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Fingers and vibrator, always. Porn often (usually stories, occasionally pictures). Dildo, buttplug and/or nipple clamps very occasionally.
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Name : Lauren, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 25, City : Cambridge, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,As well as it being illegal, most people find it morally wrong to have any kind of sexual contact (including kissing or touching in a sexual manner) with members of your immediate family. Should such behavior be illegal and considered wrong? Ideally, I am of the opinion that most behaviors should be allowed between consenting adults, including incestuous relationships (I believe incestuous reproduction only very slightly raises the probability of birth defects for the first generation — but in any case, you can have a sexual relationship without reproduction). However, within a family there are complicated obligations and power differentials that make it tricky to assure that such a relationship is completely consensual, even between adults. (Obviously even more so when at least one participant is not an adult.) So I think the issue must be approached cautiously, though I am not morally against it in all cases.
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Name : Lauren, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 25, City : Cambridge, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,First a caveat — fetishes can be very hard to explain; for some people, that’s just the way it is. However I can think of three reasons that I personally have fantasized about it at different times in my life: (1) if you can’t find a human partner and are horny (as is likely with the middle school girl you talked to), you might look for alternatives — I almost tried to get a dog to lick me when I was young, to see what it was like. (2) I know that I am interested in the different sensation of sex with a male dog; it is supposed to have a more frantic pace than with a human male, and dealing with the knot on the penis is pleasurable for some. (3) I (and undoubtedly others) am turned on by the taboo nature of the act.
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Name : Lauren, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 25, City : Cambridge, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Intercourse: 4 (men). Other sexplay: 1 woman, 2 men. I first had sex at age 19 — would have liked to have started a couple years earlier. I feel very comfortable with the number of people I’ve had sex with, if not some of the exact choices of when. I’m looking forward to having many more partners through the years. I enjoy long-term, loving relationships as well as more casual arrangements (anything from ‘fuck buddies’ to one-night stands) so long as everyone understands and is happy with the arrangement.
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Name : Lauren, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 25, City : Cambridge, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,As someone who has only lived on the coasts (in Seattle, San Francisco, and Boston), my gut reaction when thinking about people in the Midwest is to think that they will probably be prejudiced or ignorant about a lot of things and have very different values from me. I’m getting over this. I’ve certainly known lots of cool individuals from the Midwest — and prejudiced, ignorant coastal folks. But I’m guessing that it probably is true that as a bisexual and an atheist, I am more likely to find people with similar values in urban areas on the coasts than in the Midwest. Also, I think people surrounded by lots of gay people and a very multiracial mix of people are likely to be less ignorant of other kinds of people — and possibly less prejudiced — than others, but that’s probably more an issue of urban vs. rural, rather than coast vs. Midwest. I’ve only driven through the Midwest. The people that I met were usually very friendly. A bunch of the Midwesterners I met seemed never to have been anywhere outside of their small towns where they live. While I know people who’ve never been anywhere besides the urban coastal cities where they live, at least a lot of things come through town, so they perhaps get more “sophisticated” experiences that way. I would prefer not to live in the Midwest, but that has far more to do with my friends living on the coasts than with anything else.
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Name : Lauren, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 25, City : Cambridge, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I have seen interracial porn sites that say that all white women should be totally subservient to black men (often while hubby looks on helplessly). If taken seriously, this obviously is racist. However, this kind of material can be used as the basis for fantasy without the fantasizer being a racist. At least I hope so, as I have occasionally fantasized about being a white woman who has to do everything that black men tell me to — or being a black woman doing the bidding of white men, or about being the men in these situations. But then, I’ve fantasized about many things which I would consider outrageous and offensive if anyone did them in real life. Also, in real life I’m interested in members of all races, so I don’t think the porn affects me detrimentally that way. Is the porn racist? Sometimes. Are the users? Not always.
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Name : Lauren, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 25, City : Cambridge, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Anal beads are a bunch of balls attached to a string (with some space between each ball) which can be inserted anally during sexplay. They can vary in substance (e.g., silicone, rubber, metal) and in diameter (quite small up to at least an inch and a half — probably bigger, too, but that’s as big as I’ve seen personally), and the ‘string’ is usually rubber or silicone. A ring at the end of the string allows you to remove the beads. Some people find the process of inserting the beads arousing, and it can also be arousing to pull on the string and remove all the beads rapidly, especially right before or during orgasm.
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Name : Lauren, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 25, City : Cambridge, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,As others have said, you’re not doing anything wrong legally, and I don’t think you’re doing anything wrong morally, either. As for the issue that others are raising — are you straight or otherwise? — perhaps this is worth thinking about as well. Mostly it’s worth thinking about because it can be nice to have support and social contact with other non-straight people if that is the case. It sounds like, in your case, you are aroused by at least one member of the same sex. Maybe this is a rare occurrence for you. But there are lots of groups for questioning or curious people. Perhaps it is worth asking yourself (and perhaps the members of questioning/curious support groups) if you might be bisexual or gay, and if so, what you can do to be happiest. In the meantime, don’t feel guilty.
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Name : Lauren, Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 25, City : Cambridge, State : MA, Country : United States, Occupation : student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
