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I would venture to guess that if he’s watching porn perhaps there’s something he’s not getting in bed. Has he asked for something and you dismiss it because you think it perverted/disgusting ? You say your sex life is great but maybe that’s just you’re opinion – have you asked him ? Another thing to be aware of and I notice this about women is that my girlfreind tells me I never ask for sex – I tell her that I do but that she’s always tired or doing something else. What you have here is a person who thinks they’re listening but not really. Tap into what he’s asking you – try it for a week – a month and write it down on a 3×5 card and look at it after a month. I think you’ll be surprised.
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Name : Andrew, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 47, City : Parker, State : CO, Country : United States, Occupation : Information Technology, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I have a good sexual relationship with my wife but still utilize porn as a part of my sex life. My wife is aware that I use it but part of the ‘thrill’ for me is hiding my usage from her. I don’t hide the materials . . . I am just secretive when I watch them. I don’t believe I would stop if she wanted me to. I am certain that while she may not utilize porn, masturbation and fantasy are a part of her sex life that I am not involved in. I believe it is simply impossible to have all of your desires filled by your spouse.
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Name : Jeff B., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 28, City : Las Vegas, State : NV, Country : United States, Occupation : CPA, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Ah yes, guys and porn. My future husband loves to surf porn, and when we first got together I would look at it with him although I didn’t get ‘turned on’ by it. We too have a great sex life, and he never compares me to the girls in the videos. So I don’t have a problem with it. I no longer watch it with him – but when he comes to bed after surfing for a while I know it is me that he wants, not these imaginary women, so no one is being harmed. In fact it enhances our lovemaking. I have seen research that shows that men really respond to visual stimulation – ie, magazines, videos and strip shows – but it certainly doesn’t mean that they want to sleep with those women. If you are secure in your relationship with your partner, I would let it go – otherwise he may feel obligated to hide it, which would create a bigger rift in your relationship than an understanding that he can look but not touch (and that you don’t even want to look). Believe me, he will love you all the more for it!
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Name : Samantha, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 36, City : Woodstock, State : NA, Country : Canada, Occupation : Secretary, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I can’t answer that because I have a very healthy sex life and am very happy with my partner of 7 years and would never cheat on her or compromise our relationship but when it comes to porn I only spend probably an hour a week viewing it though for some unknown reason i can’t seem to get away from that hour.
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Name : Jonathan, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Baptist, Age : 30, City : El Dorado, State : AR, Country : United States, Occupation : cabinet maker, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Scary message. Question is if you have a ‘great sexual relationship’ why does your partner need to view pornos alone or with you? Does he get more ‘turned on’ looking at videos than he gets from being with you? Sorry but it seems to me something is amiss here. Either the relationship isn’t as great — sexually or otherwise — as you think or he’s looking for ways or ideas from the videos for you and he to try out to ‘spice’ up the relationship. That being said, after I viewed one video with multiple vignettes, not much learning occurred after the first man/woman, man/two women, woman/woman, and two men/one woman. They all tended to have the same music and sexual acts. If you’ve ‘done it all’ I’d say it shouldn’t be too hard for your guy to give up the videos for the ‘real’ thing. If he can’t, what are you prepared to do?
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Name : Jerry-D30950, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 60, City : Marco Island, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : retired, prof of psych, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,No, probably not. It would bother her for me to look at it and it would bother me to not be able to look at it. I would definitely cut down on how much I looked at though. I never used porn as a substitute for sex. I don’t have a good enough imagination or supply of LSD for that to work. I just used it for the fun of itself. The same way that just because I enjoyed sex doesn’t mean that I would want to swear of oral sex. I do however understand you complaint and I sympathize, but I would never ask a partner to stop fantasizing about Johnny Depp or Brad Pitt. I think that this is similar. That is just my opinion though and is probably not representative of most men.
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Name : DanielPfalmer, Gender : Male, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 22, City : Fairbanks, State : AK, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Lower middle class,YOu are wrong to assume that women “in shape” always make better lovers & that fat women can’t perform well in bed. Aside from the physical aspect of “performing,” what makes a a good lover in and out of bed is someone who is unselfish, loving, affectionate and wants to please his/her partner. All the gymnastic screwing in the world can’t compensate for lack of that. I am a white woman, attractive and have been overweight most of my adult life. I stay well-proportioned (smaller waist) with exercise. My boyfriend, 25 years younger, pursued me! He is very thin. He loves my ample, rounded breasts and behind. Though I can’t do aerobics like Jane Fonda, I am just as frisky, active and full of stamina as I was when thinner and younger. Not quite as agile, but compensate with great gus
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Name : ShirleyAvery, Gender : F, Disability : none, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 52, City : st. louis, State : MO, Country : United States, Occupation : writer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
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