[Craig E.]

By using the word ‘girls’ I will assume we’re talking high school age. This is probably the most status-conscious time of human life. It’s an irony: after how much of this time is spent questioning the powers that be, we spend as much if not more imposing the same kind of pressures we are supposedly rebelling against. Women are very much in competition with one another – clothes, men, social circles, etc. It’s the underlying logic for the adage ‘Behind every successful man is a woman’.

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Name : Craig E., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 35, City : Tampa, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Cust Svc. Rep, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, 

[Craig E.]

Hey Kids: I’d like to first start with a basic definition, just so we’re on the same wave length about what we say and what we mean. Within the GLBT community, the first three deal with sexual orientation (the type of person we find sexually attractive) while the last one deals with gender identity (i.e. the synchronization between one’s ‘mental gender’ and your actual physical body). There were a couple of bang-up responses so far, so I think we all undestand a guy who is simply dressing in feminine clothes (or the reverse, which seems to be an ignored topic) is different from a transexual. In essence, a transexual is a person ‘born into the wrong body’. Their feelings and attitudes are reflective of the oppostie gender, their habits cross gender lines; many times, they feel like an alien inhabiting the wrong body. A male dating a male-to-female transexual in this case is therefore a heterosexual relationship. The person you are atrracted to (assuming they are transexual and not a transvestite/ drag queen/ CD) *is* a woman. The problem comes in the *perception* of the situation. Transexuals are commonly *perceived* as emasculated males when they are not males at all. Because of this perception, men tend to become very insecure, doubtful of their own masculinity (a very important matter for all men), and commonly lash out at transexuals because for fear of, quite frankly, looking like a pansy. I know this because I have dated transexuals for several years. I am the only male I know that brings the matter public. I am the only male my TG friends know that does this. The people at my workplace know, my friends know, my family knows. The statistics of murdered transexuals is frightening and appalling. And it comes down to the fact that most don’t understand the process of what transexual individuals must endure to make themselves feel right. Now there’s a whole gamut of opinions that Tg’s hold about what they must do, but there is always one constant: they want to be normal. It is a paradox; people going through what is an extreme change making this statement. But it is the very motivation to go through the change. Dating a transexual in itself is fine, but it does mean fighting a lot of stereotypes, and that means having courage.

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Name : Craig E., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 35, City : Tampa, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Cust Svc. Rep, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, 

[Craig E.]

In no particular order… Men: 1 WM, 35, oral, 69, handjob. Women: 3 WF’s, 20’s, oral, handjobs, toys, viewed pornography together, foreplay, roleplay, vaginal sex (various positions). MTF Transexuals: 4 WF’s (2 pre-op, 1 post-op, 1 partner both before and after surgery), Foreplay, watching pornography, vaginal sex, anal sex, B&D, oral, handjobs, showers together, rim job. In all cases, I am Top. I’m not concerned with the number. I became sexually active at 18, with activity coming in ‘bursts’, 3 months ‘on’, 2 months ‘off’, etc. Most of it was just dealing with the circumstance; either we were dating and it was a natural outgrowth of that relationship, or we just knew each other and wanted to take the edge off. How I deal with the situation is different for each. But I always make it clear my level of committment to them and whether this was a casual thing or if we were an item. Though honestly, if we were an item, that was well established before the bedroom ever became a concern. My basic 2 rules through all of them was thus: I’ll never do anything to you I wouldn’t want done to myself (any caveat clearly explained- I’m hairy down there, so giving me a rim job is just plain nasty and I’d never force anyone to do that to me). Also, you have the right to say ‘no’. Just tell me what you like. Some girls were into degradation. Don’t get it myself, but one girl was super submissive and like being called, well, not nice stuff. I wouldn’t dare to do that for any amount of money, but that was the request. Some things that happen behind closed doors gets real surreal. Oh yeah, I went to an orgy once in Finland. *That* was really surreal. I’m talking with a woman- basic stuff; how was the flight, how do you like Finland, glad you could make it, etc. Only difference was her 6’8′ husband is pounding her back end the entire time. No oohs and ahhs, no dirty language, nothing. Just a normal conversation while they’re knocking boots. Only found one T-girl I wanted to have fun with, but she didn’t dig guys. Oh well.

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Name : Craig E., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 35, City : Tampa, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : Cust Svc. Rep, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, 

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