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How do you know what his motives for that statement are? Maybe he’s a pacifist. Maybe he doesn’t believe in killing for a living. Or maybe he’d just prefer to do something different. The fact that you choose to work in the Department of Defense doesn’t mean everyone has to be as enthusiastic about it as you. There are many opinions about whether we need even a fraction of the defense system that we have. There are plenty people ready to find a good excuse to kill and maim, so if there are some who don’t want to, that doesn’t make them any less of a man, or human, and it isn’t going to bring the country to ruin, either.
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Name : Laura W., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 40, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Systems Analyst, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I know quite a few men who have the attitude you depict, and I also know quite a few who do not. I am completely out at work, so all my co-workers know who I am. From what I’ve noticed, it appears to be the men who are rather insecure who have a bad attitude toward lesbians and gay men. The men who seem to be secure and authentic don’t seem to consider it an issue. I think, therefore, that the men who do have a problem with us feel threatened by any woman who gives any indication that she doesn’t feel men are superior by default. I think this anti-lesbian attitude is more an issue of sexism than homophobia, because in my experience, it is just as common – if not more so – among gay men as among straight men.
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Name : Laura W., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 40, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Systems Analyst, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,Lots of lesbians wear makeup. I would hazard a guess that a larger percentage of straight and bisexual women wear makeup, as opposed to lesbians. I would guess that this is because makeup was historically – and probably still is to a certain extent – considered important for the benefit of men. Women are raised to be much more forgiving of a mate’s level of physical attractiveness than men (I’ve often seen men who are with women who would be considered much more attractive than them by mainstream standards, yet the opposite is not nearly as often the case). Therefore, women who are not interested in attracting men are probably much less likely to feel a need to fit the stereotypical ideal of beauty. I prefer women without makeup. I would much rather look at an interesting face that tells me a story about that person, than a made-up Barbie doll face that looks just like all the others.
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Name : Laura W., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 40, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Systems Analyst, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It was time a long time ago! I want to be eligible for the draft (although I’m too old now) so that I could have the opportunity to be a conscientious objector! I think that there are many reasons why women are not yet drafted. And I think most of them come down to sexism. Also, I believe that even in this day, girls, more than boys are still raised to be nurturers and boys are raised to be fighters. It’s instilled in us at an early age. Therefore, there are probably a much smaller number of women than men who would actually want, or be willing, to go to war. Oppressive behavior only ends if the oppressed fight against it. Most women probably aren’t too interested in ending this particular symptom of oppression.
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Name : Laura W., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 40, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Systems Analyst, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,It’s fine to be proud to be who you are. Period. What you may be finding that people are reacting to is not the fact that you are comfortable with your sexuality, but that, by declaring yourself to be a member of the norm, you are not really saying anything, so why say it at all? It’s like me saying I’m proud to be an air-breather. Is that really something to be proud of? No. It’s just what I am, by nature. When I say I’m proud to be lesbian I am not REALLY saying I’m proud to be a lesbian (which is what I am by nature) – I am saying that I am proud that I have been able to overcome the societal pressure to either lie to myself and others or to be ashamed of living truthfully. I am proud that I have overcome – to a certain extent – some of the internalized oppression that has been pounded into my head since before I was even able to admit who I really am. Hope this makes sense.
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Name : Laura W., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 40, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Systems Analyst, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,I was told in a history class I took in college that the stereotype regarding ‘stupid’ Poles started in the late 1800’s/early 1900’s when many people from Europe were coming to the U.S. Many of these people, if they weren’t from English-speaking countries, did not speak English when they arrived here. Because of that, they were considered stupid because they did not do well in school. I don’t remember why this stereotype didn’t stick to other non English-speaking nationalities – I think it had something to do with the specific time period when lots of Poles were getting here, or something like that. Interesting side note: I read years ago in Psychology Today about an intelligence study that was performed to determine how Poles rated compared to non-Polish Caucasians; it turns out that Poles, as a group, are actually slightly more intelligent than the average Caucasian.
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Name : Laura W., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Lesbian, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Jewish, Age : 40, City : Los Angeles, State : CA, Country : United States, Occupation : Systems Analyst, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class,
