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Not to be cynical, but no one wants to be seen as a racist these days, especially Caucasians. White parents, or any parents, would try to raise their children as egalitarian, because that seems to be the moral and right thing to do. But that doesn’t mean that they really feel egalitarian, if they were put to the test. I’m an Asian male. Whenever I ask white females if they would date an Asian man, they almost always say ‘sure.’ When I set them up with one, they curiously always cancel at the last minute. Parents are no exception. Nobody wants to be an object of reprimand.
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Name : Dave, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Age : 27, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Clerk, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Crystal, I agree with John from Toronto. I live in Chicago, and there certainly are many personal ads in my area by Asian men. Tons. There is no barrier culturally for Asian men to use personal ads. The problem is geography. You, Crystal, live in San Francisco, where the Asian population is large and it’s easy for an Asian man to find love without ads. In my area (Chicago) Asians are a minority of minorities, one of the smallest in the region. I have a better chance of being struck by lightning than getting a date with a white female, or any attractive female selective about her dates. Thus, many Asian men here post ads.
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Name : Dave, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Age : 27, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Clerk, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I was a sophomore in high school in California. My social studies class had a peer assignment, and we had to form teams to complete it. My friends and I decided to get together to do the assignment – we were all of East Asian descent, although from different regions of East Asia. One weekend, we met at a round table of the local public library. Across the room, I noticed a certain Caucasian female – she was one of the more popular girls in our school. As my friends and I were working, she walked over to the round table where we were, leaned her head forward toward the center of the table to look at all of us, and said, ‘You know, we chinks have got to stick together.’ And she walked away giggling, looking back at her girlfriend, who was also giggling. We were all upset. But it was common knowledge among the racially-‘disenfranchised’ students that 1) school administrators would do nothing, 2) the girl would simply deny everything and 3) she probably learned her ideas from her parents – and this school was in a predominantly upper-middle class white community. My worst experience did not come from a white man, but rather, from a white woman.
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Name : Dave, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Age : 27, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Clerk, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I’m interested in knowing more about this study you mentioned. Do you know where I can get that information?
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Name : Dave, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Age : 27, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Clerk, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The ladies’ responses make sense, but men’s experiences don’t rhyme. I’m 26, and so is the original poster. Perhaps to a mature, sexually-aware woman, size is a matter of individuality. At my age, and for most younger men trying to date women of their age, size is all important. Young women talk about size, compare it, and date men based on rumors of each man’s size. That’s the truth.
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Name : Dave, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Age : 27, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Clerk, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,In relation to this topic of adoption, is it the impression of many white Americans that China is some sort of sexist country that values its males over its females? That seems to be the tone of the responses in reply to my original one. Let me posture this point — considering the sexism and racial prejudices that still exist in America, why is it that so many American citizens would consider it ’embarrassing’ to have their own children adopted by foreign families? Do you all have any idea how arrogant it is to accuse another country of evils when your own country has just as many, if not more?
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Name : Dave, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Age : 27, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Clerk, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,You are correct about everything you posted, Laura. Which is why, if an all black family adopted a little Caucasian girl, nobody would be saying, ‘there’s that white girl learning those black mannerisms.’ Indeed, there would be no criticism, according to your logic, for a foreign family from China to actually adopt an American! Right? After all, we’re helping the children.
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Name : Dave, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Age : 27, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Law Clerk, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
