[Doug25628]

I’ve been in similar situations, so I had to laugh reading your questions. I feel that questions about someone’s relationship are very personal, so if you can’t deal with a response regarding an alternative lifestyle, don’t ask the questions. Sometimes, if I’m in a mood and want to gauge someone, I’ll answer using ‘husband.’ Other times I’ll use the gender-neutral ‘partner,’ but I always use the gender-specific pronouns (i.e. ‘My partner says he doesn’t like blue on me’). The most fun I have is with telemarketers. They ask for ‘Mrs. …’ and in my deepest basso voice I respond, ‘Speaking.’ Sometimes I have to explain further that we’re a gay couple, but it’s a lot of fun to imagine what they’re thinking in that dead silence I hear over the phone. As to the whys in your question, I guess the male/female gender couple is still the predominant relationship, and the same-sex couple is in the minority. I would guess that as people grow accustomed to the idea of gay people and gay people in relationships, the questions will become more neutral.

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Name : Doug25628, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : New Age/Metaphysical, Age : 38, City : Phoenix, State : AZ, Country : United States, Occupation : Administrator, Education level : 2 Years of College, Social class : Middle class, 

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