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Bob, just a response to your comment, ‘In reality, black folk are NOT colored; they have one color, generally.’ Have you ever heard of the idea that people cannot identify physical difference in a peoples outside their own race? This is essentially the ‘all black people look alike’ theory. You are right to say that there is tremendous physical variation in ‘white people,’ but please, open your eyes to the equally stunning variation seen within other populations of the world. I understand this may be difficult for you at first, but if you don’t, you will miss out on a lot of beautiful ‘color’ in the world. And just for the record, according to the rest of the (non-human) world, we humans all look alike – scientifically speaking, we have the least genetic variation within the species than most animals on the planet – we are genetic babies in evolutionary terms.
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Name : Brenda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : European-American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 23, City : Pittsburgh, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Intern, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Dave, your comment that ‘The majority of slaves were not captured by whites, but purchased from black Africans. Do you extend your hate to black Africans as well as white people?’ is not really telling the whole truth. These Africans that you refer to who sold slaves to Europeans were not selling them into the lives that these people eventually faced. You have to understand that slavery at this time and in this part of the world (as in other cases around the world) was nowhere near the level of physical, mental and emotional brutality as it was here in the Americas. In some cases, slaves in Africa (and there is evidence for this in several Native American civilizations) were treated just as well as the members of the society they were in – assimilated into the culture and by all means treated as human beings, which is much more than you can say for the ancestors of African Americans. So no, Africans are not ‘at fault’ for this tragedy. Secondly, while you or I have perhaps not used a derogatory term about African Americans or expressed outward hate toward them, we still inherit our fathers’ and mothers’ legacies. You have to understand something: we are not bad people for our history, nor can we do anything to change it. However, you MUST take it upon yourself to take responsibility for yourself today – and it goes far beyond day-to-day stuff. Taking responsibility for our ancestors’ actions is our burden. The first step is admitting you are connected to this history simply because you have been born from and within it. To deny this connectedness is to take part in the ongoing proliferation of hate.
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Name : Brenda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : European-American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 23, City : Pittsburgh, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Intern, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am responding to this part of your posting in particular: ‘Because of this, many guys go out of their way to choose white women as partners, yet will deny it by stating they ‘just happened’ to fall for someone who ‘happened’ to be white. While there are those who are truly in love with the person they are with, the majority of the time this is not the case, though no one will ever admit it.’ Although I will agree with you that white women are glorified in this country, I think it is quite arrogant of you to assume you know the motivations behind any ‘majority’ of people, because you don’t. No one does. Your assumption may or may not be correct and you should recognize that. ‘My interpretation may be wrong, but it sounds as though you are saying that you date white women exclusively. If so, why? Indian women are absolutely gorgeous. If you look back into your own dating history, have the majority of the women you have dated been white? If so, yu need to ask yourself why.’ In addition, just because one’s preference in who one dates seems to point to one type of physical characteristics or another really just means that – a preference. Try not to look any deeper into it. Asking why someone prefers something is absurd – would you ask me why I prefer to eat corn versus beans? no. It’s because I just do. I understand that there is a possiblity that people seek out one or the other for a statement or something, but give people the benefit of the doubt.
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Name : Brenda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : European-American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 23, City : Pittsburgh, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Intern, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I have been dating an African-American male for three years. Marriage for us is definitely a topic of conversation, and so naturally we do a lot of talking about children. Of course, I think it is really a whole different ball game when discussing multiracial children, but the bottom line is that I would not encourage or discourage my children from dating someone other than their own ethnicity. For me, the experience has been both incredibly rewarding and painful (due to society’s views). Basically, if my daughter or son came to me with this issue, I would never discourage them, but help them understand the realities of their situation so they may deal with the inevitable resistance they may face from society.
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Name : Brenda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : European-American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 23, City : Pittsburgh, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Intern, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I am responding to this part of your posting in particular: “Because of this, many guys go out of their way to choose white women as partners, yet will deny it by stating they ‘just happened’ to fall for someone who ‘happened’ to be white. While there are those who are truly in love with the person they are with, the majority of the time this is not the case, though no one will ever admit it.”
Although I agree with you that white women are glorified in this country, I think it is quite arrogant of you to assume you know the motivations behind any ‘majority’ of people, because you don’t. No one does. Your assumption may or may not be correct, and you should recognize that.
My interpretation may be wrong, but it sounds as though you are saying you date white women exclusively. If so, why? Indian women are absolutely gorgeous. If you look back into your own dating history, have the majority of the women you have dated been white? If so, you need to ask yourself why.
In addition, just because one’s preference for who one dates seems to point to one type of physical characteristic or another means just that – a preference. Try not to look any deeper into it. Asking why someone prefers something is absurd – would you ask me why I prefer to eat corn vs. beans? No. It’s because I just do. I understand there is a possiblity that people seek out one or the other for a statement or something, but give people the benefit of the doubt.
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Name : Brenda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : European-American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 23, City : Pittsburgh, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Intern, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Jennifer, thank you very much for your posting. You said everything to that yahoo that I would have liked to, but couldn’t quite put into words. I would also like to apologize for their ignorance, and mine, for that matter. We ‘white people’ are all still very ignorant of our own privilege, but some of us are trying very hard to understand what that means. I have committed myself to understanding this thing called racism and how to dismantle it – first within myself and then society. I just wanted you to know that this person and others alike do not speak for all of us. I am sure this is a pretty lame posting, but I felt I had to say something – why is it that those oppressed seem to be the only voices of defense we hear sometimes? Please, stand up with your fellow sisters and brothers and erase the hate.
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Name : Brenda, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : European-American, Religion : Catholic, Age : 23, City : Pittsburgh, State : PA, Country : United States, Occupation : Intern, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
