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Dare to Ask: Do deaf people scream when they are frustrated?

By Phillip Milano

Question

Do deaf people scream when they are frustrated? — Ezzie, 52, Pittsburgh

Replies

Although I don’t, I had a deaf special-needs roommate who did. Man, what a howler! — Ashley, 24, deaf, St. Augustine

Deaf people have a “voice box” in their throat. They can make sounds perfectly or awfully. We are human beings, nothing more or less. — Stephen, 19, deaf, Clark, N.J.

I’m a deaf education/American Sign Language interpretation major. Deaf people react the same way to situations hearing people do. … except they do not always know they’ve made noises. — Christy, 22, Jacksonville

Deaf people do not scream when they are frustrated. No more than you or I do as people who can hear. — Sarah, Rochester, N.Y.

My parents are deaf. Some deaf people are quiet, by choice. Others don’t care what they sound like and are very expressive vocally. — Kristina, 37, Seattle

I tend to internalize frustration so as not to bother other people. The answer may also depend on where I am at the time. I won’t scream if frustrated at work. — Ray, deaf, Iowa

My sister lost her hearing at a very young age. When we were children, when she was in a room by herself, she would “utter” quite spontaneously, and yes, the volume did elevate with excitement. — Ed, Richmond, Va.

I teach at a school for the deaf. Often someone without hearing has well-developed vocal cords and uses them as frequently as anyone else. — Robert, 54, Portland, Ore.

Expert says

Read our lips: When you gotta scream, you gotta scream.

“Many deaf people yell; it’s a pent-up discharge that everyone needs as part of their neurological wiring,” said psychologist Deborah Serani, an adjunct professor at Adelphi University in New York who’s worked with deaf people for more than 20 years. “It’s not good to hold things in; it can lead to things like high blood pressure.”

Just like hearing people, their facial expressions can get exaggerated, too, and they can shake their hands or tap a table to show frustration, she said.

“One [deaf] woman I was working with, she got extremely angry talking about a situation at work. … She stood up and stamped her feet and was signing in such a large way that the lampshade on my desk started to shake. She pointed to it, and we both laughed.”

Overemphasized signing and more expansive gesticulations can be typical for deaf people when frustrated, she added.

“One of my favorites is a word you can’t print, for someone they’re upset with … picture them, when mad, taking their hand, making a fist, and instead of keeping it tight, which they might do if mildly upset, opening it very wide so you can see a big O — like a sphincter.”

We hear that one, loud and clear.

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