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You could tell him that ‘pale people in black’ have been around for a while; I’m thinking Lord Byron, beatniks, etc. Of course, they weren’t strictly Goth. Many ‘artistic types’ I know today still wear only black, usually out of convenience: it doesn’t show stains, and everything goes with it. What specifically is angering your dad? Is it the association with devil worship? You could tell him that a pretty large percent of Goths are Christians, or that the Goth obsession with death is a way of contemplating one’s own mortality. There’s an almost ‘monastic’ streak in some Goths, focusing on the emptiness of the present world and the omnipresence of death. That certainly fits within most Christian sects.

Is it the nature of the clothes themselves? Sometimes Gothic men’s clothes are gender-neutral or close to gender-bending. That doesn’t mean all Goths are gay; the men wearing the lace cuffs are doing it to catch the women in the latex bodices. Maybe he associates Goth with rampant drug use; again, there are a lot of sober Goths. And virgin Goths, and married Goths, and so on.

But the most important thing is to let them know you feel that you like the Goth approach and that it’s improving your grades. I think what you need to do is find out what your Dad and Mom are worried about and try to address that. If you can show that being Goth doesn’t mean you’re turning into a drug fiend, devil worshiper or sex-crazed madman, maybe that will help.

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