[Hayat]

You asked about those of us who ‘believe sex before marriage is prohibited’. Firstly, my code of life is guided by religion, Islam, but I do not judge other people by their inability to follow to rules of my religion. That would be silly. I cannot expect everyone to believe in what I believe. Meaning, my view of people who condone sexual activity before marriage is not decided by my own religious doctrine. I understand that the popular culture celebrates the freedom of choice in that matter. That I guess is based on the secular/popular culture belief that life is all about having as much fun as possible before inevitable and final death. For those of us who follow the Judaic traditions, life is a test, and a test based on restraint and will. I view people who do not believe that life is a test as people who have yet to awake to the reality of this life. I cannot condemn them because its not my place. Islam teaches us to treat the sinner and the non-Muslim as potential Muslims, and that judgement is reserved for God alone. Do I ever feel like giving into my desires. Sure. But because I know I’m only human, I do my utmost to stay away from that which may tempt me. I don’t date, which saves me from the whole physical aspect of pre-marital relations. And my religion is based on social order, so it also teaches us to abstain from pornography of all sorts, masturbation and obsessing over sexual things. There’s no point in being abstinent if you’re a mental sex fiend. I guess being abstinent is no different from deciding not to steal or lie. Its easy once you get started, but its best if you decide not to do it from the get-go. I think that if I had first been sexually active and then decided to be abstinent, it would have been hard. This way, I don’t really care about what I’m missing. Not to mention, life isn’t a race. I’m not out to get all the sex I can before I die. I’ll get married one day and fulfill that part of life, but its not the core of my existence. Life is so much more than physical desire.

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Name : Hayat, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Muslim, Age : 19, City : Chicago, State : IL, Country : United States, Occupation : Student, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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