Dare To Ask Talk And News About Our Differences By PHILLIP MILANO Question Most people accept being bumped into as part of living in a busy metropolis. But every time I bump into a black person, they get extremely upset and start yelling. What’s up with this? Mark, 49, white, New York Replies Blacks have a greater sense of personal space and take it as an aggressive act to …
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By PHILLIP MILANO Question I have a tongue piercing. In all other respects I look conventional. What would your reaction be if you saw me? Anne, 19, London Replies The only thing that runs through my head is “ow!” I grew up in the San Francisco Bay Area, and it got to the point that if you didn’t have multiple …
Read More »DARE TO ASK: What’s best way to handle breast issue?
By PHILLIP MILANO Question If you’re a male client, where does your female hairstylist expect you to look when she’s leaning in front of you, exposing ample cleavage? Lee, 37, male, Fairfax, Va. Replies Good boys always look forward and behave when they get their hair cut. If there happens to be a pair of enormous breasts there, it’s not …
Read More »DARE TO ASK: Ignorance often leads to hostility
By PHILLIP MILANO Question Why is there such hostility toward Jewish people? Reez, 32, Asian male, Toronto Replies Throughout history, Jews were outsiders. Political power derived its legitimacy from Christianity, so Jews were politically suspect. Economically, they were useful but despised: not being allowed to own land in many places, they were forced into mercantile trades; having connections with other …
Read More »DARE TO ASK: For lesbians, is it only all about sex?
By PHILLIP MILANO Question My wife is in her 40s and until recently was never approached by lesbians in her workplace. They know she is married with a family, but now they are relentless in pursuing her sexually (she thinks it is rather exciting to be noticed). Not only are extramarital affairs wrong, but breaking up a family for your …
Read More »DARE TO ASK: Can whites be ‘smelly’ like a deli?
By PHILLIP MILANO Question Where did the statement “white people smell like bologna” originate? S. May, 38, white female, Toronto Replies It most likely has to do with diet. For instance, Italians (of which I’m one) have a tendency to smell like garlic because there is a lot of garlic in our food. Dave L., 31, New York White people …
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