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- Whatever the facts of the matter, female promiscuity is one of those things most ethnic groups accuse other groups of. The English always said Irish women were easier. Protestants have often said the same of Catholics (and vice-versa). Whites think black women are 'bad' (and vice-versa) it's another reason to sneer at 'them'. As a corollary, girls may be more cautious about letting the boys in their own community and especially family know what they are up to as they don't want to be accused of giving people an excuse to gossip. Male promiscuity, on the other hand is something to brag about, so most men of ethnic groups like to think 'we' do it more and better than 'them'. The actual facts may, of course have nothing to do with it.
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Name : Adrian Petyt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 36, City : Hong Kong, State : NA Country : China, Occupation : Drama/Writing teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,White people have lipid stores, too, just mostly around the middle!User Detail :
Name : Adrian Petyt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 36, City : Hong Kong, State : NA Country : China, Occupation : Drama/Writing teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Actually The Authorised Version, like the plays of Shakespeare, is in early modern English, Old English was the language of the ancient Anglo Saxon tribes and would seem like archaic German to a modern listener. As to the translation of Hebrew and Greek in the Bible, it was of varying accuracy. The commandment 'Thou shalt not kill' is more precisely rendered 'thou shalt not commit murder' (i.e. kill another person for your own personal reasons). That killing in the name of God is not forbidden is made very plain in that as soon as Moses came down the mountain with his tablets and found people worshipping an idol he had the Levites 'put their swords by their sides' and slay 'every man his neighbour' to the tune of some 3000 misguided folks. Moses gave no sign of feeling he'd broken a commandment.User Detail :
Name : Adrian Petyt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 36, City : Hong Kong, State : NA Country : China, Occupation : Drama/Writing teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Not exactly on the point but an anecdote that may be of interest. During the 19th Century the Royal mint issued a new design of florin (two shilling piece) which showed the monarch's head and the words Victoria Regina (Queen Victoria) As all other coins of the time said Victoria Deu Gratia Regina (Victoria, Queen by the grace of God) ministers were outraged and many people would not handle the 'godless florins'. Years later in the mid 20th British money was decimalised and everyone was so busy trying to work out what prices in new pence were equivalent to in shillings and old pence that they didn't notice that the word 'god' did not appear on the new coins in English or Latin. If people want to get rid of the IGWT on money, maybe they should wait till there's a need to reorganise the whole currency or to radically redesign the bills for some other reason. :)User Detail :
Name : Adrian Petyt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 36, City : Hong Kong, State : NA Country : China, Occupation : Drama/Writing teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I grew up in a Christian home in largely Godless England and I know that I was teased mercilessly for joining in prayers in assembly (yes, we still had school prayer), for having Bible quotes in an old notebook etc. In the UK it's simply that most people have no religious views at all (they aren't even 'atheist' in terms of a philosophy or conviction, they just never think about it) so religious people are 'different'. Also teenagers see religious youths as goody-goodies and religion as something teachers force on you (by school prayer) so it's cool to be nasty to the religious. I really couldn't say whether these factors are responsible for your experience, but I doubt teenagers are all that different in the USA. For myself, since coming to question much of what I was brought up to believe, I have found the attitudes of some Christians, especially bigots and the Kent Hovind type word-twisting pseudo scientists very aggravating. However I don't hate Christians in general, nor do I fieel any need to vandalise anybody's car.User Detail :
Name : Adrian Petyt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 36, City : Hong Kong, State : NA Country : China, Occupation : Drama/Writing teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,As a white Britisher I have noticed that a lot of my compatriots "know" that black people can't swim and offer surreal explanations ranging from "Their bones are too heavy" to "They have the wrong kind of ankle joints" (who uses his ankles to swim?). I suspect the reason a large percentage of people in the black community don't swim is simple: in my generation (growing up in the '70s) there was a big campaign to get people to learn to swim, and most of us did, but if you were black in Britain then, you were part of a fairly new community, heavily outnumbered and faced prejudice. Going to a public swimming pool where you would be half-naked and surrounded by strangers would be stressful, so many blacks of my generation likely can't swim because they didn't learn as kids. In the United States a lot of public beaches and pools remained 'Whites Only' till at least the '70s, so perhaps the phenomenon is even more pronounced there. Black fisherman on the African coast and in the West Indies don't seem very scared of the sea, do they? (But what does a white guy know, anyway?)User Detail :
Name : Adrian Petyt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 36, City : Hong Kong, State : NA Country : China, Occupation : Drama/Writing teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,For what it's worth there was a bit of a split in tradition between the British and American wings of the Friends. Some American congregations have sermons and other 'normal' religious trappings whereas nearly all British meetings are of the Silent Friends tradition. Members sit silently until they feel moved to speak. Formerly this meant they believed the Holy Spirit was speaking through them, nowadays it's more likely they've had an idea they'd like to share. The person stands, says their piece, then sits in silence again. Some weeks nobody says a thing all meeting, a very odd feeling. No hymns, no lesson, nothing. Just prayer and meditation until someone decides to address the house. It's very restful and a good opportunity to think about life, even if you're not a believer.User Detail :
Name : Adrian Petyt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 36, City : Hong Kong, State : NA Country : China, Occupation : Drama/Writing teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I think you'd enjoy a book called 'The meaning of Liff', it's full of silly words (usually English place names) given definitions of things that currently have no name. One such is 'Sturry,' defined as 'A token run; a pedestrian crossing a road who sees a car coming gives a cheery wave and breaks into a sturry. Net effect on speed across the road: nil.' Actually I think it's a courtesy gesture; they are letting you see that they are aware that they have held you up. Think of it as an apology for getting in your way.User Detail :
Name : Adrian Petyt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 36, City : Hong Kong, State : NA Country : China, Occupation : Drama/Writing teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,If you think it's only a Mexican thing you should see the collection of Brits, Aussies and Kiwis I associate with on Sundays.User Detail :
Name : Adrian Petyt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 36, City : Hong Kong, State : NA Country : China, Occupation : Drama/Writing teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,You're kidding, right? Would there be any need for a forum like this one if people just got along? Yes there's still racism. It was probably worse in my day I'm a decade older than you are, but I know the attitudes that my fellow whites expressed when I was at school haven't vanished. Nor, I'm sorry to say has the awkwardness felt by more liberal whites, like myself, in discussing such things with black people, unless we've known them for years. That's why the whole 'lets discuss it in the anonymity of cyberspace' idea occurred to the guys who run this site.User Detail :
Name : Adrian Petyt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 36, City : Hong Kong, State : NA Country : China, Occupation : Drama/Writing teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I can tell you from first hand experience that there's nothing particularly great about being white. We get depressed, self-hating, hung-up and all the rest of it. I have a happy enough life, but I can't say it would be any different if I were some other colour or race. I can't imagine changing and I wouldn't ask anyone else to change to be like me. Say I suddenly decided to 'become' left-handed because so many talented and creative people were southpaws and I feel more affinity for Leonardo da Vinci than for my right-handed relatives. You'd think I was stupid, yes? I'd be better off developing my creative skills then trying to use my off-hand. Get on with what makes you happy. Be all you can be. You wouldn't automatically be any happier white.User Detail :
Name : Adrian Petyt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 36, City : Hong Kong, State : NA Country : China, Occupation : Drama/Writing teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Joann, one reason to blame white people is that Hollywood and the fashion industry constantly hold up certain standards of 'perfection', and , as most of their paying customers are white, it tends to be a white standard. Of course black people shouldn't buy into it, but lots of white people are influenced by the media and culture at large, why not other groups. Rhonda, I agree with you entirely. I'm a straight white guy and I always find a black woman, or an Indian, Chinese or Philippine woman far more attractive if she looks like a healthy member of her own race than if she's messed herself about turning herself into a second-rate copy of a white girl. It's not just a black thing either. I live in Hong Kong and so many of the Chines women have similar hangups. They pay people to take sharp implements to their eyelids! Stupid. I mean when was the last time you heard a man say, 'Fwoar! Look at the eyelids on her!' ? And do-it-yourself Micheal Jackson kits for acid burning the skin to a chalky whiteness are really popular. Swarthy Chinese women are often afraid they'll look like Filipinas, you see, and Filipinas are mostly servants here, and as a result get a lot of the same attitudes that Black 'help' traditionally get in the US, i.e. they are simultaneously called lazy and dirty and and trusted to do all the cleaning up and work all hours. So naturally fashionable women dread looking like them. Maybe somewhere in the world there are a community who don't feel the need to look down on anybody, but I haven't met them yet, I'm sorry to say.User Detail :
Name : Adrian Petyt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 36, City : Hong Kong, State : NA Country : China, Occupation : Drama/Writing teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,They naturally assume you can't jump.User Detail :
Name : Adrian Petyt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 36, City : Hong Kong, State : NA Country : China, Occupation : Drama/Writing teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I'm a straight white male and I can only speak for myself but I'm not threatened by educated people, male or female, black or white, straight, gay or bi. Unless of course a particular educated individual behaves in a directly threatening manner. In that case it's his/her behaviour I am threatened by, not race, orientation or whatever. You want a job where I work and you become my boss? No problem as long as you do a good job. I'm sorry to hear that many of the white people you've met have different attitudes from me.User Detail :
Name : Adrian Petyt, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 36, City : Hong Kong, State : NA Country : China, Occupation : Drama/Writing teacher, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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