[Gordon P.]

Be cool. Twenty-one is pretty young to commit in any permanent sense. Maybe he sees 'girlfriend' as equal to 'wife.' Hold your ground. After all, he is asking you to commit when he pressures you for sex. Maybe you could ask him, 'Why does it matter that I won't go all the way, when I don't want to date anyone else?' If things don't improve, consider asking him whether you two should decide to date others, since this relationship doesn't seem to be going anywhere. But remember that this may be the kiss-off, and don't try it unless you are ready for that.

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[Gordon P.]

I find it ironic that not one response has pointed out that the Mexican victim of racism indulged in it himself. Those idiots attacked him because they mistook him for an 'Arab' and because they blame all 'Arabs' for 9/11. He then concludes that all 'Americans' are racists. (How about Americans of Arab descent?) And his respondents have generally done the same thing.

Human beings tend to identify with people who look like they do, act like they do and talk like they do - and to be suspicious of or hostile toward those who look, act and talk differently. Not surprising, given the history of humans. But really humane humans try to overcome those 'instinctive responses' in favor of civilized behavior.

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