[Tom-L]

Nobody knows. Lots of gay men remember that when they were children, they played with girls’ toys. But others played only with boys’ toys, sometimes very agressively. Dressing up is common to all young children as they explore the world. And the love of pink means nothing at all. (In fact, pink for girls, blue for boys was a marketing strategy some advertisers developed early in this century. At first, the plan was to assign pink to boys, because the color is so active, even agressive, while “everybody knows” blue is a quiet, calm, thoughtful color, appropriate to girls. For some reason the advertisers decided to switch colors.) Meanings of colors are culturally assigned. In the United States, black is the color of mourning; in Japan, it’s white.

What really matters is for you to love your son, to support him as he explores the world and starts deciding what place in it is right for him. By now his sexual orientation is set – whatever it is. He can’t change it. You can’t change it. He can, of course, hide it, repress it, deny it. But the personal cost of doing so is so great that it will deform his character, his ability to love, even his ability to enjoy life … forever. If he’s gay, he’ll learn to hide, just so he can continue to survive.

Whether he’s straight or gay, he needs to know his mother and father love him for being the special person that he is.

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Name : Tom-L, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 55, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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