[J.S.]

I’m gay and if someone said that I wouldn’t be offended in any way. To me, you saying she’s a woman and we’re gay is kinda looking for a reaction. You get it’s ok, same as ‘no big deal’. But I’ve never heard a straight person saying she’s a woman and we’re straight. Aren’t you the one being a little bit discriminative? You came in saying we’re gay. They said they are ok with it. I think you are putting too much meaning into the words.

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Name : J.S., Gender : M, Race : White/Caucasian, Age : 47, City : Nashua, State : NH, Country : United States, Occupation : engineer, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

[J.S.]

S.R., As someone who has been married (3 kids too) and later discovered who I am I can tell you it is JUST AS HEARTWRENCHING to us. When I married, I had never slept with someone of the same sex. I had fantasies but wouldn’t think of it. I assumed I was straight with fantasies (that ALL straight people occasionally fantasize about being with their own sex). To this day I love my xwife, but I remained in a long term marriage (22 years) and the last 7 or so my fantasies began to supersurface. I HAD TO find out who I was. While I don’t condone going outside of marriage, I did but to find out if sleeping with a guy felt natural. It did and I realized who I was. Married a long time and 3 kids later. While I will admit it is awful for a spouse to find out about their partner being gay, it is just as wrenching for the one who REALIZES that he is gay and is now ‘into’ a long term marriage. It was a very painful time in my life. Sometimes it still is. That is why I know sexuality is not a choice. Why would I give up a wife that loved me, and a relatively stable life to become gay if I had a choice.

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