[Brian N.]

The gay community is like the straight community – we have a wide range of preferences. While there are gays and lesbians who dress in fashions stereotypical of the opposite gender, they are by no means the majority. As a young gay man, I cannot answer for my brothers who dress in effeminate attire or perform as drag queens. It’s never been my thing, but I respect their choice and admire them for their bravery in being true to themselves in a society that for some reason is still rigid about ideas concerning gender and sex.

Keep in mind that drag does not necessarily equate to dressing in the fashion of the opposite gender, or to homosexuality. There are straight men who are female impersonators, and there are straight women who are male impersonators. Some would also say that hypermasculinity is also a form of drag – that those gay men whose masculine attire is too meticulous and ‘unnatural’ (in the sense that the shirt and jeans were not just thrown on from a random pile in the closet, but were selected specifically for their tight fit) are in drag. Finally, remember that just as there are lesbians who feel more comfortable dressing ‘butch,’ there are lesbians who are attracted to this look. It’s just a matter of taste.

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Name : Brian N., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : Biracial - asian/euro, Religion : Catholic, Age : 23, City : Cincinnati, State : OH, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, 

[Brian N.]

After reading the comments made, i have to agree with half the respondents when pointing out that gay relationships are not the norm. And by norm, i mean majority of the population. Gays statistically account for 3-10% of the general population. Kristina and Doug are right – its gonna take time before gender neutral names are used – i.e. partner. Until then, you gotta just deal. Maybe its cuz i grew up being maybe one of a handful of biracial kids – even smaller if you look at east-asian/euro biracial kids – and i’ve learned that you can’t have the victim complex. Yes, Paulette, it really sucks that you probably will have to correct people for the rest of your life when they ask about your husband. But just think, you are able to correct them now. We finally live in an age where there are gay identities and communities. 50 years ago, people consider themselves gay. They just slept with someone of the same sex. Now, (hopefully) you can live publicly with the love of your life, be it male or female. And hopefully in another couple generations, society will have progressed.

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Name : Brian N., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : Biracial - asian/euro, Religion : Catholic, Age : 23, City : Cincinnati, State : OH, Country : United States, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class, 

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