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I had the same experience 3 years ago. I went to India to be married. The things that stand out for me are: close your eyes when they drive. It’s terrifying and there are few road laws. Don’t show your armpits and don’t try to stare men down when they stare at you. Here it works to make them back down, but there they can stare longer than you can. There is something called ‘eve teasing,’ when men will harass you on the street. Some Indian women carry stickpins with them to poke rude men. Holding your hands in a prayer stance and saying NAMASTE when you meet elders is nice, and perhaps expected. Carry some tissues with you because the bathroom is not like ours. A lot of women don’t even use public restrooms and would rather wait to go home. Travel is exhausting. And if you have a layover in a Muslim counrty, be particularly discreet and proper. I got yelled at by a military airport security person for sitting cross-legged in a seat. The family will almost interview you, even though your man has already chosen you. Hang in there. My Indian man was certainly worth the trouble and I suspect yours is, too.
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Name : pissedkitty, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : 1/2 native, 1/2 white, Age : 39, City : Caribou, State : ME, Country : United States, Occupation : psychotherapist, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,This has been a topic of discussion at my house. I’M an American with a relatively weak stomach. My husband is from a culture where many bodily functions are handled differently. He farts really loud at home and burps at the table. It’s really true that Asians consider burping a compliment. Anyway, he rarely says ‘Excuse me,’ and I often feel sick. I’ve realized that a lot of it is psychological because if he does say ‘excuse me’ I suddenly feel better, as if the acknowledgement somehow cancels it out.Then I can go on eating.
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Name : pissedkitty, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : 1/2 native, 1/2 white, Age : 39, City : Caribou, State : ME, Country : United States, Occupation : psychotherapist, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,i truly believe that its a historical issue that has become part of black culture. the anger in their culture now is a natural backlash after years of oppression. its racial baggage and i dont think it will be permanent. people who say ‘they’ should ‘just get over it’ havent experienced what they have. all cultures have baggage. the deeper the pain, the longer the healing will take.
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Name : pissedkitty, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : 1/2 native, 1/2 white, Age : 39, City : Caribou, State : ME, Country : United States, Occupation : psychotherapist, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,like all people, there are well intended ones, and control freaks. i have the misfortune/fortune of working regularly with them and have had a mix of good to horrific experiences. there really are cases where they do rip families apart and when they work along their own agenda. some of them lie, try to control therapy for victims, and actively sabotage family’s chances for getting back together. sometimes they ride high on the power and threaten people. one i have recently been working with has tried to get me fired for speaking up about unethical behavior. that system can be so corrupt. on the other hand, some have saved children’s lives. i wouldnt want to do the job and if i could i would avoid working with that system altogether.
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Name : pissedkitty, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : 1/2 native, 1/2 white, Age : 39, City : Caribou, State : ME, Country : United States, Occupation : psychotherapist, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,i think all comedy is funny. i love all jokes-racial, religious, gender, ect. i am biracial and in an interacial marriage. we watch the black channel and comedy central. i never percieve commedians as being malicious. the jokes are often steriotypical, but they all have a grain of truth in them, too. i think laughing about any differences breaks the ice, increases communication and loosens tension. i also think it increases some level of understanding. i think people have become too politically correct, sesitive or guilt ridden to be natural with their own impulses.
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Name : pissedkitty, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : 1/2 native, 1/2 white, Age : 39, City : Caribou, State : ME, Country : United States, Occupation : psychotherapist, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,men uncut definitely have better sensitivity. i enjoy that a lot more than anything else. i dont buy the health reasons, if youre clean. and i dont think cutting is natural. i have a son who i wouldnt have cut either. i think its barbaric.
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Name : pissedkitty, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : 1/2 native, 1/2 white, Age : 39, City : Caribou, State : ME, Country : United States, Occupation : psychotherapist, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,i feel there is religion, spirituality and then something else. i cant define that last thing but all of the above implies a respect for something outside ourselves. god is really a relative term which more people have made into a human likeness. ‘god’ or the universe or whatever is unlikely to be like a human. maybe it is simply the force of nature, and so there it is: undenyable. i think that its inflexible to say that anyone has to believe in god to be anything. you were raised a christian and you sound like you participate in some of that lifestyle. i think it takes courage and progressive thinking to not limit yourself to other people’s definitions. think for yourself! thats where your truth really is.
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Name : pissedkitty, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : 1/2 native, 1/2 white, Age : 39, City : Caribou, State : ME, Country : United States, Occupation : psychotherapist, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,there are several ways to work with children in psychology. if you do therapy, you would mainly do play therapy and family work. sometimes you would do therapy groups. a job would run 371/2 to 40 hours. you would work a lot with children in state custody and foster homes. you would be required to testify in court. theres a lot of paperwork. if youre really committed and dont take very good care of yourself, you could work a whole lot more. there is also psychological testing, where you would spend several hours with each child/family. if you want to be a therapist, i would recommend social work programs. most insurance companies will pay for sw’s and not psychologists anymore. also people prefer that you generalize. also dont have any illusions that people working in this field are all emotionally healthy. 😀
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Name : pissedkitty, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : 1/2 native, 1/2 white, Age : 39, City : Caribou, State : ME, Country : United States, Occupation : psychotherapist, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
