Dare To Ask Talk And News About Our Differences By PHILLIP MILANO Question I have noticed that women seated with crossed legs frequently rhythmically move their top leg up and down, or alternatively pivot their foot. Are they just nervous, or is there something, shall we say, more interesting going on? Peter N., Madison, Wis. Replies No, your fantasies aren’t true. Anna B., 52, Seattle Is everything sex to …
Read More »DARE TO ASK: Do older men tend to bathe less?
By PHILLIP MILANO Question Why do many senior citizens view a daily shave (for men) as virtually mandatory, while daily bathing of the whole body is pretty much a matter of personal preference? I would feel dirty if I did not shower daily. I would much rather have clean hair and a full beard, washed daily, than be meticulous about …
Read More »DARE TO ASK: To ignore or to ‘see’ homeless
By PHILLIP MILANO Question Why don’t people view the homeless as “real” people? I was homeless by choice for years, and the rudeness I had to deal with was insane. I would try to ask the time and be told, “No, I don’t have any.” Margaret M., 21, Greensboro, N.C. Replies I’ve always viewed the homeless as human beings and …
Read More »DARE TO ASK: You have a problem with that?
By PHILLIP MILANO Question I know a large amount of Italian-American families with houses filled with rococo furniture, clear vinyl-covered chairs, loud wallpaper, yards covered in statuary, initials on the garage door, ornate wrought-iron fences and bricked-over front lawns. Why is this? Dave, white male, Denver Replies Most Italian immigrants came from poor backgrounds. Many had a flamboyant nature. I’m …
Read More »Ivy mansions make me feel poor, insignificant … and nanny-less
When I go to rich areas of Montreal (like Westmount), even if I’m just walking in the street or looking around in a store, I feel out of place. I feel as if everyone must know that I don’t belong there. I feel self-conscious about my clothes and manners. Looking at those huge, gorgeous old houses with ivy all over …
Read More »‘I would LOVE to be that skinny … but only with bigger boobs’
I frequently use humour to ease discomfort of others regarding my disability and weight. I do not have a problem with people joking about my disabilities. HOWEVER, I am the first to bark when I feel someone is being cruel. The other day, a woman commented on another woman being ‘skinny’. In a crowded room she said ‘Look at her!’ …
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