[Jackie]

I feel concern about my friends who have sex outside of marriage, because I’ve seen many people that I care about get hurt that way. Depending on how well I know them, I may tell them my thoughts (just as I would want them to tell me if they have concerns about decisions I’m making). However, I don’t look down on them or consider it to be too big of a deal (I get much more upset about a friend lying to me than a friend having sex with their boy/girlfriend). I would like to ignore this particular command sometimes. Sex sounds like a lot of fun, and it’s frustrating sometimes to wait. I still feel like I’ve made the right decision, though (and I’ve done harder things than ignoring the urgings of my hormones).

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[Jackie]

I was pretty little (I think preschool), and my mom and I were looking over a map. I saw the country of ‘Niger’ and innocently pronounced it ‘Nigger’. Mom explained to me that this wasn’t appropriate because that term can be used as an insult for a certain group of people. I don’t think the whole concept of racial discrimination really dawned in my mind for awhile after that, though; I lived in a mostly single-race area when I was littler.

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[Jackie]

I have a number of disagreements with this argument. I disagree with your philosophy regarding sex. First of all, God gives us many commmandments that we fail. I don’t always manage to love the people around me, treat them in a Christ-like manner, speak truth, avoid jealousy, or keep from gossiping. Furthermore, this is the same for everyone I know. Does this mean that God shouldn’t have given us these guidelines, because we’re doomed to failure? I personally find the commandment against extramarital sex much easier to follow than the commandment to love my neighbor as myself. Secondly, I think God had reasons for telling us not to have extramarital sex. Being an unmarried virgin, I’ll admit to having little direct experience in this area. However, almost all (at least 90%; I sat down and figured this out once after another discussion on this topic) of the people I’ve been good friends with who had premarital sex have expressed regret to me about that at some point in time. This includes non-Christians and members of other cultures. On the other hand, none of the people that I know who saved sex for marriage have regretted that. Couples that I know who wait for marriage also tend to have sturdier relationships (although this is not necessarily universal). From what I’ve heard, sex can cloud your judgement and become too important, making it harder to make good decisions in other areas. Again, this is a generalization, but it fits what I’ve seen. It’s true that you take a risk if you don’t have sex with your partner before marriage. However, I still say you can get to know your partner well enough without sleeping with him/her. I’ve had talks with sexually active friends of mine (married and not) about their experiences with sex. I’ve found that I can tell with a high degree of accuracy whose partners are loving and considerate during sex. How? If they’re loving, considerate, and so on in other ways, that carries over to sex. If they’re self-centered, inconsiderate, and unwilling to listen outside of sex, that carries over. To respond to your concern of domestic violence: you don’t have to sleep with someone to realize that s/he will be abusive, because so many other behaviors point to that.

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