[Stuart S.]

First, not all men get the urge to rape. I abhor the thought of such predation. I’m not a violent person, but I have imagined wanting to do violence to any man who does this to a woman. What most people DO have is a desire for at least a certain degree of control of others. I think rape happens when someone becomes fixated on this control, to the point of becoming neurotic. Personally, I can’t sexually function with an unenthusiastic partner, so the thought of rape has no appeal to me (to say the least). With regard to your second question, I think nearly all men see women as sex objects. Certainly, I do this. Now, stay with me here, I DON’T see women ONLY as sex objects. I have many women friends, and don’t think much about their sexuality when we’re together. I think some about it, but not at the expense of everything else. I can feel affection for a woman without wanting to have sex with her. I have reported to women in the workplace, and find myself more motivated working for a woman than most men I’ve worked for. I can feel sexually attracted to a woman who does not seem to feel the same about me, and still get along well with her. I have no problem confiding this feeling to her, or just avoiding the subject altogether if I’ve gathered that she would be uneasy with the subject. Usually, it’s the latter. If there’s a curse to being a male, it’s probably the frustration resulting from the ratio of ‘potential’ sexual partners to the number of actual sexual partners. With regard to porn, I do watch it and am not sure why. It’s probably a misguided attempt to satisfy a desire, maybe similar to overeating. I think it can reinforce the notion that women are only sex objects, but I doubt it creates that notion. I’ve noticed that my interest in watching it diminishes as I interact more with women professionally. I know porn is highly offensive to most women, and can only repeat that my desire to watch it does not mean that I think of women only as sex objects.

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Name : Stuart S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 47, City : Austin, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : IT Professional, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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