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First of all, let me tell you that the thick gold jewelry you see the ‘welfare moms’ wearing is not even near high quality. If you ever stop by a local jewelry store, you’ll find out that even most teenage McDonald’s workers can afford that stuff. And, Nike apparel isn’t expensive, either. In fact, a thrifty person (like myself) can cut department store coupons and wait for sales and get Nike and Tommy Hilfiger and Ralph Lauren clothing for the same price as clothes from Target or Wal-Mart. I used to receive food stamps. I was a single mother diagnosed with Lupus. Therefore, despite the fact that I come from a two-parent, hard-working family, I could not work, and I had to accept help from the government. I never felt bad about it because I knew this was the reason I had paid taxes as a teenager working for very little money. My tax dollars were there to work for me in my time of need in the form of food stamps. Just because I qualified for food stamps, I saw no need to let my child look uncared-for. Nike is not expensive. Prada is expensive. 12 karat gold jewelry is not expensive. Platinum is expensive. I’m pretty glad that when I work and tax dollars are taken out of it, some mother will now be able to afford to dress her child neatly and nicely because she doesn’t have to make them wear cheap, ill-sized shoes or low-quality clothing just to have fresh fruit and an occasional bag of cookies in her fridge. And if she can manage to get something nice for herself, then that’s good, too, because if she feels like she looks nice and if she enjoys having nice things, then it might give her something to aspire to so she can afford more nice things.
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Name : C. Phillips, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : lupus, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : university student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,If the only males you see glorified are those who exhibit aggression, then (if you are a male) you will likely emulate that example. The images that black males have to imitate from our culture are not likely to be kind, sensitive and compassionate toward women. They get positive feedback for aggression. Rap stars, sports stars and movie stars are all likely to fit the same profile of aggressiveness. It would help if we provided black males with positive role models, but in order to do that, we as a society of blacks and non-blacks have to value the non-aggressive black males over the aggressive ones, and show the next generations that aggression will not result in positive feedback.
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Name : C. Phillips, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : lupus, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : university student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Well, mostly African-Americans in my family’s income bracket don’t even get acknowledged in literature. To be sure, there are more non-white characters in American literature than ever before but for the most part almost all African-Americans characters are dirt poor and subjected to condescending model minority stereotypes. I wish that some serious author would do a better job of portraying life for African-Americans that come from two-parent home-owning households. It’s a minor gripe for me though.
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Name : C. Phillips, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : lupus, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : university student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It is not the case that blacks across class lines are more irresponsible than other groups of the same socioeconomic standing, if one defines sexual irresponsibility as engaging in unprotected sex. The problem of unplanned births mostly affects poorer blacks, whites, Asians and Latinas. People of all colors with more money are more likely to use birth control or have abortions in order to prevent ‘the baby daddy’ situation.
What is viewed as irresponsible may actually just be visibility. Because of religious beliefs or lack of social stigma, many black women choose to carry a child to term rather than abort. This is viewed as more responsible than killing a fetus. Poorer women are more likely to not have adequate education or availability to obtain birth control than affluent women, so they continue to have children. Abortions aren’t free, and neither is birth control. If you are impoverished, unprotected sex is about the only thing you can definitely get without money.
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Name : C. Phillips, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : lupus, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : university student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Most slaves came from West Africa. Islam was and has remained mostly in North Africa. Sure a few slaves might have been muslim but historical proof here and in Africa shows that they mostly followed tribal religions.
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Name : C. Phillips, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : lupus, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : university student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Muslim men may marry Jewish, Christian, or Muslim women but Muslim women are only allowed to marry Muslim men. For an interesting side note: Mohammed (the greatest Islamic prophet) was even married to a Coptic christian woman by the name of Mary.
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Name : C. Phillips, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : lupus, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : university student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Slaves were given the leftovers to make meals from so such meals often contained a wide variety of foods. This led to some very tasty recipes being formed. The term ‘put her big toe in it’ meant that it was one of those unexpected delights.
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Name : C. Phillips, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : lupus, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : university student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Depending on where you are, the colors of those considered as ‘white’ can vary greatly. In America this term is used in many different ways. It tends to be applied to the most pale-skinned of any general community even though none are truly white.
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Name : C. Phillips, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : lupus, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : university student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,What is deemed appropriate in a particular social setting depends on culture. If a particular group of black women were loud at a rock concert it would not be perceived negatively because this is considered acceptable by those likely to be around them. The problem comes when people come from cultures that have different ideas about when to be loud or quiet. Each group is likely to be percieved negatively by members of the other group. About pointing out foibles… This too is simply a difference in culture. If one were to travel to certain parts of the world, one might be surprised to find that people there feel no embarrassment even when asked questions that Americans would find intensely private. These differences are social glues, that identifying people as members of social groups. It has little to do with deep-seated hatred or a desire to physically confront some one.
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Name : C. Phillips, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : lupus, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : university student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Given the period at which Kennedy lived, his civil rights efforts are great accomplishments. Kennedy was not let off the hook by blacks but instead, his actions to help are weighed more heavily given the social climate. Also, one who helps (even a little bit) when it is a great struggle tends to be looked at more favorably than one who helps a little bit when they could easily have done more.
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Name : C. Phillips, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : lupus, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : university student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Well, if the store would have decided to put on sale plantains or gourds I doubt it would have been a problem. Those are actually a part of African heritage. Blacks didn’t bring fried chicken to our culture and most people just think so because of the purposely offensive portrayal of blacks in the media (in the past). It’s akin to me putting those undershirts (commonly referred to as ‘wife-beaters) on sale for Italiano Week at home. It’s not about political correctness; it’s about accurate portrayal and attribution of cultural contributions.
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Name : C. Phillips, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : lupus, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : university student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,When you wear baggy pants, you soon learn that only by holding the crotch can you keep your buns from showing. Holding them by the belt loops makes it look like you’re tip-toeing. Baggy pants are ‘the style’ these days and belts are considered for the ‘old folks’. Some women love it and this is nothing new. Remember ‘Elvis the Pelvis’?
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Name : C. Phillips, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : lupus, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : university student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Many of the names are associated with middle eastern and African names (Aaliyah is a good example of this). Also, there seems to be less stigma associated with unique names in black communities. Black men do have a wider variety of names than what is commonly seen amongst whites. Have you ever met a guy named Naseer or Khalil or Jarobi or Ola? Well, if you ever hear one of those names the person is probably black or African and probably (if African-American) they were born after the 60’s civil rights movement when more blacks started giving children more African or African-sounding names.
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Name : C. Phillips, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : lupus, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : university student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It’s akin to how you see Catholics walking with ashes on their foreheads all day on ‘Ash Wednesday’. The people that you see with red dots are not necessarily Indian and not all Indian women wear it. It is a Hindu observance and identifier. Muslim and Christian Indian women do not wear the dot.
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Name : C. Phillips, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : lupus, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : New Orleans, State : LA, Country : United States, Occupation : university student, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
