[JimC]

Some of the responses to this question so far reveal a level of ignorance and bigotry that I didn’t think existed in this day and age. To reply to CeCE, the assertion that homosexuality is a choice has been disproven medically, psychologically, and scientifically. You need only look inside yourself and ask when you ‘chose’ to be straight. You never made that choice, you just are what you are. I’m gay not because I chose it, but because that’s just how I was made. If you base your arguments on homosexuality being a choice, you’re just plain wrong, and all your subsequent assumptions and beliefs are then based on a falsehood and thus insupportable. And if you think my wanting to marry someone I love is a ‘special right’, how is this? You can marry someone you love. I want to be able to marry the person I love. What’s the difference? How is my marriage a ‘special’ right? And you say this has to do with values, family, and healthy child-rearing. Well, sure it does. And in the city and state where I live, conservative extremists have pushed through laws to say gays can’t marry, that domestic partners can’t receive the same benefits as straight couples, and that laws protecting gay people from abuse and discrimination can’t even be enacted. And the effect of this is that I and many other gays are going to move somewhere more welcoming, away from our families. Is this what you mean by protecting families? Tearing them apart? And a great many gay couples have children, either of their own or through adoption. These are families that exist. Wouldn’t it be better for these families if the state recognized them an provided the same benefits and security that families of straight couples enjoy? How does preventing people from being a legal family strengthen the family? It makes no sense.

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Name : JimC, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Dayton, State : OH, Country : United States, Occupation : Systems Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

[JimC]

It seems your question boils down to ‘Why is homosexuality and bisexuality OK and not bestiality/S&M/pedophilia’. It comes down to the issues of consent vs. victimization. Relations between homosexuals/bisexuals are between consenting adults. Relations with animals or children are obviously non-consenting in the first case, and victimizing in the second. As far as I’m concerned, S&M activities between two consenting adults are their own business (although not my cup of tea), and like homosexuality and bisexuality, should not be an issue to government or society. Pedophilia and bestiality (along with a host of comparable predilections), however, cannot be mutually consenting, and create a victim/victimizer situation in which society and government do have a role in policing.

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Name : JimC, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 36, City : Dayton, State : OH, Country : United States, Occupation : Systems Engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper middle class, 

[JimC]

In your question, you state that ‘homosexual men have feminine undertones and behavior’ as though this were the truth for all gay men. This just isn’t the case. Being gay myself and knowing many many gay men, I can honestly say that most are just regular-Joe guys who are no more feminine or masculine than any other man, straight or gay. Sure, there are exceptions, ranging from the flamboyant ‘queen’ to the hypermasculine ‘leatherman.’ That you assume all gay men act feminine just means that these ‘effeminate’ homosexuals are the only ones you recognize as being gay. I guarantee there are a lot more gay men you come in contact with that you don’t recognize simply because their mannerisms don’t jibe with your preconceived notions. You can also rest assured that not all lesbian women fit the stereotypical ‘butch/manly’ stereotype, either.

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