[Mike T.]

I'm kind of a porn fan, myself. I'm not proud of the fact, but not exactly ashamed of it, either. Men (and women) have utilized porn since the first Trogolodyte carved a 'boo-boo doll' out of a hunk of wood from the fire pit. I suppose if my mate was really opposed to it, I could live without it. But my preference would be to find a woman who also enjoyed it;that way it could be something to bring us closer together, rather than push us apart.

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Name : Mike T., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 40s, City : Grand Rapids, State : MI Country : United States, Occupation : Editor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Mike T.]

It's been my experience that white American males are attracted to Asian women who have (believe it or not) a 'mixed ethnicity' look - part Asian, part European. I think the real draw, though, is the myth (I'm assuming it's a myth) that Asian girls are comfortable in a subservient position. I've dated a couple Asian girls, and neither were anything resembling subservient. But I do have to admit that - at first, at least - I was attracted to the 'unusualness' factor: they were something other than the blonde-haired, blue-eyed girls of my hometown. Also, I think American men are intrigued by the old notion that Asian women are somehow 'schooled in the ways of love.' Another myth, unfortunately.

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Name : Mike T., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 40s, City : Grand Rapids, State : MI Country : United States, Occupation : Editor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Mike T.]

It's possible that men really DO see you as warm, funny, loving, caring, understanding and unconditional. Unfortunately, all those things are traits a man considers AFTER he's satisfied the 'prime directive' in looking for a mate. In short: tits and ass. Sorry to be so blunt, but that's pretty much the first thing a guy sees. A pretty face is also important, but definitely a secondary consideration for most men. In a perfect world, personality traits would be the primary draw in a romantic relationship. Sadly, this isn't a perfect world. (This isn't to say you're not attractive, of course. For all I know you're the most beautiful woman since Helen of Troy. So please don't take offense.)

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Name : Mike T., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 40s, City : Grand Rapids, State : MI Country : United States, Occupation : Editor, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Mike T.]

Like you, I spent about 20 years nailing pretty much every cute girl who came my way, and there were literally hundreds, as I played (and still play) in a semi-sucessful rock band. Most of this happened during the '80s, when the sex was at least somewhat less dangerous than it is these days, or was considered so, at least. I also indulged in most of the other "fun" proffered by that profession: booze, drugs, all-night parties. To be honest, it was a great time and I don't regret a day of it. When I met the woman who was to become my wife (in a club in which my band was playing) I was completely honest with her about my past, most of which she could have guessed anyway. MORE IMPORTANTLY, she was honest with me about HER past, which was almost as sleazy as my own. We'd both done the party scene to death and were ready for a change. I was happy to have a woman who at least had some understanding of the life I'd lived up till that point. We've been married for about 13 years now, and are pretty much your happy little suburbanites; white picket fence, the works. My point is: she trusted me from the start enough to be honest with me. Because of that, I've always tried to earn that trust, and I in turn, trust her implicitly. If she had waited to tell me about her past, or if I had found out about it later, I'm not sure I'd feel the same way about her that I do. Hokey, maybe, but honesty really is - in this case at least - the best policy.

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