[~denise23962]

I’m against it. I know some do last but what is the hurry? I got married at 17, bought a house at 18 had a baby and 19 and anohter at 21 all the time working toward finishing college and that marraige lasted 14 years — which was about 13.5 years too long. A lot of waisted time there. I cherish my children from that marriage but being brought up in a bad marriage was no favor to them. The divorce wasn’t a favor to them either. It is SO much eaiser to marry than it is to divorce. I am not even close to the same person I am today that I was at 17… I didn’t even know WHO I was so how could I give myself to another? Some marriages do last but a lot of them are about quantity and not quality marriage. IOW, they are not all that happy… they’ve just endured the years… who wants to live like that? I stayed single and as much alone as possible post-divorce and I learned a lot about me. Things I should have been learning when I was busy being wife, mom, student and so on… things I didn’t learn till my 30’s that should have been learned in my late teens and early 20’s. Both my older children have come to me ‘ready’ to get married. My 22 year old twice and my 21 year old once and so far I’ve talked them into just ‘waiting’ a year — all relationships broke up before that year was up. When I finally met a man I thought I would want to spend my life with I gave myself 5 years with him FIRST and then was agreeable to marriage. We are so happy together it is unbelievable — we have a wonderful 5 year old that we cherish and we are truly happy… the way we would choose to be as a family. I think it would be rare at 17 for anyone to know themselves well enough to give themselves to someone else. I believe young people owe themselves the years alone to get to know themselves. To learn what is important in a partner and when they think they have found ‘that’ special soul mate to wait at least a year to get to know that special person. If we are going to make a life long commitment to another person doesn’t that deserve at least 1 year to get to know each other?

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Name : ~denise23962, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Pagan, Age : 42, City : Houston, State : TX, Country : United States, Social class : Middle class, 

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