[J. Allen]

I'm a black Baptist raised in a Baptist church. But my aunt is a Buddhist, my sister is Jewish and her children are Jehovah's Witnesses. It hasn't created any friction in the family whatsoever, but it makes the holidays confusing as hell. Certain family members are fasting, while others are feasting - literally! Other than that, no problems.

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Name : J. Allen, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 29, City : Charlotte, State : NC Country : United States, Occupation : Office Assistant, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

[J. Allen]

I agree that some black men disrespect black women, but to believe we hate them is ridiculous. When a black man mistreats his woman, it reflects poorly on him, making him look like less of a man. When a brother chooses to be with a 'non-black' woman, then that's his choice, and we have to respect it. Black men are just like any other race of American-born men; we want lots of sex from multiple partners. This is simply the culture in which we were born. But it's no excuse for doing it. Black women are all we black men have. I love all people, but there's no other race of women on this planet that can compare to a black woman. Immaturity, unresolved issues with one's mother, low self-esteem, a hurtful previous relationship and/or ignorance seem to be the root problem for these black men who are in question. Self-hatred is the main reason for negative behavior by brothers toward sisters. Just remember, the rest of us love you.

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Name : J. Allen, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : Black/African American, Religion : Baptist, Age : 29, City : Charlotte, State : NC Country : United States, Occupation : Office Assistant, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, 

[J. Allen]

In my opinion, some Blacks feel that if they have to change or modify 'who they are' to be successful, then they're selling out. It's equivalent to wearing a mask, simply being phony. The higher one climbs up the 'social ladder', the more of him/herself becomes lost. Regardless, we should greet our more successful peers with open arms, sometimes we don't. Most often, the underlying tones of aggression are due to jealousy. Each case is different. BUT, there are situations where a person can give up too much of themselves just to 'make it'. Personally, I don't judge. It's hard enough walking in my own shoes. If they can live with themselves, so can I.

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[J. Allen]

It's called a stocking cap or wave cap. With African-American hair being naturally curly, we can style it so that the hair becomes 'wavy,' henceforth 'wave cap.' Traditionally it was worn to bed and taken off in the morning. But, with younger generations, it's become a trend to wear them everywhere. In the past it was worn by men only, because our hair was generally shorter than our female counterparts. Then women began wearing their hair shorter, allowing them to wear the same hair style. As always, younger generations have a more relaxed sense of style than the previous. Once, wave caps were worn in the house only. Then, it became socially allowable to wear them outside. Now, young people have decided that wave caps are fashionable attire. My generation would never have worn them as a hat (and I'm not that old), which shows how quickly trends and social atmospheres change.

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[J. Allen]

I think some men 'test' other men as a sort of confidence pacifier. Possibly, they can walk a little taller knowing that they 'out-willed' the next guy. It doesn't make sense. It seems to be some outdated right of passage. The sad thing is that as outdated as this concept might be, we still have to participate in it. There's no way around it. When I'm confronted like that, as a rule, I attempt to appeal to their sensibilities in a joking manner: 'Oh, you've intimidated me, you're so big and bad, do as you will' (in a very bland tone of voice). I haven't confronted any 'tough guys' who don't feel stupid after hearing me say that. It makes them realize how childish the whole testosterone-induced aggression thing really is.

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[J. Allen]

'Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.' No sin is greater than the next. We are not to judge. We will all have to answer for our OWN sins.

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[J. Allen]

The question posed is a valid one. One reason for 'separate' award shows and contests is that blacks (or African-Americans) are still, according to population statistics, a minority in America. This being the case, under-represented contestants will have less of a chance to win. Not to mention that there are a lack of roles for people of color in Hollywood (black or otherwise). It seems that other races (non-black) don't want to watch a movie or TV show with a predominantly black cast or black leading character. Black awards shows and contests give their contestants an even playing field. From the many Oscar-worthy performances given by black actors and actresses, a sad few have won the coveted award.

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