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Thank you so much for taking the time to answer my question. I think you've made a good argument that black children are more likely to face harsher and more long-lasting consequences than white children if they misbehave in school. And I agree that a very occasional swat on the behind by a supportive, affectionate parent would be one way of making an effective point and would do no harm. (I still strongly prefer non-physical discipline and found it very effective with my kids, but I bet your daughter is a real doll.) I'm just frustrated because many of the kids I see in the inner city where I work are beaten for every infraction, both minor (a little eye-rolling) to major (chair-throwing). The kids who show the most dangerous behavior are always the ones who are beaten the most. These parents think they are disciplining their children and don't seem to recognize when what they are doing is not working. I feel like I'm watching parents unwittingly destroy their own children's lives

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Actually I think this sort of thing happens fairly often. I'm Jewish (though not at all religious) and, at least in three instances I can remember off the top of my head, people in Afghanistan, India and Turkey have told me their people are descendants of the lost tribe of Israel, so they feel a special connection with Jews. I occasionally meet black people in the United States who tell me they have a Jewish relative or ancestor. I don't find it bizarre or irrational, and I don't care whether or not it is true. They are just trying to establish a sense of rapport, connection, fellowship, common ground - whatever. I think it's nice.

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I am impressed with how kind the black people were who responded to your question.

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I don't know about any particular heath care practices amoung orthodox jews, but most 'regular' jews are a very secular group and, when it comes to health care, their 'god' is science. Aside from eating chicken soup, they do what their doctor advises. If there is anything unusual about jewish health care practices, it may be that they delay in seeking medical advise when they are ill. If you complain about your health, you are considered a 'kvetch' (a whiner). You are supposed to keep a stiff upper lip and take care of business.

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At first I was a little annoyed by the assumption in your question. It's perjorative and against the rules of this page, but anyway ... As for whining, maybe you're right in that white women whine more than black women (I know you didn't specify black, but I'm making assumptions, too). Possibly this is because in white culture, it's less acceptable for women to be loud, argumentative or aggressive, so they resort to whining as the lesser of the two evils. Although I don't think white women are more sensitive than any other racial group, I think it's possible that, at times, they could appear so, again because of somewhat different ideas on social interactions. It's my impression that black social interaction allows for a lot more teasing and putdowns than do white interactions. So it's possible that whites do take more offense at what blacks consider harmless banter. But I also find black women to be extremely sensitive and prone to overinterpret the comments or behaviors of whites as racist. I don't know what you mean about white women being more subjective. How so? As for being more emotional, I'd really have to disagree. I think black people, in general, tend to display more emotions than whites. I think it's kind of a white thing to be more cool and distant emotionally.

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