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My three-year-old son loves to play with Barbies and likes to be ‘the girl’ whenever he and his brother role-play. He plays with girlfriends’ purses and high heels and loves pink. Are these early signs of homosexuality?
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Name : P-S-K, Gender : F, Age : 28, City : N/A, State : FL, Country : United States,Is playing baseball with the guys and being a tomboy an indication a girl will grow up to be a lesbian? I doubt it. I think it means he’s creative. The main thing is not to freak out and make him feel this play is somehow wrong and that he has to hide it. He’ll probably get enough of that when he hits pre-school. And in my opinion, that kind of censure is one of the major forces for pain in lots of kids’ young lives – straight, gay, bisexual or transgender.
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Name : Jezebel-R, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, City : Duluth, State : MN, Country : United States,Nobody knows. Lots of gay men remember that when they were children, they played with girls’ toys. But others played only with boys’ toys, sometimes very agressively. Dressing up is common to all young children as they explore the world. And the love of pink means nothing at all. (In fact, pink for girls, blue for boys was a marketing strategy some advertisers developed early in this century. At first, the plan was to assign pink to boys, because the color is so active, even agressive, while “everybody knows” blue is a quiet, calm, thoughtful color, appropriate to girls. For some reason the advertisers decided to switch colors.) Meanings of colors are culturally assigned. In the United States, black is the color of mourning; in Japan, it’s white.
What really matters is for you to love your son, to support him as he explores the world and starts deciding what place in it is right for him. By now his sexual orientation is set – whatever it is. He can’t change it. You can’t change it. He can, of course, hide it, repress it, deny it. But the personal cost of doing so is so great that it will deform his character, his ability to love, even his ability to enjoy life … forever. If he’s gay, he’ll learn to hide, just so he can continue to survive.
Whether he’s straight or gay, he needs to know his mother and father love him for being the special person that he is.
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Name : Tom-L, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 55, City : Washington, State : DC, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Don’t worry about your boy. I loved my sister’s Barbies when I was a boy. I also dressed up like a girl when no one was home. But there was nothing my parents could have said or done to prevent me from loving men as an adult. Love your child for what he is, not for what you hope he will or will not become.
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Name : Marc, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Age : 33, City : Utica, State : NY, Country : United States,
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