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The Arkansas case involving the 13-year-old and the two guys didn’t make national headlines because of what seems to be a case of expected stereotyping. Meaning, we aren’t interested in news stories that up hold our beliefs. We’re interested in news stories that shake our held beliefs or that are actually news to us. The fact that gay people are dying at the hands of straight people just isn’t what most of America thinks to be true, thus it is interesting. Most of America thinks gay people hurt kids, thus that is uninteresting. So straight people’s perceptions of gays is a part of the reason for it not getting bigger headlines.
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Name : Patrick S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I was only 17 when I finally realized the fact that I liked men was going to always be a part of my life. But it wasn’t until I was 20 that I realized I was gay and not bisexual or straight going through a phase of life. Of course, I possibly would have dated a guy sooner and found myself sooner had my family been supportive. So, give him time to figure it out himself. He’s trying to found himself in the sexual spectrum of life.
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Name : Patrick S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,A friend who works in the courts building dealing with cases of pedophiles says the majority of sexual offenders of children are heterosexuals. He said the men pick out the child not because of the child’s gender, but because they’re defenseless and a child. So pedophilia is all about the victim being a child, not about the assailant’s sexual orientation.
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Name : Patrick S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Kassius, it’s true that the Two Golden Rules of Jesus replace the old rules of the Old Testament (Levit.). That was my whole point. Jesus said, “Love God with your whole heart, mind, & soul. And, love thy neighbor as thy self.” With those rules, he didn’t point out a difference for straights or gays. But some people still use the old rules to enforce a belief that homosexuals are condemned automatically.
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Name : Patrick S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,In regard to your family, make sure you have a place you can live if coming out to your family doesn’t go well. I knew my parents could possibly throw me out when I came out to them, so I waited until I was able to support myself. When I told them, they threw me out. Luckily, I foresaw this, planned and could “quickly” move out. After a year, my mother and most of my brothers have accepted me. My father is still another matter. I think he’ll eventually come around. So prepare for the worst, but hope for the best. Once you’re able to support yourself, definitely come out to your family, but make sure you have supportive friends first during the tough times ahead. You’ll find that once you’ve dealt with coming out to your parents, life will definitely become easier to deal with, and you’ll be able to be more accepting of yourself. There will be a few months (or a year) of family heart-ache ahead, but after that, it’ll be worth it. As far as your brother’s high school, it’s up to him to spread your personal life through high school. You’re not there any more to do that.
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Name : Patrick S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Even though it was tough for me to come out of the closet, and I had thoughts of “if I could only change” before I came out to everyone, I still like the fact that I’m me. One of my greatest fears as a child was that I would be just like all the other people around me. I enjoy the fact that I’m different and that I have the unique gift to girl-talk with total strangers, the gift to be comfortable with my emotional side, and gift to feel other people’s emotions (kind of like Diana Troy on Star Trek). You state that “someday there will be a cure for homosexuals.” I do not believe homosexuality is a disease. I believe God made homosexuals for a reason. Straight men seem to be good at building buildings. Gay men, like Michelangelo and de Vinci, were good at designing and decorating buildings. Homosexuals seem to have gifts to offer the world. Changing that would be changing God’s will.
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Name : Patrick S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Norm states that gays assert that “multiple sexual partners are a defining parameter of that lifestyle.” That isn’t the defining lifestyle of gay males. To say so is like saying straight males have a natural habit of sleeping with women whenever they can. It’s just stereotyping. For a lot of gays, including my partner and I, we don’t sleep around. We’re not promiscuous. We don’t fit into your definition of gay lifestyles, but we’re gay. Gay people are just as promiscuous as straight people. We’re just news/media videotaped more often for ratings.
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Name : Patrick S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,According to Normand, “Leaving the Church may, for you, be the only viable solution.” I would like you to make sure that you try the avenue of DIGNITY, the Catholic gay/lesbian/bi/transgendered support group. I’ve been very happy since coming to this group; and I didn’t have to give up my faith. Oh, the previous remarks comparing homosexuality to alcoholism, wife abuse and embezzlement, and implyng that “… it is we ourselves who have the power to choose …” is no longer believed by the Catholic Church. The Roman Catholic Bishops are in agreement that sexual orientation is inherent, thus not comparable to those other traits that are chosen.
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Name : Patrick S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Christ/God never said whether he was gay or not. I don’t believed it mattered. God never said man=heterosexual. I believe he said man=”my child.” He never mentioned anything about gays because it wasn’t an issue with him. His love is definitely more infinite than the people’s on Earth. The books of Paul and Leviticus mention abomination in reference to gays; but they also mentions the same thing about having sex with a woman during her period, eating sausage, not paying exactly one day’s worth of wage for a dove, and more. While some of us understand that these were rules to govern life in those days and a reflection of cultural bias, the rest of us pick and choose what rules we will and won’t abide by and ridicule others by the remaining rules. Remember there are about 864 rules for heterosexuals and about eight for homosexuals. Luckly, I’m not keeping score.
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Name : Patrick S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I don’t find that my gay community is more or just as prejudiced than the straight community. I do find that the older generations may exibit more bias. But, on the whole, the gay community of mine is more accepting of difference. I have several transgendered friends that my partner, Paul, and I spend time with and have a hoot with. But it’s true that bigots exist everywhere.
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Name : Patrick S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The “Catholic self-help group catering to homosexuals desiring change” has been proven to be more damaging than helpful. If you don’t believe me, check the research studies at the MIT or the Sexology Department at the University of Indianna web site. I assure you that I tried to be straight. But, as much as I wanted to be straight, I’m still gay. I was/am an elector, catechist, choir member and more within the Roman Catholic Church for six years. My partner and I attend church every week. And, the stance of the Roman Catholic Church is that sexual orientation is inherent and no need to be changed. Thus, all Catholics are invited to be members of the church. If you don’t believe me, talk to the bishop of Fort Worth, Texas. He told us so. Oh, the public schools aren’t full of disinformation about homosexuality. They’re just now getting information.
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Name : Patrick S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I was raised in a very strong Catholic faith, went to CCD and mass every week, and still am a lector, catechist and more within the Catholic Church. Religion is part of my life, and I’m gay. At first, I felt left out of my religion. So, for a few months, I went to Cathedral of Hope Metropolitan Community Church. It was very open to gays and accepting. But I still felt out of place since my roots were Catholic; and I’ll be Catholic till I die. I soon found DIGNITY, the gay/lesbian/bi/transgendered group of the Catholic Church. We have mass and are working with the bishop to intergrate gays into the full body of the church once again, like less than a millennium ago. On the Internet, search for “Catholic Dignity” and read. I’ve now found my place within the Catholic Church and am happy.
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Name : Patrick S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,The gay movement didn’t become so powerful and influential by itself. Gay people have become open and honest about who they are and have educated more people around them. It’s hard to make a powerful statement by yourself. But, we’re not by ourselves anymore. We’re becoming more accepted because we’re coming out and saying who we are. People who didn’t know gays before are finding out that they’ve always known us. We’re their family members and friends; and they’re finding out that it’s no longer a secrete topic. It’s as normal as man and woman.
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Name : Patrick S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,My parents were afraid I would be promiscuous and catch AIDS when they found out I was gay. But, as they found out, I don’t sleep around; and I’m very happy with my partner. They got their views from the news networks here, which go to the most open/concentrated gay areas to get their shocking news bites. The most openly gay and news-taped areas do seem to be more promiscuous. But there are actually more gay people in the non-openly-gay/non-news-taped neighborhoods than just in the gay-ghettos; and they aren’t the ‘6 O’clock news-bite stories’ type. They’ve got houses, play the organ at the Catholic church, work together around the house, volunteer at school and mow the yard with their partner. My mother now knows this. The news just didn’t cover the other homosexuals.
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Name : Patrick S., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Catholic, Age : 24, City : Dallas, State : TX, Country : United States, Occupation : Programmer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
