[Jackie]

My general experience has been that no one is sure of what to do in this area. As a roughly college-aged woman, I’m generally fine with general courtesy but uncomfortable with men acting extremely ‘chivalrous’. For example, if I’m with someone who reaches a door first, or I have my arms full, I figure they’ll open it. I don’t expect it from them just because they’re guys. In fact, if someone insists on opening doors for me because I’m a woman and he’s a man, I feel uneasy with that. Or another example: When my dad tried to develop the habit of walking around to open my car door for me, I was just weirded out. However, in the last few weeks my van’s passenger door is broken, so it’s only common courtesy to let whomever is sitting there out. I think the problem at the moment is that we don’t have any general guidelines at the moment. Do we go for old customs that no longer have the same meaning that they used to, or change everything? My general advice is to act generally polite and other than that not worry about it too much. No matter what decision you make, you’ll be pleasing some people and offending others.

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Name : Jackie, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 23, City : Tacoma, State : WA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[Jackie]

I have to agree with everyone else; that’s a question that people like to hear! As to where to meet women who respect themselves, well, we’re scattered everywhere. I’d suggest picking some activity that you enjoy or find interesting, and start attending that. It helps if it’s an activity where it’s possible to hang out casually with other group members. As to how to approach a woman respectfully: the fact that you’re asking this question means you’ve probably got a decent chance of managing it anyway. Be honest and sincere. Joke playfully with someone if that’s the way you usually act, compliment her if you have a genuine compliment to share (esp. if it’s something like, ‘I appreciated the way you introduced this idea into our discussion,’ instead of ‘You look really hot!’ It can definitely be nice to know that you’re attractive to someone else, but it can sometimes come across wrong if you start out with a compliment of the person’s physical features), and so on. Ask her questions about herself (about things you’re genuinely interested in), and listen to her responses. I could go on, but that hopefully gives you an idea.

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Name : Jackie, Gender : F, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Christian, Age : 23, City : Tacoma, State : WA, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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