[Mrs. Williams]

All my life I have been call ‘black,’ ‘thick’ and ‘heavy.’ When I was younger, these comments upset me. But as I got older, I realized that 1) Black men loved my black thickness. They saw it as wonderful and desireable. 2) White women, who are considered beautiful for being thin and fair, miss out on good food, warm sun and daring dress styles by letting others define their beauty. 3) ‘Black and thick’ does not mean ugly. That’s just a true assessment of who I am. My family told me I was beautiful. I couldn’t deny that. I think most black women realize at a very early age tha we will never be ‘mainstream’ pretty in America. We also learn that we are beautiful and desireable because we see our fathers, brothers and uncles wanting, desiring and complimenting beautiful black women. Confidence comes from inside, when you realize that you will never be what fashion magazines want but can still acknowledge that you are ‘all that’ because you look in the mirror and can see it. You learn to carry your confidence well and have no shame for being who you are.

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Name : Mrs. Williams, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 28, City : Athens, State : GA, Country : United States, Occupation : educator, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

[Mrs. Williams]

I am a very dark-complected black woman. I have always felt that the shade of my skin affected black people a whole lot more than any other race. I’m an attractive woman and so have had many black men say stupid things to me, like, ‘You’re pretty for a such a dark girl.’ For me, that’s the easiest way for a man to get a blow-off. I hate it. I wonder if being light is an automatic equal to being pretty to some black men. I hope that my son will not have this problem, and I try to make sure he knows that skin color is a poor sign of character and intelligence. I am very comfortable with people of all shades, but I do feel that a lot of black people are not.

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Name : Mrs. Williams, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 28, City : Athens, State : GA, Country : United States, Occupation : educator, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

[Mrs. Williams]

I respect your for being honest. I have always been cute, not beautiful or pretty, just very cute. I have not problems not being pretty or beautiful. I am the best I can be at cute and I enjoy it.

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Name : Mrs. Williams, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 28, City : Athens, State : GA, Country : United States, Occupation : educator, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

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