[GSK]

Hi Laura, I echo Katherine’s comments and commend her for making them. In any collective of people, norms and values dictate what is ‘right’ and ‘wrong’ and are often in conflict with individual interpretations of how a life should be lived. I personally live an alternative lifestyle, being bisexual. You can imagine the sort of reaction I’d get if I went around telling everyone here in the midwest about it. Likewise, there is a considerable number of people in the population who have done an even more considerable number of ‘bad’ things. They don’t go around publicising their ‘transgressions’ (e.g. infidelity to a marital partner). All you have to do is look beyond the group norms you find your life encased in to find examples of alternative ways to live. You might be surprised that there is someone out there looking for someone just like you, because they have some alternative (e.g. not mainstream) take on life. This doesn’t mean that you should tell all to all though. I ended up finding a partner of the opposite gender who happens to be bi as well. Imagine what a pity it would be if we both kept that a secret from each other all our lives – the angst and the secrecy and the lost intimacy that would result. Instead we can celebrate in it, and even at times enjoy some of the crazy memories we created before we got together. The world is what you make of it. Don’t feel guilty, life’s too short. This likely stands in stark contrast to the opinions of many, but it really shouldn’t matter when it comes to your personal life. To me your question is less about kiss and not tell, and more about being confident and at peace with yourself. Respect others in their person and beliefs, be moderate when required, maintain an honest work ethic, and have fun in life – these should be amended to the 10 commandments in my opinion. Best, GSK

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Name : GSK, Sexual Orientation : Bisexual, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 34, City : East Lansing, State : MI, Country : United States, Education level : 4 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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