Yes, this is yet another one of the questions on this category that could easily go both ways. You want to know the big secret on how to differentiate between people who are leading you on and people who are sincere? It's very simple and it doesn't require much effort to notice: Actions speak louder than words. Far too many times I've had to counsil a younger friend who was bummed out because a girl he 'has a crush on is going out of town and told him when she gets back they'll have to hook up...but he's heard her ragging on him behind his back.' Ugh, guys, really, she can straight up tell you shes going to screw your brains out when she gets back, but until she does so, I would simply shrug it off, or at most humor her. I've seen it plenty of times, girls leading on a guy who's kind of desperate, making him believe they are 2 steps from the bedroom, merely so they'll stick around, instead of being straight forward that they only want to be friends. And no, I'm not ragging on females, I've seen plenty of males do it too. On that note, I had a female friend the other day complaining to me that everytime a guy tells her 'he's a nice guy,' he turns out to be a jerk, I said it's no differen't from the girls that tell you that they don't want to live a soap opera of a life, usually turn out to be your drama queens. Guys, does your girlfriend tell you shes crazy about you? or does she show you? Girls, does your boyfriend tell you he cares about you? or does he show you? Anyone see a pattern yet?
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Name : Joe, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 23, City : Houston, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : I.T., Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class, Keep in mind the major word here is young, they do have plenty of time to build or repair it, whatever the case may be, and just like you said, the lenders expect them to go into default, and with this growing apathetical/live for the moment trend that seems to consume most young peoples minds these days, it really can't be all that big of a surprise. I am 23 with great credit, as a matter of fact I got to experience pulling out of a dealership with a brand new hot little sports car with no co-signer for the first time in my life just last year in late October. If you're asking me personally why I think there are such huge problems with young people and credit, just as I said: I doubt they care and/or know better. As a child, I often heard of my grandfather struggling because he had multiple credit cards maxed out, so I vowed NEVER to have one, and then you can imagine how hard I was banging my head on the table when I heard baby credit was worse than bad credit in some instances. Anyway, I hope this answers your question.
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Name : Joe, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 23, City : Houston, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : I.T., Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class, I cant vouch for the 70's and beyond, but as long as I've been around, since 1981, it's always been like that. As you pointed out, last names get used a lot in military, also, I had P.E. coaches in high school, past and present employers etc who would on occasion call someone by their last name, if to them it seemed more fitting, the reason being: they were ex-military. So, before it bothers you too much, did you ever ask anyone that called you by your last name if either they were ex-military or had a strong military influence in their life? The only other thing I can think of is John is a very common name, they may be trying to differentiate.
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Name : Joe, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 23, City : Houston, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : I.T., Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class, I can think of a handful of reasons why this goes on: Number one, I don't know if they did it 30 plus years ago, but these days, you never know, along with school, some of the people have to work a full time job and have whatever else on their schedule to balance, and are merely there to get educated rather than make a fashion statement which leads right into: Number two, we'll leave the making a fashion statement to the high school kids, suddenly they graduate/drop out whatever, and when everyone goes in a million different directions in life, they suddenly realize that the vast majority of the population don't look twice at their $200 sneakers and to which side their hair is parted. Number three, even if my previous statement is incorrect to some people, comfort will have to become more important than personal appearance since college studies are to be taken more seriously than high school, after all it is coming directly out of either your or your parents wallet. Which leads into: Number four, as much as college costs these days, and since it's not like high school where the funding simply gets taken out of your parents taxes, I'd protest that if I wanted to show up to class in my pajamas (and some people do) that's my business and finance-choking right to do so. Number five, if the students all around personal hygiene was up to standards, does it really matter what they are wearing? Finally: Number six, all throughout the course of your life, starting at around age 5, you go to school and it is expected of you to learn this that and the other, but here's something they don't teach you: how to learn. In most cases, you'll have to be all the way up to college level to take a course on this. One thing they will teach you, is never study in bed, because 'when you get in your bed, your body grows a mind of it's own, thinking oh boy! it must be time for sleep! making you risk getting drowsy.' So my argument here, is what if all their life, the person always changed into their sweats or other 'after school clothes' to study? Then the only thing that changes, is they drop the 'after school' label, and they become simply: clothes.
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Name : Joe, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 23, City : Houston, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : I.T., Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class, One of the main reasons for the rating system, is far too many people went to see a movie, not knowing what to expect, and left offended. And doesn't everyone know, at this day and age, far too many people are very quick to get offended. With this in mind, the big thing is, if you are still under the age of 18, you are still the responsibility of your parents, in which if they happen to be the type to offend easily, and happen to find out a certain theatre sold their 12-16 year old a ticket to a movie they deemed 'objectionable,' all hell is going to break loose. Whoever sold the ticket and possibly the manager on duty at the time could loose their jobs, and the theatre itself could come under unwanted investigation and even possibly a lawsuit. So, essentially, a ticket is not sold because the workers implement methodology called CYA (cover your ass). Same goes for why 12-17 year olds would have to pay full price for an Eminem CD, but unless their parents or someone of age lays the money down for them, forget it.
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Name : Joe, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 23, City : Houston, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : I.T., Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class, Here are the top four reasons I can think of - 1) Peer preasure: This doesn't even apply to the people who are (supposibly) being teased about being a virgin, simply hearing others speak of engaging in acts may cause one to feel they need to as well just to fit in. 2) Health/Sex Ed: They have sex education week when you take Health in high school, however very little is talked of sex itself, these days (at least the schools I went to) they taught abstinence to avoid diseases as a form of scare tactic. The problem with this: I'm sure it's safe to assume it's not what the students were expecting, hence curiousity levels shoot skyhigh, also, the scare wear off. 3) Openness: A common misconception these days is that sex and its standards have changed over the years. Not true - people are simply more open about it these days. With all the talk, and especially the imagery we can easily access now days, curiousity/emotions get aroused and, just as you always hear when listening to someone speak of an unwanted pregnancy 'one thing leads to another.' 4) Scaredness: As noted in other posts, sex has sadly become one of those things to most people, hearing of it, or engaging in it, has become as common as eating breakfast. So it's easy for the mass sheep followers of the world to jump on the band wagon and not think anything of it. That's my two cents worth.
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Name : Joe, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 23, City : Houston, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : I.T., Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class, It seems a lot of people crave to live in mass of fear and drama these days over assumptions. For people who insist on not only being a goody two-shoes, but want to go out of their way to substantiate it to the rest of the world, its easy for them to quickly point out/label/stereotype others so they can 'reassure' their peers and themselves of their own innocence which they probably don't have. I say this because a lot of people will make any kind of assumption they can possibly think of, in order to subconsciously justify something they are doing, or have done, or will do.
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Name : Joe, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 23, City : Houston, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : I.T., Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class, I can best answer this in four words: Humans crave a ritual. But to give more detail, there always seems to be something very appealing about the past to even someone who wasn't even alive in those days. You just simply cannot approach it from a pessimistic point of view. For instance, in the 20's, the child support issues may be overlooked by a modern day mob enthusiast. Or in the 60's, a modern day hippy may overlook the poverty problems they had back then. As far as half the children in high school graduating, not to sound smartasstic, but when did this change? Also bear in mind that during the 1820's along with the alcohol consumption, cocaine was considered an over the counter headache remedy, and heroin/opium was sold over the counter as cough medicine. So, some things change and some don't. The bottom line though, if you approach it from the angle of pointing out the problems associated with the said decades, along with asking 'Why the nostalgia?' you might as well be asking 'Why the present era?' because we are still very far from achieving the title of utopia.
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Name : Joe, Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Atheist, Age : 23, City : Houston, State : TX Country : United States, Occupation : I.T., Education level : Technical School, Social class : Middle class, There is absolutely no need to point out that you're trying to differentiate between appearance, personality and mind. From a 23 year old males perspective: As far as physical appearance goes, the thing is, personality and mind would HAVE to be factored into this. I have seen far more women in their 30's and early 40's I would say were far more sexy than a woman in her 20's, even of the same measurments, simply because they had a better attitude or personality, and knew how to advertise their physical appearance. Also with age normally comes a far more broad and diverse range of interests, so they aren't quick to bore.
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