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- I don't think it's a hatred toward Americans but more a disappointment toward them. The United States is one of the wealthiest and most technologically advanced nations in the world, but Americans seem to think nothing else exists outside their borders. To prove this point, one of Canada's most popular satire TV shows, 'This Hour Has 22 Minutes,' constantly makes trips to the United States to interview Americans, spotlighting their ignorance about Canada with funny results. For example, the interviewer asked if a bill should be passed in Canada allowing citizens to put elderly people on chunks of floating ice to let them drift up to the North Pole to die! Clearly this is a very stupid thing to consider, but every American interviewed took the question seriously, and passionately showed their disagreement and even signed a petition to prevent such an act. One study showed that six out of 10 U.S. sixth-graders could not find the United States on an unmarked map of the world. And 0 out of 10 sixth-graders could find Canada! (Note: Canada sits right on top of the United States.) Don't think everyone hates the United States; if they did, why would so many try to enter the country illegally every day?
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Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,These people you see may not even be hospital staff. A few years ago, wearing green hospital scrubs was a fashion trend among teenagers where I lived. They were getting these scrubs on the 'black market,' probably from hospital employees wanting to make a few extra bucks. As far as sanitary reasons go, these scrubs usually never see the inside of an operating room because they get stolen off the supply truck even before they reach the loading bay at the hospitals. This made it difficult to track, because when the hospital supply rooms were full, it was hard to tell exactly how much was getting stolen off the truck. For a while the hospital didn't care because their supply demand was always fulfilled. The person losing out was the garment company that made these scrubs in the first place.User Detail :
Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,Putting aside all the stereotypical conceptions, I'll try to provide a more 'politically correct' response. The reason it appears that there are more minorities in the welfare system is possibly due to two factors: 1) The well-known oppression factor, where blacks are simply not given the chance to be allowed to make a living for themselves, and thus, end up on welfare. And 2) Their children, and their children's children, are on welfare because they were 'born' into the system. It's all they've ever known, and therefore, there is no influence or impression for these children to abide by to have a comfortable, well-respected living.User Detail :
Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,Just tell us what you want!User Detail :
Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,I have relatives that are poor, and I do think they are lazy with a very low work ethic. I consider myself upper middle class. I don't make a salary that compares to what a lawyer makes, or what Ted Turner makes, but I can afford a large house and have a comfortable living. My relatives, on the other hand, have zero interest in making any effort to better themselves or provide themselves with a comfortable living. I'm 32 with a wife, two kids, large house and a mini-van. Some of my relatives are in their 60s, on welfare, in a trailer park and no education to speak of. Where did these people go wrong? In a single word... Discipline. I believe anyone can do anything as long as they have a little self-respect and a lot of discipline. If you get a half-decent education, you can do anything. I don't have a master's degree or a Phd.; I have a trade. And even with a trade, you can get a very good-paying job. When you show desire and initiative, people will notice you, and then you start getting better offers. I do not lend money to my poor relatives because I know I won't get it back. It's not that I can't afford to give it to them, I just believe that I'm not doing them any favors by giving handouts. If that is the lifestyle they choose, why should I be the one to bail them out? I find it amazing how people in North America take education for granted. And free education at that! Every time I watch COPS or Jerry Springer, I cannot believe how people will allow themselves to live by the lowest common denominator. I honestly believe that we should adopt China's philosophey in that if you don't acquire a certain level of living standard, you are required to be sterilized so that you don't bring other children into this world. Why must our children suffer poverty because you are too lazy with no self-respect? Many of my poor relatives have called me materialistic. Am I so materialistic that I am able to afford a car that doesn't break down every other day? Or to be able to afford a well-built house with no structural problems or with the impending doom of foreclosure? Or being able to feed my children healthy food so they are able to perform well in school so that they are able to enjoy a comfortable lifestyle? If any of my relatives are reading this (even though half of you can't read), I mean it when I say, DIE.User Detail :
Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,As a man in my thirties, I can relate to the same problem of being self-conscious of my genitals. Maybe your boyfriend got sized up one day in gym class and hasn't been the same since. I speak for all men when I say we are never happy with our genitals. Even if a man has a rather large penis, he may complain about the shape, color or even the way it dangles. I was the same way with my girlfriend (now my wife), and she couldn't understand it, either. My suggestion is just to give him time. Simply don't bring up the subject and eventually he'll realize that if it doesn't matter to you, it shouldn't matter to him. Eventually, he'll come around.User Detail :
Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,For the most part, you are right. Most white people don't understand what happened to black people during slavery days. But since slavery took place more than 200 years ago, how can you say YOU understand? You are not a slave, and you certainly didn't live 200 years ago. Let's look at this from a modern perspective: You say that 'blacks in America are the only race of people who were stripped of religion, culture and heritage.' Well, thanks to modern technology, why don't you save up some money and visit Africa and learn about your heritage? For that matter, let me ask you this: Why is it that blacks act like they are the ONLY race that has been oppressed? Have you ever been to Russia or East Germany? Lots of oppressed white people there during Communist times (and don't forget about the millions of Jews who lost their lives during World War II). Or how about China or Cuba? Lots of non-black or white people oppressed there, too. Oh yes, and let's not forget about the Native American Indian.I think that once you visit Africa and see how hard life can be there, you'll thank your lucky stars you live in North America. And let's take this one step further: During slavery times, there was a secret joint effort between Canadian and U.S. citizens to smuggle black people into Canada, where there was no slavery. They were provided with farmland and allowed to live their culture, but even to this day they still bitch and complain.
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Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,As a white man, I can't speak for the East Indian community, but from what I have experienced. I have worked/socialized with many East Indian people (male and female, young and old), and not one smelled as if they never washed. Whether they have lived in North America their whole lives or are just off the boat, I have yet to meet one who offended my nose. The only scent experience I have had with East Indians is in their homes. I have noticed from time to time that they cook with strong spices, and the whole house smells like an East Indian restaurant (not that it's a bad smell, it's rather pleasing, actually). I don't understand why East Indians seem to be the target. I have met many white people in my time who smell like yesterday's trash, yet no one seems to think this is a white trait - except that they smell like wet dogs when they are wet!User Detail :
Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,For the most part, I think you are right: American society is full of psychopaths and nut cases. I think it's because of two things: 1) A huge population. The more people there are, the more nut cases you're going to get. Many of these people who need help end up falling through the cracks as far as getting care because there just aren't enough (professional) people to help them. 2) Guns. They have always been a problem in the United States. They like beating that outdated Constitution of theirs to death. It's a shame that any nut-case can get a gun.My defense for these comments? I live in Canada. We are literally next door to the United States, and we don't have nearly half the problems Americans do. Sure, we have nut cases and killings here, but because of our small population, most nut cases are able to get help and be kept away from harming society. And as far as guns go, it's no contest. We just don't believe in them.
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Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,Why Blacks' mispronouncing words could be related to two things: 1) Messed up Education system; in that teachers in the states just don't care about the welfare (no pun intended) about blacks and how they are taught, or how well they learn (here's your diploma, now get outta here!) and 2) Community. When you have large groups of any kind of people condensed in a particular area, you are bound to get diversity. For example, if you go to England and spoke with a black man, he would most definitely sound British in comparrison to their North American counter-parts. Instead of just pointing out blacks, you could also ask why white Americans from the South sound like a bunch 'rednecks'? (how-dee, yaalll. how-ya-dewin'?)User Detail :
Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,You answered your own question. Because of their financial situation (or lack thereof) of being poor, the grand majority of these people cannot afford birth control. You would think that common sense would dictate that if you have no money, you should try your best to prevent having more children. But then again, to me, these people are poor because they have no common sense.User Detail :
Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,I think you don't hear about too many "crazy minorities" committing crimes because they are already in jail now for other crimes. It is no secret how the police/justice system treats visible minorities in the United States. When the white public hears about "one of their own" committing a heinous crime, it's shocking, whereas a minority committing the same crime is looked upon as exhibiting "typical" minority behavior.User Detail :
Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,When I was single, women barely talked to me much less notice me. But when I got a girlfriend (who is now my wife) I had to 'beat the women off with a stick' Once, while waiting for a bus, a woman started talking to me, then flirting, then eventually asked me out (turned her down of course) The point is, she had never seen me before, I'd never seen her before, she didn't know I had a girlfriend, and I in no way sent her any signals (didn't know she was there until she started talking to me) But this was the EXACT same kind of girl that I would be attracted to but would shoot me down instantly. Either we produce I'm-taken-but-take-your-best-shot pheromones, or women simply have a sixth sense about these thingsUser Detail :
Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,I think you are over-reacting. The questions you use in your example come once in a blue moon. Agreed, "Why do black people have white palms" is a silly question. But, what would you rather see, an ignorant Caucasian (like myself) post a question like that on the Internet, where no real harm is done, or have the same person stop you in the middle of the street and say, "Hello, black person, tell me, Why are your palms white?" only to embarrass both you and that silly honky? Admit it, there are worse questions that could be posted, and I think Y? Forum does a good job weeding out the "questionable" ones. You say, "As an Afro-American, I find them (questions) offensive." Well, Steve, as a Caucasian, I find (some) of these questions informative. I never knew what "melanin" was until I read the "white palm" question. Agreed, the questions could be better worded, but they wouldn't be as interesting. Why don't you take the opportunity and post some of your own silly questions like "Why do all rednecks seem to be inbred?" or, to borrow a page from comedian Chris Rock, "Why don't white people have any butts?" (That question blows your "Whites are standard" theory.) Anyway, loosen up and just take these questions for what they are : Questions! Peace.User Detail :
Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,Dividing the domestic work among couples who recently moved in together can be tricky. My wife and I discovered the best way to "delegate" work was to sit down and decide what we each "liked" doing, as opposed to "I'm not doing that." That only causes trouble. For example, my wife "likes" doing laundry, I "like" dusting and vacuuming. The 50/50 theory simply will not work, because you start arguing who-did-what-last and how much of it. We discovered it's best to stick with what you each do best, and be the sole person responsible for that task. As far as child care goes, same thing. One thing we did decide on was that she was the person who did all the feeding (because she breastfead, which I highly recommend) and I changed the diapers exclusively. It's a sh---y job, but someone has to do it (sorry). Over time, you'll discover who-does-what. The trick is to be patient and understanding and respectful. Remember, you are going to be with this person for the rest of your life, hammer out the rules now!User Detail :
Name : Murray C., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Unitarian, Age : 31, City : Halifax, Nova Scotia, State : NA Country : Canada, Occupation : Draftsman, Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class,
