Religion Questions 141-150

THE QUESTION:
RE150: As a 21-year-old female who was born Jewish but never practiced, I am beginning to explore other religions in hopes of finding one that suits my beliefs. I am considering Catholicism. Do Christians see converts as “true and equal Christians,” or will I never be truly accepted as one of them?
POSTED APRIL 8, 1999
Kate, 21, female, Ithaca, NY

ANSWER 1:
I don’t know if this answers your question, but there is an old Yiddish expression that might. “If you ever forget that you are a Jew, a gentile will remind you.” Being a Jew is part of who you are. Explore your Judaism. Speak with other Jewish women (and men). A good place to start might be at Cornell University. Jewish students at the campus “Hillel” organization may help you find what’s right for you.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Mark, Jewish male, San Francisco Bay Area , CA

FURTHER NOTICE:
As long as you believe the teachings of your religion and feel that it is fulfilling your religious needs, there should be no reason that you feel uncomfortable; if you feel this way, there is something missing spiritually. As long as you practice wholeheartedly, the Lord will always accept you.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Laura, female, 29 <funk@sofnet.com>, Monett, MO

FURTHER NOTICE 2:
I am a Catholic who sees everyone as an equal when the topic is God. If there is a religion that believes that you are not an equal, it’s probably a cult. I think the worst thing about Christianity is religion – in the big picture, we all believe in God. My parents are Baptist, my sister is non-denominational and I am Catholic. It’s a really interesting Sunday around our family. Just remember one thing about Catholicism: Some religions think Catholics think they are better than the rest, but I can assure you, it’s not true.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Rob, 28, Catholic <innvertigo@msn.com>, Warren, MI

FURTHER NOTICE 3:
In my experience, Christians love to get converts from other religions.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Patrick W., male <pwalsh@bellsouth.net>, Jacksonville, FL

FURTHER NOTICE 4:
Catholics will think it’s wonderful that you’re a convert. The priest told me that if I converted, my husband and I were sure to go to heaven. Will you fit in? The other Catholics won’t know you weren’t born Catholic unless you tell them. If you tell them you’re a convert, they will take you under their wing. If you don’t tell them, they will assume you were raised Catholic. You will always know the difference, though, because you haven’t been immersed in it since childhood. You as a convert will always see Catholicism through different, more objective eyes. You will be good for the Catholic Church.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Colleen, 38, raised Catholic <congdon@illuminet.net>, Quantico , VA

FURTHER NOTICE 5:
It’s all fine and dandy that you go searching for a religion that suits your beliefs, but with all due respect, adjusting your beliefs to suit your religion might be more worthwhile. I’m sure you’ve heard this all before, but there is truth to the saying “The grass is always greener on the other side.” Before you step over the fence, do yourself a favor and check out and truly examine your own back yard: 3,000 years of an incredible history and the millions who died trying to preserve it. The very least you owe them and yourself is an educated decision.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Lon B.-D. <AbieDee@aol.com>, New York , NY

FURTHER NOTICE 6:
I’ve been Catholic all my life. My father converted to marry my mother. I’ve never seen anyone singled out for criticism as a Catholic because they weren’t born that way. If anything, we tend to fall all over converts when they are baptized and confirmed (it’s a big deal, right in the middle of Mass, singing and praying just before Easter; wear comfortable shoes, it goes on forever). I think Catholics especially like adult converts because it confirms our belief that we were right all along. We like being right. We are the One, Holy, Catholic and Apostolic Church, after all.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
M.J. Frazer, female, white, Catholic <Mfrazer7@aol.com>, Worcester , MA

FURTHER NOTICE 7:
It’s fine that you want to shop around to find the right religion for you, but you should really learn about your own religion before searching outside. A non-practicing Jew often doesn’t know what Judaism is about. I tried Christianity and then found Judaism (my own religion, which my parents don’t stress). Judaism is very complex, enlightening and satisfying. Many students of talmud go on to get very high marks in university because of the discipline they’ve picked up. I find the wisdom in midrash is helpful in everyday life as well. You can try learning more by going to a reform rabbi to start. He/she can guide you. It would be foolhardy to pick up another religion before you know the true value of what you’re discarding.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Ronit, 35, Jewish female <casey5@mydejanews.com>, Toronto, Ontario, Canada

FURTHER NOTICE 8:
You will be fully accepted (except by Nazis). Remember to study the faith you were raised in, also, because you may actually find that you need not look further. It is strange that people of one faith become disillusioned by not practicing it, and then when considering alternative beliefs spend a great deal of time to learn about them. Why not put as much time into learning about your current faith? You may be wondrously enlightened!.All religions teach morality, or conscience, and just use different stories and props. Therefore, for all potential conversions, unless it is to bring a marriage into one religion – a most important part of a marriage – use your local social and outreach educational sessions at churches, synagogues and college campuses as pleasant ways to study your religion.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Ken, male

FURTHER NOTICE 9:
The Catholic Church welcomes converts. In fact, converts are often looked at as “better Catholics,” though I suspect this is largely a cop-out by “cradle Catholics” to excuse their lack of piety, as if to say “don’t expect too much of me – I was just born into it.” Single converts are often heavily prevailed upon to enter the priesthood or religious life. I can tell you that in more traditional circles (Latin Mass, etc.), you may have to do a period of “probation” because, frankly, someone not from a Catholic family has more to prove in regard to their orthodoxy. There is also the ethnic factor. In some traditional congregations (not all), you are regarded as having no “pedigree” because you’re not from an old Irish, or Italian, or what have you, Catholic family. This is left unspoken but it is still there. Still, if you come in and “listen more than you talk” the first few years, you’ll be just fine.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Pius Augustine, traditional Catholic, 38, Columbia, SC

FURTHER NOTICE 10:
One of Christianity’s major beliefs is evangelism, or “spreading the “Good News” of Jesus Christ.” A “true Christian” is someone who believes in the Holy Trinity (God the Father, God the Son and the Holy Spirit), and accepts Jesus as Christ the Savior, whether you’ve believed that all of your life, or have recently had a change of faith. You have the choice of participating in more visible signs of faith, such as Baptism and Confirmation, and as a Catholic, you would be invited to the Holy Eucharist to receive Communion; however, one cannot be any more “Christian” than his or her neighbor. A priest is not more “Christian” than his congregation – he is just a leader and counselor. Of course, these are my personal beliefs as an Episcopalian, and unfortunately, some Christian congregations are less hospitable and more “exclusive” than others. But I also believe that, as a whole, the Christian family is very open and friendly.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Shawn D., 23, gay Episcopalian <pharaun@aol.com>, Fort Worth , TX

FURTHER NOTICE 11:
Catholic converts are equally embraced by the Church. Once you are baptized and receive the other sacraments, you are a full participating member. There are no second-class citizens. I think the fact that you choose to join and learn about the dogma beforehand makes you in someways a better Catholic than those who were baptized at birth. In a way it is like how naturalized U.S. citizens probably have a better grasp of U.S. history and patriotism than citizens who where born here.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Jennifer, female, Toledo, OH

FURTHER NOTICE 12:
Considering that all Christians are, in effect, “converts” stemming from Jewish roots (Jesus Christ was a Jew), I think most Christians are accepting of converts who profess their faith in Christian principles and teachings. It probably depends on how fundamentalist the church you are considering is. I am Methodist (a Protestant Christian religion), so I’m speaking from a Christian, but not Catholic, point of view. I remember in college having a friend who converted to Judaism and was never really accepted as a “full-fledged” member of the religious community. I think part of her battle was that “being Jewish” is partl ethnicity and part religious practice (and she obviously didn’t have a Jewish heritage).
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Amy D., female, St. Paul , MN

FURTHER NOTICE 13:
All Christians/Catholics are not of one mindset. Acceptance by indiviudal members will be based on many factors, including your charisma, your perceived sincerity and a person’s background and opinion of what a member of a particular religion should be like. In other words, people are people; they like good-natured, kindred spirits. If they don’t respond to you, they may be shy, nasty, hurried or troubled, but it may ot be because you’re not a “true” believer. Just like any worldly social gathering, expect a larger church to seem less caring but demand less social interaction. As long as you respect the general rules of conduct, nobody will know your “status.” Few will introduce themselves, either. At a smaller church, people will look at you like the new kid in class, but they also may be inclined to invite you to dinner that day. I think you will find most people in a religious setting are looking for answers, too. If you respect their traditions and maintain a humble spirit, you’ll be fine. If for some reason the church itself does not agree with you, try another one, remembering, though, that the servants aren’t the master. Judge the church as a whole and how it helps you establish your own spiritual wellness.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
J. Berry, 34, recent Catholic convert from Methodist <berryx@earthlink.net>, Alexandria, VA

FURTHER NOTICE 14:
A parish priest with a very ethnic Jewish last name at my Roman Catholic church was raised Jewish in Brooklyn, NY. He converted and joined the seminary at 30. Does that count as “accepted” enough?
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Andy, 30, white, straight male, CA

FURTHER NOTICE 15:
I’m 48, became a Christian at 31 and was born Catholic. Christianity is not a religion but a relationship with God through Jesus Christ. Avoid confusing Christianity with religon. You will find that all true Christians are converts (from unbelief to belief), and so you will be accepted by them and share community with them. Jesus had a problem with religion getting in the way of people relating to God. You can become a Christian without the religous trappings.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Lord Og, 48, male, Hamilton, Ontario, Canada

FURTHER NOTICE 16:
A Christian is someone who chooses to follow Christ. By making that choice, in a sense all Christians are converts. Anyone who doesn’t accept you as a “real” Christian is not following Christ’s commandment to love their neighbor.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
T.R., 17, Latter-Day Saint (converted) <beforpeace@yahoo.com>, San Jose , CA

FURTHER NOTICE 17:
Christianity is a religion built upon conversion, so generally Christians will accept you as an equal. You may be seen as a “baby” in Christ, but you wouldn’t have second-class status just because you are a convert. In fact, some denominations seem to favor converts. I was raised in the Southern Baptist church. That denomination emphasizes the “Damascus Road” experience, which is the dramatic conversion the apostle Paul had, in which he is literally blinded by the glory of God. When I was growing up, I felt a little uncomfortable because I came to know God slowly and as a very young child. Sometimes I felt like I was the second-class Christian because I couldn’t recount some dramatic story! I encourage you to explore many Christian denominations, begin reading the Bible (the gospel of Matthew is particularly good for someone with a Jewish background) and pray.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Stacee, 30, Christian, attending an Episcopal church, Houston , TX

FURTHER NOTICE 18:
Since people aren’t “born” but “raised” Catholic, it matters little when you decide to go through the process. People become Catholic after completing a series of sacraments (Baptism is the initiation; Confession, Communion and Confirmation are the final touches). Christianity does not observe the same heritage through birthright that Judaism does. Most people don’t know or care how or when you became Catholic, they’re just happy you’re there.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
D.M.M., Catholic, 24 <donikam@hotmail.com>, Charleston , SC

FURTHER NOTICE 19:
Why not explore your own religion first? You say you haven’t practiced, so why not see what Judaism is before giving it up? There is so much meaning in Judaism. I’m sure your ancestors suffered because they were Jews; how can you give up something that was so precious to them?
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Shevi, Jewish, 22 <shevi@geocities.com>, Baltimore , MD

FURTHER NOTICE 20:
I was raised Protestant but have been considering (in a vague sort of way) becoming Catholic. The last time I was at mass I looked in the Catholic Book of Worship and it said that although in Christian-dominated societies baptism of infants is practiced, baptism of adult converts is the norm and infant baptism takes its meaning from adult baptism, not the reverse. The first Christians were Jewish and continued to consider themselves as such. And of course in “born-again” Protestant churches, everyone is a “convert.” If you are interested in converting to Catholicism, there are groups to guide you through the process of the R.C.I.A. (Rite of Christian Initiation for Adults).
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
C.P., 21, Montreal, Quebec, Canada ,

FURTHER NOTICE 21:
I hate to say this, but it really depends on the congregation. I went to the same church for 20-plus years (Roman Catholic) and was never accepted as a member because my family went to public school. We grew up in a really small (read: close-minded) community, so if you didn’t have 100 or more years of ancestory in the city, you were labeled a “newcomer” and didn’t quite fit in.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
C.H.P., 28, white female, Center Line , MI

FURTHER NOTICE 22:
A large percentage of Protestants are of a sort of mongrel background, especially those who have moved around the country a couple times or who have married someone of a different denomination, which is very common. I believe more than half of American Jews now marry outside the faith, so your story must be pretty common. Our denomination is very welcoming of people from different religious backgrounds.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
B. Hale, United Methodist <halehart@aol.com>, Hartford, CT

FURTHER NOTICE 23:
I think your question goes more to human nature than religious belief. Protestant teaching, at least as far as I’ve experienced it, says that there’s no such thing as “more Christian,” and even if there was, it would certainly not be based on birthright or seniority. Fellowship with other Christians is supposed to be a joyous event unclouded by base and petty feelings such as bigotry, jealousy and elitism. In practice, it has been my experience that most churches, like most other organizations, have at least one or two people who like to be more actively involved and in control, have an exaggerated sense of self-worth and can even be judgmental in a gossipy sort of way. But they are, by far, the exception rather than the rule. Every congregation I have belonged to has eagerly accepted, even celebrated, new members, especially converts. Also, remember that every Christian, whether born to Christian parents and raised in the Church or not, imust by definition at some point in their lives make a decision to accept Christ and his teachings. So in a sense, all Christians are converts.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Mark, 32, white, married Protestant, Alexandria , VA

FURTHER NOTICE 24:
The healthy Christian has a deep and fulfilling relationship with Christ Jesus. That is the main focus. Christian believers will welcome converts with open arms. But you need to realize that there will be some believers who don’t accept other believers because their doctrines don’t completely match. I have been a believer for many years, and I still meet some who say I am not a real believer because I don’t have the gift of tongues. The Bible needs to be your source of what is true, not what any particular church teaches.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Ronald V., 46 <draugas@mailcity.com>, Edmonton , Alberta, Canada

FURTHER NOTICE 25:
Yes. The Apostle Paul (a Benjamite) says that the Gentiles are “grafted into” the tree, but the Jews are already descendants of Abraham. Cool, huh?
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
A. Strickland,48 <Strickland13@netscape.net>, Panama City , FL

FURTHER NOTICE 26:
As someone who was born and raised Catholic, I can tell you that yes, if you were to convert to Catholicism, you would be accepted. In fact, every year during Easter time (actually the Easter vigil mass the night before Easter), the church performs a special ceremony welcoming new Catholics to the the church. It is a very nice mass, and the church does indeed accept converts with open arms. However, I do suggest that if you are considering Catholicism that you really do your research and that you make sure it is indeed a religion you want to be a part of. I believe religion is a very personal choice and that one religion that may be right for one person may not be right for someone else.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Rai <neff@acsu.buffalo.edu>, Buffalo , NY

FURTHER NOTICE 27:
If a religion does not accept you, it is not truly Christian. Christ did not show partiality to anyone. He witnessed to all. The determining factor was not a person’s background but his/her heart condition and future actions. Remember too that Paul said “There is neither Jew nor Greek, male nor female; for you are all one person in union with Christ Jesus.” (Galatians 3:28) I encourage you to look at all religions and make your choice based on: 1. On what are its teachings based? Are they from God or primarily men? (2 Timothy 3:16, Mark 7:7) 2. Consider whether it is making known the name of God. (John 17:6, Matthew 4:10) 3. Is true faith in Jesus Christ being demonstrated? (John 3:36, Psalms 2:6-8, James 2:26) 4. Is it largely ritualistic, or is it a way of life? (Isaiah 1:15-17, 1 Corinthians 5:9-13, Galatians 5:22,23) 5. Do its members truly love one another? (John 13:35) 6. Is it truly separate from the world? (John 15:19, 1 John 2:15-17) 7. Are its members active witnesses concerning God’s kingdom? (Matthew 24:14, Matthew 10:7, 11-13, Acts 20:20)
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Trish <blouin@rconnect.com>, MN

FURTHER NOTICE 28:
I feel there is no such thing as a “true Christian.” We were all born into sin because of the sin Adam and Eve committed when they disobeyed God. We are all descendants of Adam’s loins and were born into sin except Jesus, who was born of the holy spirit – the only true Christian. He died on the cross that we might have life, and accepting his salvation makes you as Christ-like as you need to be. But as you grow in your faith, you will come to understand deeper truths and desire to live a life as Christ-like as you can, but just know that we are all forgiven for our sins through the grace of God, which is symbolized by his son Jesus.
POSTED APRIL 13, 1999
Clorinda R., 22, black female, Greensboro , NC

FURTHER NOTICE 29:
If you already have a set of beliefs you are happy and comfortable with, why are you searching for a religion to match them? I see the value of studying religion, systems of beliefs and philosophy. I would recommend spending some time studying and asking the question, What need does this fill and do I need this religion?
POSTED APRIL 14, 1999
A happy atheist <wilsonpa@rf.suny.edu>, Albany, NY

FURTHER NOTICE 30:
Kate, have you explored Judaism? I’m asking because you mention you were born to a Jewish family but have never practiced. You might be surprised at the breadth of belief, practice and philosophy available within various Jewish congregations and movements. As I understand it, nobody is “born Catholic.” A person becomes Catholic, or Christian, at Baptism.
POSTED APRIL 14, 1999
Robin, 36, practicing Jew from non-practicing family <rmshapiro@hotmail.com>,Bluefield , WV

FURTHER NOTICE 31:
I asked the original question. I investigated Judaism and realized it was not the religion and set of beliefs I agreed with. I always knew/felt that for some reason, I believed in Jesus Christ as a prophet, and so I started investigating Christianity. Although I also researched Eastern religions, Christianity was the only set of beliefs I felt a connection to. Once I realized I had an “affinity” for Jesus and the New Testament, I found Catholicism. For the past six months, I have gone to mass with friends, read the Catechism of the church and various other books, and am almost certain I want to join the church. I know my ancestors fought and perhaps were even killed for their belief in Judaism, but their sacrifices and strength have given me the chance to find my God and religious home. I am sure they would prefer for me to be Jewish, but I know they would want me to have a sincere belief in and devotion to God – which I did not have until I began this spiritual exploration. I am beginning to research RCIA classes and how they are taught at different churches. I want a church where I am not a ‘pledge,’ but a non-full member during this period. If possible, I want to be able to stay to see the Eucharist at mass as I have been doing these months. I do not know if all churches follow the dismissal of candidates, so if anyone has any knowledge about this, it would be very appreciated.
POSTED APRIL 14, 1999
Kate, 21, female, Ithaca, NY

FURTHER NOTICE 32:
In all the responses to this question, no one has raised the issue of the Jewish Law on the subject of conversion. Jewish law states that a person who is legally born Jewish cannot legally (Jewish Law) convert out of the religion. Naturally, a person can practice any religion they choose. That is the freedom of a free society. Although difficult, a person can convert to Judaism but again, cannot convert out. It is a one-way street.
POSTED APRIL 14, 1999
Les H. <lphfla@aol.com>, Fort Lauderdale , FL
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THE QUESTION:
RE149: If, as it is written in the Bible, God sees the end from the beginning, then what possibly can be changed by prayer? Isn’t prayer an assumption the God has made a mistake and needs to change the future (which has already happened as far as God is concerned)? Does God really make mistakes?
POSTED APRIL 7, 1999
G.P. Axe <gpax@spacestar.net>, St. Paul, MN

ANSWER 1:
A man on a tall building can see two cars that are about to collide. If he has a cell phone, he can warn one or both of the cars to prevent a collision. Knowing the end from the beginning doesn’t mean that it has already happened. Prayer is primarily communion with God. Answered prayer isn’t God changing His plans to suit someone, but God meeting our needs by means we wouldn’t normally consider. A mechanical breakdown of a delivery truck can occur in the middle of nowhere, or by an orphanage in need of food. God doesn’t cause a truck to break down; poor maintenance does. But He can use events to meet others’ needs.
POSTED APRIL 8, 1999
Ronald V., 46, male, Edmonton, Alberta, Canada

FURTHER NOTICE:
This question shows that you have been doing a lot of thinking, which is great. I think the problem you are having is putting too much responsibility on God. Imagine you were a teacher, and your kindergarten class went to the playground. You told your class that they could do what they wanted, but you were there to help them. One kid fights everyone and bullys the other kids, and says he doesn’t have to listen to you. Another kid is having a fight with someone about who got to the swing first. Finally, they go to you and say, “We both say we were here first. What should we do?” You give them an answer they can agree on, and they become more mature. The next time this happens, they will act more grown up. That’s all prayer is. God gives free will, and you allow God to intervene, making you a little more like God.

As far as seeing the future from the beginning, it also says that God is in the past, present and future. Time is simultaneous. However, I believe the future is different in that it is always changing, depending on what we choose to do. InA Christmas Carol, Scrooge sees the future, but by changing the present, he also changes the future.
POSTED APRIL 8, 1999
Craig, gay white male, 35 <cmorris@loft.org>, Minneapolis, MN

FURTHER NOTICE 2:
There is little mention of God being omnipotent in the Bible. This concept emerged later when certain European rulers wanted to embellish their authority by promoting the concept of God controlling everything, and thus if I’m in charge it must be because God wants it that way. The Bible has many examples of God trying things that don’t work out that well, implying that God is not all powerful or all-knowing. Examples: Adam and Eve in the garden, God trying to intimidate residents of Israel to make way for the Jews. This is discussed in a recent book by Greg Easterbrook titled Beside Still Waters.
POSTED APRIL 8, 1999
B. Hale <halehart@aol.com>, Hartford, CT
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THE QUESTION:
RE148: Do Christians think it’s OK to study karate and other martial arts, even though they’re so rooted in non-Christian, Eastern religions?
POSTED MARCH 26, 1999
Norma S., female, Amarillo, TX

ANSWER 1:
I was raised Catholic and am now a black belt. The Martial Arts are not based in other religions. Not once did my Sensei talk about Shintoism or any other Eastern religion. I did learn quite a bit of Japanese, and I did learn about the Japanese culture, but religion was never brought into the dojo.
POSTED MARCH 29, 1999
Leah, 27, female, Erie, PA

FURTHER NOTICE:
Yoga, karate, jujitsu, acupuncture and many other aspects of Eastern culture have come to the West and brought much good. But each idea is built on teachings, or assumptions that are not be visible at first glance. Personally, I could see what each of these defenses has to offer, but I need to keep in mind that everything we do has a spiritual base (whether we eat or whether we fast, whether we live or whether we die, we do so unto the Lord). I have friends who like to do yoga, but there will be a point at which they will have to say, “I enjoy the physical aspect of this, but I don’t subscribe to the underlying teachings (philosophy) associated with it.”
POSTED MARCH 29, 1999
Ronald V., 46, male, Edmonton, Alberta, Canada

FURTHER NOTICE 2:
As a Christian I do see problems with practicing Martial Arts that focus on meditation, idols or certain powers, and/or that are meant to control people. Meditation on anything but God is thought of as opening your mind to the wrong thing. Believing you can tap into certain powers or strength by believing in a certain aspect of Martial Arts is thought of as worshiping an idol and goes against the 10 Commandments. Trying to control or overpower another person goes against the Golden Rule, which is also in the Bible. It is good to practice Martial Arts, though, if it is used only for self-defense or for enjoyment and does not do any of the above mentioned items.
POSTED MARCH 29, 1999
Jerrid F., 25, Bowling Green, OH
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THE QUESTION:
RE147: To Christian scholars and clergy: I identify myself as a Christian, but believe that all religions are essentially worshiping the same higher power, whether He is called “Christ,” “Allah,” “Buddha” or the various other deities of other religions. I also look at the Bible as an important piece of literature and as a guide, but considering the number of times it has been edited and translated over the centuries, I believe it would be impossible to attempt to understand and comply with the original intent, so while I follow the Bible’s general philosophy, I don’t look at individual passages for guidance. Is this blasphemous?
POSTED MARCH 15, 1999
Shawn, 23, gay male, Episcopalian <pharaun@aol.com>, Fort Worth , TX

ANSWER 1:
As long as you identify affirmatively with your higher power, you are not blasphemous. I share your belief that we all worship the same higher power that some call God. I feel that Jesus, Buddha and Allah, etc. are all Christs who came to be examples for us to follow. We can all live as they did – as a Christ. The Bible is an extremely important text, but there are many more. I’m sure your priest could recommend some. I am fond of Paramahansa Yogananda’s The Divine RomanceTry reading these spiritual books by allowing the book to open where it may and see if you find your daily answer there. It has never failed to amaze me.
POSTED MARCH 17, 1999
BPMass, 46, female, Jacksonville, FL

FURTHER NOTICE:
Blasphemy is ridiculing God or claiming Godhood for someone or something other that God. From a Christian point of view, to equate Buddha or anyone else with Christ would therefore be blasphemy. You are either elevating the others to Godhood or denying the deity of Christ. The same applies to Holy Scripture. If we say it is no more than great literature, we either elevate other literature to the level of Holy Scripture or we deny the special status of the Bible as God’s word. Jesus said “I am The Way, The Truth and The Life. No one can come to the Father but by me.” To say anything else is blasphemous to a Christian.
POSTED MARCH 30, 1999
P.B., Lutheran, Appleton , MN

FURTHER NOTICE 2:
To most Christians you would be blasphemous. But even among Christians there are fundamental differences between each denomination on how to worship and make right with God. Catholics believe all sins may be forgiven through the rite of confession to a priest. Many Protestant churches believe that until you are “born again” you will not go to heaven. Catholics view the Pope as God’s emissary on earth. The Greek Orthodox Church has its own Patriarch, not recognizing the Catholic Pope at all. Coptic Christians do not follow the teachings of Paul, which prevails in the Western Christian Churches. Mormons follow the teachings of Joseph Smith, who is not even recognized as a prophet by any other denomination. The Greek Orthodox version of the Bible is different from the Catholic version, which is different from the Protestant version, which is different from the Coptic. And so on and so on.

I basically believe the same way you do: There is only one God, no matter what name man uses. I use the Bible (as well as the Koran, Torah and other spiritual works) as a guide to the way God wants me to live my life. I would agree with you that its original intent has been lost in the numerous translations and edits.
POSTED APRIL 7, 1999
M. Kemper, 30 <kemper1@gte.net>, Tampa, FL
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THE QUESTION:
RE146: The verse John 3:13 in the Bible indicates that only one person has ever entered heaven. Not being of the Christian faith, this stupefies me. What does it mean?
POSTED FEB. 23, 1999
R.P., 62, Jewish, Fort Wayne, IN

ANSWER 1:
In John 3:13, Jesus told the Jewish leader Nicodemus that only one man (himself) had ever entered Heaven. The traditional Christian interpretation of John 3:13 would be that, before the death and resurrection of Jesus, sin was an insurmountable barrier between man and God, and no one could enter Heaven – not even virtuous men like Abraham and Moses. It was the sacrifice of Jesus that atoned for sin, and made it possible for humans to enter Heaven. After the resurrection, Heaven became available to all virtuous persons who had lived and died before the time of Jesus, and to all who came after him.
POSTED FEB. 24, 1999
Astorian, Irish Catholic male <Astorian@aol.com>, Austin , TX
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THE QUESTION:
RE145: I recently heard the following about a friend who became an Orthodox Jew before her wedding: Reportedly, she is unable to sleep in the same bed as her husband while menstruating, bought a wig to cover her natural hair and is not permitted to dine in her parents’ home because the plates, food, etc., have not been blessed. Is there any truth to what I’ve heard?
POSTED FEB. 22, 1999
April , 25, white female, Catholic <alwew3@aol.com>, Tallahassee , FL

ANSWER 1:
Yes, this is true. When an Orthodox Jewish woman gets married, tradition states her head should be completely covered. Wigs are one method. Some prefer to wear hats instead. An Orthodox Jew also will not eat in a home or restaurant that is not kosher. If your friend’s mother’s home is not a “kosher” home, then unclean food has been served on the dinner plates at one time. I mean “unclean” as far as Jewish dietary laws dictate. As far as not sleeping in the same bed during menstruation, the woman is considered unclean during these times.
POSTED FEB. 24, 1999
Alan, 39, male, non-Orthodox Jew <alan4433@hotmail.com>, Atlanta , GA

FURTHER NOTICE:
You’ve got some things right, although not necessarily for the right reasons. Some Orthodox Jews do have special prohibitions about women’s bodies, hair and functions, and these are often also the groups that, for example, only permit intercourse through a hole in the sheet. Please notethat this is not mainstream Judaism, just like a prohibition on dancing is not mainstream Christianity. As for the dishes: That’s an extension of kosher laws on food purity. For some, part of keeping kosher means keeping meat and dairy separate – totally separate, to the point of using separate dishes for each (as well as separate dishes for the Sabbath and certain holidays). It’s not a matter of being blessed, it’s a matter of the dishes being ritually unclean.
POSTED FEB. 24, 1999
A.B., Reform Jew, OK

FURTHER NOTICE 2:
The Torah states that a woman is “unclean” during her period. Accordingly, any man who touches her is also rendered unclean and must undergo ritual purification after touching a menstruating woman. Accordingly, married couples sleep apart when the woman is menstruating. There is Jewish law that commands a woman to “dress modestly” so as not to excite Jewish males. The prohibition against dressing provocatively permutated into a custom (not a law) that married women either crop their hair or (in the extreme) shave their heads, and then wear wigs. I will not discuss the absurdity that an attractive wig can be as exciting as natural hair. As to eating at her parents’ home, if your friend is Orthodox, she may not eat unkosher food. To be kosher, the food must be purchased from sources known to sell kosher food, be prepared in a kitchen that is maintained according to the laws of kashrut, and be served on kosher dishes. Her parents apparently do not do this, so she may not eat the food they serve. By the way, kosher food is not blessed; its preparation is supervised to make sure it conforms to the law.
POSTED FEB. 24, 1999
Jerry, Jewish male <gmt@GTE.net>, Tampa , FL

FURTHER NOTICE 3:
First of all, I would urge you to talk to your friend about this. None of these are shameful subjects in Orthodox Judaism. As with many other religions, people can be more or less stringent. Even within the Orthodox community there is quite a bit of variation in the level of observance. What you have heard about your friend might not be what she practices. Yes, for reasons of family purity, men and women do not touch during menstruation and for approximately a week afterward. Yes, covering of married women’s hair in public places is part of Jewish tradition. This is sometimes done with a hat, sometimes with a wig or a bandana. If her parents are not observant, she can indeed not eat from their plates. However, it has nothing to do with blessing. Jewish dietary law restricts people from eating certain foods and adds details about both the utensils and the person who cooks it. She probably can eat fruit in her parents’ home, for example.
POSTED FEB. 24, 1999
David, 32, Jewish male <degraaf@genome.wi.mit.edu>, Cambridge, MA

FURTHER NOTICE 4:
All true. My brother, who is Orthodox, lives by those rules, many of which are spelled out explicitly in the Bible.
POSTED FEB. 24, 1999
Andrew, 35, non-believing Jew <ziptron@start.com.au>
Huntington , NY

FURTHER NOTICE 5:
Yes, very possible. In the extremely Orthodox world, women are unclean when they are menstruating. In strict cultures, there were huts for the women to sleep in during menstruation. There are also mikvahs, which are ritual milk-baths used to cleanse after their periods. As for the wig, after a woman is married, only her husband (and I guess children) is permitted to see her real hair. It’s a modesty thing, with hair considered to be sensuous. As for dining in her parents’ home, they may not keep kosher. Kashruth (kosher) laws require that meat and milk be eaten separately, and there are separate dishes, utensils, pots, pans and even ranges, and ovens and sponges for each. I’ve even seen a dishwasher that allows for kosher living. Everything is blessed by a rabbi. She may not feel comfortable eating on plates that are not kosher.
POSTED FEB. 24, 1999
Lori, 38, Jewish mother of two <frumkin@compex.com>, Annandale , VA

FURTHER NOTICE 6:
A.B. says separate dishes are needed for the Sabbath. Not so. A kosher home has separate dishes/pots and pans/silverware, etc. for meat and dairy. A kosher home also has meat and dairy dishes for Passover. Many types of foods that can be eaten during the rest of the year cannot be eaten during Passover, and dishes, etc. that have touched those non-Passover foods cannot be used during Passover. Of course, just as other people do, many people with kosher homes have everyday dishes and nice china for special occasions. Perhaps you’ve seen the good china used on Sabbath. Also, Lori says a mikvah is a milk bath. Nope. No milk. Just water. Generally a small amount of rain water mixed with tap water.
POSTED MARCH 9, 1999
Marcia, Jewish female, New York, NY
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RE144: To Scientologists: What exactly do you believe in, and why does your belief cause so much debate? In America, Scientologists are recognized as a church or religion, but in most countries in Europe they are thought of as a sect or cult. And what’s the Hollywood connection? Why the vocal support among many entertainment stars?
POSTED FEB. 18, 1999
Tony W., gay black male, agnostic <tonyway@yahoo.com>, San Francisco, CA
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THE QUESTION:
RE143: To Muslim women living in the United States: Do you feel less liberated than other women around you who are not confined by having to cover their hair? And what is the purpose of that in your religion?
POSTED FEB. 16, 1999
Shannon, 22, white female <shannonrae@collegeclub.com>, San Diego, CA

ANSWER 1:
I am a 25-year-old Muslim woman born and raised in the United States. To be honest, it is all a matter of the woman’s background. Some women who may resent the fact that they wear the hijab, as it is called, may feel “less liberated,” as you say, because they may feel the need to compete or join in with other women in cosmetically managing and displaying their hair. I, on the other hand, as well as other Muslim women I know, feel very dignified to wear the hijab. First of all, I don’t see it, and people shouldn’t see it as being “confined.” This is one of the biased media terms used to describe the hijab from a subjective standpoint. It isn’t like being in prison; it’s only a piece of clothing! It’s not a straitjacket or tether. And to explain its purpose, the hijab is used for the purpose of modesty. We cover the hair as well as the body. We also wear it to distinguish ourselves from those who are not Muslim. These reasons are agreed upon by the majority of Muslims and Islamic scholars. From my point of view, dressing modestly also allows the woman to be viewed for her abilities and intelligence instead of for her sexual/physical attractiveness, which is for the eyes of her husband/family/other women only. I feel much more liberated now that I cover than I did when I was a rebellious teenager, with my thighs, hair, etc., all showing. I no longer have to impress others with my hairstyles (although many of us do get our hair done) and I very, very rarely get disrespected by men’s catcalls and other unwanted advances.
POSTED FEB. 22, 1999
Atiyah, 25, Muslim female <niassi@hotmail.com>, Detroit, MI

FURTHER NOTICE:
In my opinion as an Arab and a Muslim, Muslim women cover their hair because it has been a tradition in the Middle East before even Islam. It is more of a culture than religion. Islam doesn’t value the physical beauty of a person. The important thing is to be healthy. Muslims value the character of the person more. Men also cannot wear jewelry such as gold because the beauty of men is in their character and deeds and not in the way they look.
POSTED FEB. 22, 1999
Arab man <benzahra@physics.spa.umn.edu>, Minneapolis, MN
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THE QUESTION:
RE142: Why is it that we as a species hold religion so high on our list of values, and is it possible to lead a fulfilling life without it?
POSTED FEB. 16, 1999
S.D.P., 21 <bacitiman@home.com>, San Diego , CA

ANSWER 1:
Human beings are relatively unique as a species. We are self-aware, and we know that eventually we’re going to die. Ultimately, I believe religious belief or non-belief is an attempt to answer the question: Does the person cease to exist when the physical body dies, or is there something beyond death? Archaeological finds have shown religious activities since at least the time of the Neanderthals. Given the 30,000 or so years that separate us from them, it’s no wonder religion has become so ingrained and valued in the human culture.
POSTED FEB. 23, 1999
M.K., 30, theist <kemper1@gte.net>, Tampa, FL

FURTHER NOTICE:
I think it comes down to the age-old questions: “Is this all we are? Is there nothing more than this existence? Why are we here, and where are we going?” For most of humanity, these answers cannot be found in the day-to-day struggles of life. Instead, we all look for something greater than ourselves, something that can give order to the chaos around us. For most, this is some version of God. Belief in such a higher power can give meaning where no rational explanation exists. I believe everyone gives in to this desire in some way or form, whether it be an organized faith or simply a strong belief in the theories of science. Is it possible to have a fulfilling life without organized religion? Absolutely. I do not subscribe to any particular organized religion; I prefer the methods of scientific inquiry to the endless contradictions of most religious faiths. However, that path is only one of many, and just because I find it fulfilling does not mean you would. Find your own path to fulfillment, and realize that you are the only person who needs to determine whether you feel that fulfillment.
POSTED FEB. 24, 1999
John K., 25 <the-macs@geocities.com>, Cranford , NJ

FURTHER NOTICE 2:
The experience of the sacred is one of the most basic human experiences. Rudolf Otto coined the term “numinous” to describe the awe and fear humans feel before something that is greater than us. Religion fulfills many important human needs: The need to feel that life has a greater meaning; the need to know how to live one’s life in harmony with oneself, with others, with the cosmos and with God; the need for rituals to mark the important steps in life; the need to feel closer to that power which is greater than all others. When these needs cannot be met through religion, other spheres of human activity often take on a religious aspect. For example, in the Soviet Union, officially atheist, certain leaders were venerated almost as saints. Visiting Stalin’s embalmed body (and why exactly was his body preserved if Communists are atheists and do not believe in an afterlife?) was an act of piety and devotion for many Russians.
POSTED FEB. 24, 1999
C., 21, female, Religious Studies student, Montreal, Quebec, Canada

FURTHER NOTICE 3:
Religion plays an enormous part in our culture because it is a social comfort. It gives a sense of purpose and belonging. And hope. But it is possible to live without it. I studied to be a pastor, and in studying I decided I could not keep faith in what I learned. I felt it restricted logical, rounded thought. I live a happy life without church. I do not have a relationship with God or Allah or any other form of deity. I don’t feel the need, and I don’t need the restrictions it would bring to me. But as long as it helps people, more power to it. But when it interferes with human freedom and harms freedom of thought, I feel it is one of the most harmful things in America.
POSTED FEB. 24, 1999
J. Bilbrey, 26, white male <slingblade@qconline.com>, Quad Cities, IL

FURTHER NOTICE 4:
I attend church, but what I value most is my relationship with God. Even more accurately, I’d say I value my connection. There has been for a very long time an internal need to know, believe, seek something greater than myself. I believe this is innate. I have experienced this gnawing desire on many levels, both consciously and unconsciously, all my life. When I have consciously acknowledged my desire to commune with God, I have experienced the greatest level of peace. And peace for me has not been the absence of pain or discomfort, but an acceptance that calms my spirit in such a way that I feel all is well despite my outer experiences.

I’ve stopped seeking the “right” church and questioning others’ beliefs. Instead, I’m learning to trust my inner guide. I believe God exists for all of us in some fashion. Some of us accept God; others reject the idea of a supreme being, but we all acknowledge something beyond ourselves if only in our rejection of it.

I believe the topic of religion and God is so subjective and personal that only in the most intimate way can we honestly know, experience, believe or not believe in a Creator.I n the last seven years, I have consciously decided to stop questioning many things about religion and God, not because these concerns are not worthy of inquiry but rather that my journey has taken me to a place where being one with God has proven to be more satisfying. In short, I am experiencing fulfillment and purpose for the first time in my life. I try to experience this kind of communion as often as I can.
POSTED MARCH 9, 1999
Zawadi, black female, 34, aquarius9@hotmail.com Detroit, MI

FURTHER NOTICE 5:
I’m 16 and athiest, and so are my parents. I was raised Christian by my grandmother, but never really got too deep into it. I live a fulfilling life because I have no boundaries or prejudices caused by a religion. I feel free to be myself and have learned to be more appreciative of myself and to believe in myself, rather than simply pray to something that won’t help your problem. I have learned a lot from my mother about organized religion and how it has warped everything. She was at one time studying to become a Unity minister, but then changed her mind when she realized what a huge mistake it would be. I know you can lead a happy, successful life without religion blocking your way.
Ariel, 16, Armenian female, athiest <Pink_Indian@hotmail.com>, Fresno , CA
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THE QUESTION:
RE141: Are Hindu men from India circumcised?
POSTED FEB. 15, 1999
Donna, 36, white American female, <Basilli2@aol.com>, Marietta , GA

ANSWER 1:
The Hindu religion does not prescribe this procedure for men or women (as practiced in North Africa). And the perceived medical benefits often talked about in the United States (for men) have never been an issue in India.
POSTED FEB. 16, 1999
S.M., Indian and Hindu <palakkadan@yahoo.com>, Baltimore , MD

FURTHER NOTICE:
Indian Hindu men are not circumcised. It’s not even a religious matter. Circumcision is common in Muslims, not Hindus.
POSTED FEB. 28, 1999
Asian Indian, 21, male <wayne19@hotmail.com>, Tallahassee , FL