[Michael]

I noticed in this question an implicit assumption that all (or the majority) of gay men act feminine. This assumption, though understandable in the current cultural climate, reveals a misunderstanding of homosexuality. To equate homosexuality with femininity is to twist homosexuality into a caricature of itself. Naturally, because of contrast, the feminine gay guy is going to be more quickly identified as being gay. However, many (perhaps even a majority) of gay men are not feminine-acting any more than the average straight man. If you met me on the street, you would never know by my mannerisms or appearance that I was a gay man. I do not hide my sexual orientation, nor am I ashamed of it, but by acting as comes natural to me, I am very masculine and, as society would see it, ‘straight acting.’ If you were to visit an average neighborhood gay club, you would find that, though there will certainly be some flamboyant guys around, you would find many more there who would better remind you of your co-workers or next-door-straight-neighbor. I believe many of us who are gay believe that the freedom to express our ‘feminine’ feelings and characteristics is a positive thing that even the straight community would be well-served to allow more. Any time a healthy natural tendency must be suppressed due to societal pressures, society is ill-served by such pressures. But just being gay does not mean that I will necessarily fully embrace feminine qualities to the exclusion of any trace of masculinity.

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Name : Michael, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 29, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

[Michael]

I believe that the ‘gay culture’ allows guys to explore the more feminine characteristics that we all face without fear of gender-related stereotypes. Whereas, in the ‘straight’ culture, guys are pressured to display their masculinity (‘i love football and manual labor’) and to suppress their natural femininity (‘don’t cry at movies, don’t comment on the beauty of nature’), this pressure is not evident among homosexuals. If anything, it is the freedom of our community that allows us to express ourselves in ways that are, in reality, quite natural to all men, whether gay or straight. And, it is this freedom that causes some guys who, whether by genetics or personal background, gravitate toward their feminine side, to express that in a more ‘flamboyant’ way.

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Name : Michael, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 29, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

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