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I don’t think this makes you gay, this makes you a man. Contrary to popular belief, being gay is far less about what you do sexually than it is about who you are. If men don’t turn you on when you’re unaroused, it’s unlikely that they will turn you on when you are aroused. Men in general are very visual creatures, which is why porn is targeted to men and is a multi-billion dollar industry. Often we are turned on by the idea of something rather than the thing itself. Perhaps you are turned on by the taboo element of gay sex; the idea that you’re seeing something that’s considered somewhat on the fringe of sexuality, something that you describe as ‘disgusting’ in your non-aroused state. The lines between what’s erotic in fantasy and what’s erotic in real life can be blurred. If you’re worried that you may be gay or bi, then try to imagine yourself in a long-term committed relationship with someone of your same gender versus someone of the opposite sex. Which, if either, seems more appealing?
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Name : Matt T., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : Valley Village, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,To me the hyphenating of Americans doesn’t make us any less American. We all share this great country, but our experiences here differ. African-Americans all have one thing in common; we’re all Americans decended from Africans which means something about our experience in this country. Identifying ourselves as African-Americans, or Asian-Americans, or Mexican-Americans helps us to come together to give voice to our specific concerns, triumphs, and challenges. One of the greatest strengths of our country is that it is filled with so many different types of people who love their country and are proud of where they came from. As far as reversing the hyphenation, well, it wouldn’t make sense. In the English language the preceding word in the hyphenation acts as an adjective describe the noun that follows it. If we switched it, and were ‘American-Africans’ the ‘African’ would become the noun, and therefore the identifying word. It would imply that we were Americans living in Africa.
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Name : Matt T., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : Valley Village, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,Yes, as gays we often (but not always) have problems with our parents, but I think you have the cause and effect relationship backwards. I’m not gay because I had problems with my parents, I had some problems with my parents because they didn’t want me to be gay. I was an effeminate child which bothered my parents and often caused tension. Through patience and education, they learned that my sexual orientation was as much a part of me as my race, or height, or eye color, or a myriad of other things out of our control that make us who we are.
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Name : Matt T., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : Valley Village, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,I’m actually not sure that this is a completely accurate assesment on our culture’s views of sexuality. The usual image of two women engaged in same-sex sexual behavior is a very male/heterosexual projection. The women are usually very feminine, and dressed in somewhat provacative attire in a setting that is very non-threatening to men. This is because same sex behavior involving two women is a long-time heterosexual male fantasy. Oddly, the reverse, two men engaged in sexual behavior, doesn’t typically have the same effect on heterosexual women. Since heterosexual men have historically controlled society, the perameters by which we measure the acceptability of certain behaviors are largely set by heterosexual men. Real lesbians don’t express their sexuality to please men, and are often, therefore, seen as quite threatening to straight men. I would argue that that gay men and lesbians both face challenges in this area and that it is no more acceptable by society to be lesbian than it is to be a gay man.
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Name : Matt T., Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Christian, Age : 25, City : Valley Village, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class,
