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I am a white male dating a black woman for the last 3 years. I see five distinct questions here: Question #1: white-male/black-female perceived unaccepted to blacks? IMHO #1) many white males are financially better-off then many of thier black counterparts, and are the clear beneficiaries of racism/better opportunities/starting position in America. IMHO #2) most African Americans are not happy about #1. IMHO #3) other things being equal, women of any race prefer men who are finacially well-off to those who are not. The complaint that I’ve heard is that in the open marketplace for male partners, black women going outside of their race are ‘cheating’ by choosing the white men that have an unfair advantage in financial stability. Think of it like foreign imports -they’re always going to be cheaper because of low labor costs; well that white-boy’s going to be able to better provide for her because if takes less of his money to do so. These are gross generalities, but most dirty looks we get are from strangers that don’t know our situation & assume anything they want to. To people who know nothing about the situation, all they see is that she has lost confidence that a brother will be able to treat her right and has switched to the other side. That betrayal, that vote of non-confidence in their own race is not exactly appreciated.
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Name : Bal, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 27, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Technical, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Question #4: black-male/white female more acceptable to whites? IMHO #7) black men are perceived by white-men as more extroverted, bigger, stronger, aggressive, and more violent. I don’t know if black-male/white-female pairings are more accepted by whites, I suspect that they are not, but I know that because of IMHO#7 that white men are unlikely to initiate a confrontation, dirty looks, or other signs of outward disapproval. IMHO #8) males perceive everything in terms of sex. IMHO #9) perceived believes in sexuality, muscle-mass & penis size have a profound effect on white-men. IMHO #10) despite other circumstances or facts, white-men will belive in the back of their head that white-women chose black-men for sexuality releated reasons that white-men cannot compete on. If a black-man feels financially insecure to white-men, that’s something for historically unjust reaons and something to get jealous or angry over. But a white-man feeling sexually insecure to black-men is perceived to be genetic, unchangeable, and just depressing rather than anger or confrontation inducing. Question #5: black-male/white female more acceptable to blacks? no idea.
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Name : Bal, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 27, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Technical, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I guess it depends on which side of the looking glass one stands. Within white culture, at least, it seems far more acceptable for sons to date nonwhites than daughters. This seems to be universal across patriarchical cultures (I’ve heard that there are some academic arguments that Black American culture is matriarchical). In matters of both caste and class, it is easier for a man to date ‘down’ than for a woman, because their children will absorb at least some of the fathers standing and privelege, branded by his surname. It is unfair, and reeks of women-as-chattel, but family reactions to interracial dating are driven by preservation of the status of possible grandchildren, among other things. If you’d like more background on this issue, check out ‘Caste, Class & Race’ by Oliver C. Cox
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Name : John, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Disability : Rythmless, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 28, City : Troy, State : AL, Country : United States, Occupation : waiter, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I think maybe it depends on the region you’re in because in the northwest it is very rare to see a white man and a black woman together but you do see a lot of white women and black men together.
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Name : Kari19451, Gender : F, Race : American Indian, Age : 17, City : tacoma, State : WA, Country : United States,Im an african american 18 yr old. Currently I am talking to a white male. He’s not the first,Im falling in love with him its not a thing you try it just happens that way.
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Name : shantia, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 18, City : lexington, State : NC, Country : United States, Occupation : CNA,Pharmacy Assistant, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Middle class,I don’t quite get this either. I don’t see the problem with black women dating white men. Actually, I’m all for it because I’m very attracted to black girls. I know plenty of other white guys are. So, why don’t more white guys date black girls? I saw this site which had research on this subject, and it said that black men and black women are seen as more masculine than white women and white man. I.e., white women go for more masculine looking men, who often are black men, but white men usually don’t go for women who are more masculine than white women, like black women. I hope I havn’t offended anyone here. I don’t quite agree with this research, but there might be some truth to it. There is also this macho image that black men have but that white men don’t have. We’re more the ‘pipe and cardigan’ types who say ‘Golly!’, play golf and drive Wolkswagens. It may be just as much stereotypes as anything else.
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Name : Erik20148, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 22, City : Arendal, State : NA, Country : Norway,its the same.. its just that white men dont go out the box 4 whatever reason ‘scared’ I havnt dated a black man in 3 years and seems like i get approached more by other races.
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Name : Jt, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Age : 33, City : long beach, State : CA, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,well actually where i live..If a white guy is dating a black girl, the black guys usually would gang up on him , either beat him up or just scare him real bad, and for some reason when a black guy dates a white girl, i dont see the white guys doing that to the black man.but thats just where i live.
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Name : Ak28787, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 18, City : Portage, State : FL, Country : United States, Occupation : college, Social class : Lower class,
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