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Dare to Ask: More tests don’t mean more money for doctors 

By Phillip J. Milano Question I’ve noticed many doctors exaggerate what to do with my “problems,” such as suggesting unnecessary operations, until I find ones who tell the truth. Don’t they swear to help, be honest and good? Why try to just get more money from us by lying? Shame on you! Nickynic, female, Venezuela Replies Especially here in America, ...

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Dare to Ask: A Middle Easterner is not always an Arab

By Phillip J. Milano Question Do Middle Easterners find it offensive to be called Arabs or A-rabs? Karen, white, Staten, N.C. Replies A-rab is considered offensive because it is mispronounced. And remember, not all people in the Middle East are Arab. There are Persians (mainly in Iran), Palestinians, Kurd … it goes on and on. Calling someone from Iran A-rab ...

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Dare to Ask: Do gay men typically not date ‘out of their league’?

By Phillip J. Milano Question I’m called handsome by some, but I think I am unattractive. I recently started accepting my sexuality and realized I am gay. Is there acceptance in the gay community for “ugly” people? N.N., 17, male, Minnesota Replies Young metros who go to clubs might desire a particular look, but that is not ubiquitous to all ...

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Dare to Ask: Are slippers and bare feet in public race-specific?

By Phillip J. Milano Question Why do I constantly see black people shopping in stores with their slippers on? – Julie, 27, Akron, Ohio Replies And why do whites go into public with no shoes on? – Jimia, Grand Blanc, Mich. I’ve seen white college kids wander around in PJs on campus, but it seems like the majority of people ...

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Dare to Ask: Are the media too harsh on Catholicism?

By Phillip J. Milano Question So much is made of anti-Semitism and how ugly it is, yet anti-Catholicism is alive and well on TV and in the movies. Live talk shows seem obsessed to bash the church. Rene, Port Orange Replies Catholicism is the largest denomination in the U.S. and world (more than a sixth of the planet’s population), so ...

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Dare to Ask: Muscling in on the rules of attraction

By Phillip J. Milano Question Straight women and gay men: What is the most attractive muscle on a man? David B., Los Angeles Replies His brain. Lady J., 24, Los Angeles Abs are the most attractive. My second choice would be their chest, as long as they aren’t overly built (“man-boobs”). Gregory, 17, gay, Minn. I find the thighs very ...

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