By PHILLIP MILANO Question Hispanics refer to me as “wedda.” What does it mean? N.F., 44, white female, Denver Replies The word is huera and it’s pronounced more like “where-a” or “where-o” (huero, to refer to a guy). It basically means “white girl” or “white guy” in a positive kind of way. FreedaBee, 42, white female, California Actually, no. It’s …