You say she is a new girlfriend, and that when you first met she didn't want to give oral sex at all. Be happy that she's willing to do it now; you have made progress. If this is new to her, she probably needs more time to become comfortable with oral sex before she goes to the next step. Be patient and understanding with her. And find out what she would like you to do that would really turn her on, such as giving her oral sex, a really great massage, sucking on her toes, or whatever she's into. If you give her something she really wants, she will be more likely to give you what you really want. And have a large glass of water next to the bed for her to drink right afterward. Trust me, the aftertaste leaves something to be desired.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, First, I don't believe that most whites don't like blacks, or that most blacks don't like whites. I do think that people have a lack of understanding about other races. This lack of understanding comes from minimal contact and interaction between people of different groups, which ultimately leads to ignorance and fear. Further separating ethnic groups will increase the ignorance and fear, which is detrimental to our counrty as a whole. Besides, what about everybody else? There are many people in this counrty besides black people and white people. We have Latinos, Asians, American Indians, Asian Indians, and Pacific Islanders, to name a few. Where would all of these people belong in a separate-but-equal society? If all people of color were separated from white people, then we would be right back where we were a couple decades ago. Separate but equal didn't work then; why would it work now?
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, I don't know how accurate Don's statistics are regarding California prison populations. Althought the percentage of Latinos in California jails is high, much higher than the percentage of Latinos in the general population, I don't believe that Latinos make up 80 percent of the prison population. But that is not why I take exception to his comments. I take exception to his comments because he implies that Latinos aren't Americans. The majority of Latinos in the United States were either born here, or have become naturalized U.S. citizens; therefore they are Americans. And our prisons are not filled with people from other countries; the vast majority of prison inmates are Americans.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, I think that in the fight to gain equality for women, many people have lost sight of the real goal. Feminism is about freedom of choice. I think it is great when women have the means and desire to stay home with their children. I also think it is great that the CEO of Hewlett Packard, and the commander of the last space shuttle mission are women.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, At least you have a pension. I just graduated a few years ago with a degree in engineering. Nobody I know in my age bracket even has a pension plan. We have 401K plans with skimpy employer contributions. Luckily these plans are transferable when the employee changes companies, because most of us will be downsized several times during our careers. People need to realize that they need to provide for their own retirement income, not rely on their company or the government.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, Women are instinctively very communal - meaning we are naturally very social and look to one another for support. Women rely on each other for emotional help, advice, help with daily chores, etc. This type of closeness forms very strong bonds between women, but it requires the women to be close, not new acquaintances. Women often view women they do not know as threatening, and therefore are cold to them. I don't know if this is instinctual or due to socialization, but women tend to view other women as competition for male attention. I have noticed that in situations where no men are present, women tend to be much more open to women they do not know who are introduced into the group. It definitely takes women longer than men to become friends, but the friendships between women are generally closer than those between men.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, With the exception of those decended from Native American Indians, we are all decended from immigrants. Some of my ancestors were Indians in what is now Mexico, some were Spanish colonists, others came Northern and Eastern Europe. I am a native Californian, some parts of my family have been in California since it belong to Mexico, others have not. It is hypocritical for people who's ancestors immigrated to this country to be anti-immigration. I'm not saying that there shouldn't be laws to regulate immigration. Of course some laws are necessary. I know many immigrants, mostly from Mexico, Central America, and the Philipines, and on the average, these people are the hardest working people I know. Many of them work at jobs picking fruit in the fields or as maintenance people and janitors, jobs that are important, but many natural-born Americans don't want to do because they are hard jobs that don't pay very much. Many immigrants work so hard because they want their children to have the oportunities availible in this country that are not availible in their home counrties.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, This issue of people of color dying their hair blond has definitly sparked a debate. Personally, I think people should be able to dye their hair whatever color they want, it's theirs, they grew it. They can do what they want with it. Several years ago, when I was working at a hardware store, we had a debate over the same issue. One of guys who worked there, who was black, bleached his hair blond. We all thought it looked cool, but managment told him he had to dye it back or shave it off because it was an un-natural color. So all of the natural blonds in the store took exception to this and reminded management that blond was a natural hair color. Management said the guy still had to change his hair back because blond was not a natural color for him. So all of the older women who dye their hair to get rid of the grey went to management and asked if they would also have to let their hair go back to its natural grey also. Management said of course not. So only this guy had to change his hair. We had a little old blue-haired retired lady working there, and she told him to dye it blue like hers. So he did, and the blue-haired lady took him up to management and introduced him as her son, and told them that blue hair ran in their family. Management finally left the issue alone.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, I don't know the exact reason why a hat trick is called a hat trick, but it probably has something to do with the tradition of fans throwing their hats onto the ice when this happens. A hat trick is the only time it is legal to throw anything onto the ice during a hockey game.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, Our society seems obsessed with labeling and categorizing people. Many people are of mixed ethnicity and don't fit into the prescribed categories. The choice is really up to you; you decide how you would like to identify. And, if you don't like the choices, you can always choose "other." That's really where most of us belong anyway.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, I don't know how it is in Rochester, MI, but in California and other Western states, lowriding is very common. It started with Chicanos decades ago. Now it is very common to see people of every background driving fixed up, lowered cars. Why do we do it? Because it looks good, and it's fun. For people who are very serious about lowriding, it is a lifestyle, not just a hobby. Personally, I don't care for the small rims that stick way out from the side of the car, but that's just my opinion. Unfortunately, some people don't take some things into consideration before lowering a car or putting on custom rims, such as how the performance of the car will be affected.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, I think that everybody should stop playing the blame game, and accept the fact that racism does exist in this country - as well as almost everywhere else in the world. I don't mean that racism is right or should be tolerated, we need to figure out how to succeed in the society in which we live, and minimize the effects of racism. The reality is that no matter how many social, economic, and political advances are made, some people will still be racist, sexist, etc. And racism isn't just white people discriminating against everybody else, every ethnic group has racists. I believe that people are affected by their environment, but we are ultimately responsible for our own actions, and our own destiny. We do need support from those around us to help us figure out what our goals are and how achieve them. In my own experience, I came from a working-class family without a lot of money. I started working when I was 11 years old, but my mom made sure I did well in school and stayed out of trouble. I eventually went to college and became an engineer. I could not have done this without the support of my family - they helped me make my goals and stay motivated to reach them.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, Thank you for putting my thoughts into words. I was trying to think of a way to explain my thoughts on the issue of race, oportunity and racism, but I could not find the words I wanted. Your explanation was right on the mark.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, Ethinic cleansing definitely happened in North America. The continent was populated by many different societies of people commonly refered to as Native Americans. After Europeans came to the continent, most of these societies were wiped out. The majority of the people who immigrated to the continent did not have the intention of wiping out entire groups of people. But the British governement definitely had the intention of wiping people out to make room for its own people. After the United States was formed, Manifest Destiny became government policy. Manifest Destiny basically said that the people of the United States had a God-given right to steal the continent from the Native Americans. The Indian wars were about nothing more than killing the Native Americans and taking their land.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, I don't think that differences in prices for women's and men's products is sexism. Things are priced with regard to what the market will bare. Manufacturers and people providing services want to make a good profit. This means they charge what people will pay. Most men will not pay $50 for a hair cut, but women will. Just as women will pay higher prices at the dry cleaners than men will. If a dry cleaner charged too much for men's shirts, most men would just throw the clothes in the washer and take their chances rather than paying the higher price. It all comes down to how people prioritize things. Hair, cosmetics, clothes, etc. are generally more important to women than men, so women are willing to pay higher prices for the same things.
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Name : Lucy H, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Hispanic/Latino (may be any race), Age : 24, City : San Jose, State : CA Country : United States, Occupation : Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 
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