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Maybe it’s because homosexuals only comprise about 5% of the total population. It’s really does not make sense to change a greeting to one that is only appropiate to 5% of the people. You, me and everyone makes assumptions based on the ‘norm’ all the time. Do you keep a wheelchair lift in your car just in case you meet a person in a wheelchair? Should that person be offended because you assumed that no one in your life will be in a wheelchair? If your gay friends see you having lunch with a girl I am sure your friends assume that she is gay. I think assuming someone is straight should not be considered offensive. It’s something that can be fixed in less than a second … ‘no I’m gay.’
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Name : Opal, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, City : Baltimore, State : MD, Country : United States, Occupation : College Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,You have answered your own question. If black Catholics and Episcopalians do not exhibit ‘this behavior,’ then it is not a black thing, it’s a church thing. I grew up as a Catholic, and the first time I went to a Baptist Church I freaked out, even though I’m black. Check out some of your white Southern Baptist people – they are kinda nutty, too. Of course my aunt always said that the person making the most noise at a funeral is the one who hurt the dead person the most.
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Name : Opal, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, City : Baltimore, State : MD, Country : United States, Occupation : College Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,That is a very nice sentiment; however, because the United States is comprised of various ethnic groups that celebrate their heritage instead of assimilating, your method is not feasible. Every child needs a solid base to draw from, and pretending that America is colorblind is idealistic and ridiculous. To the original poster: Buy you child books with African-American characters. I hope you already have a diverse group of friends, because your knowledge and respect of our culture is most important. YOU need to move beyond a superficial knowledge of the world you just entered. You need to teach your child about the collective heritage of his/her group, beyond Martin Luther King Jr. and Colin Powell. I have three friends who were adopted by parents of other races. The well-adjusted adults are those who not only knew who they were, but whose parents were truthful with the child and themselves. I would not recommend raising your child in an all-black or all-white neighborhoods. Most of all, make sure the child has someone who they can talk to about racial issues. Understand that you are not going to know everything and know when to call in the reinforcements. Good luck.
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Name : Opal, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, City : Baltimore, State : MD, Country : United States, Occupation : College Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,NO guy will date you? I find that very hard to believe. I was a size 14 in high school, and there were always guys who wanted to date me; the problem was that I didn’t want to date them. They were the regular guys, and some of them were geeks. There was no way I could be seen with them. I passed them by, waiting for a cute guy to stop chasing beautiful skinny chicks and notice me. It did not happen. Almost everyone tends to be shallow in high school, and unfortunately some people carry it into their adult lives. Try not to fall into the shallow category, and date a guy you normally would not. Not an abusive guy or a freak, but a nice guy who may not have the face of Ricky Martin, but has a good heart. I wish I did.
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Name : Opal, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, City : Baltimore, State : MD, Country : United States, Occupation : College Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Our mothers and grandmothers had to adopt a harsh attitude to survive, and it was passed down to their children. It takes a lot for a woman to cut her son or husband from a tree and keep on living; to be molested or raped day after day and keep living. The problem black men have with the so-called “black woman’s attitude” is in the same vein as the unjustified racism whites had toward other races. Just as I have listened to whites tell me I am not like other black people, I listen to the brothas tell me I am not like other black women. Of course the corporate and upper-middle class brothas will not date me – I am athletic, intelligent, attractive and have a pleasant attitude; however, my nails and hair do not change weekly, and I do not have 150 pair of suits with matching shoes. You know me: I have shoulder-length locks, shun make up, dress casually and sit and listen to you complain about my fellow sistas. I’ve asked you out but you are afraid of how your corporate world will react to a real sista who loves her natural self.
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Name : Opal, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, City : Baltimore, State : MD, Country : United States, Occupation : College Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I don’t think anyone is offended by ‘blue eyed soul’ what offends me is when proper credit is not given. White media and people always say ‘it’s not Black music it’s American music’ and this is not true. We invented it and these other groups copied it. There is nothing wrong with copying a style just acknowledge where it came from.
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Name : Opal, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, City : Baltimore, State : MD, Country : United States, Occupation : College Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think is is more of a southern accent than a Black accent. I live in Baltimore and the whites here are notorious for having the same poor language skills. I am from the west and my parents never allowed me to adopt the pronunciation skills of Bawl-i-mere. I also found that whites in the south, Atlanta and Florida, have the same problem. Maybe White people are more concerned with outward appearences so they work on their linguistics more. I believe most Blacks are more concerned with aquiring the knowledge than correct pronunciation. If those peole are working with you they must have acquired a certain level of intelligence and I am sure they don’t spell ‘ask’ as a-x-e. Jesse Jackson is a very intelligent man but he keeps his accent.
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Name : Opal, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, City : Baltimore, State : MD, Country : United States, Occupation : College Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
