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- I once had an African (not African-American) man who was huge, and we couldn't even have sex, it hurt me so badly. We tried two or three times and that was it. My opinion on women who are all about the superiority of hugeness either haven't had it before, or had a 'smaller' man who didn't know how to use it. My favorite lovers (not THAT many) have been medium to small and used multiple methods: fingers, mouth, good foreplay, etc.
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Name : Deb M., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : Law Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,Regarding your porn question, I can tell you honestly that I am a straight woman (I think) with an appetite for lesbian porn. I have looked at many kinds of porn: straight couples, gay men, etc., but my favorite is lesbian. I have decided that I would much rather look at it and fantasize about it than actually be with a woman. It has something to do with the beauty of the women, and the way they handle each other; they aren't threatening to me. I don't like the pictures in which lesbian women are using penetration devices on each other. It has a lot to do with individual taste, past history, etc - I am in love with my boyfriend of two years, and I enjoy penetration during sex (better than just clitoral stimulation) - but I enjoy it with him because I know him, I trust him, etc. Men I don't know, such as those in porn pictures, do nothing for me, and actually turn me off. I went through a bad time in college where I was sleeping around, and I was forced to have sex a couple of times. Maybe it could be called rape, I don't know. I don't know if my appetite for lesbian porn started before or after that.User Detail :
Name : Deb M., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : Law Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,My 'gina and I are good buddies, as we have been since age 11, when I first started rubbing her and trying to figure out what she liked. I have been a voracious masturbator since then, and I know my vagina very well - what works, what doesn't. My partner would build a shrine to mine if he could - he loves her. These are some words he uses to describe her: so warm, wet, tight, like velvet, soft, smooth. He honors her well. I view her with tenderness and love because I know she won't always be like this - when I get old, when I have kids, she'll get old, too.User Detail :
Name : Deb M., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : Law Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,My boyfriend and all his friends (so he says) call the area between the penis/scrotum and the anus the 'choda.' I think they heard it in a movie. Anyway - I think it's much more useful terminology as applied to that area than as applied to a wide penis.User Detail :
Name : Deb M., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : Law Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,Stephanie: I'm just curious about your labeling yourself as a lesbian, because you mention a boyfriend. I am not judging, am purely curious. My boyfriend thinks I have lesbian tendencies because I like lesbian porn better than straight porn.User Detail :
Name : Deb M., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : Law Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,I think enjoyment of sex is something that comes to different people at different times in their lives, but I disagree with the poster who said that 'most women don't enjoy sex.' Don't get that in your head. Enjoyment of sex comes and goes - I am a 26-year-old, fairly liberal straight female in a strong, loving relationship of almost two years. As much as I love my boyfriend, and as much as I have come to enjoy sex, there are times when it doesn't feel good to me. You have to be honest about that and not feel bad about yourself. Sometimes it feels good, sometimes it doesn't, no biggie. If you can be honest with yourself and any partner you may have, then that's better.I always thought I was weird, because I started doing what you describe as 'rubbing' when I was 11, after looking at a sex book that talked about masturbation. I tried it a couple of times over my clothes, but nothing 'happened' at first. I kept trying as I grew up, and slowly moved to different stages - touching myself in different ways, over my clothes, then under, then with a vibrator. I'm not sure when I had my first orgasm. It surely was not during sexual intercourse, but rather by myself. I didn't even have sex until I was 20, and it was with someone I had loved for a couple of years. I have always credited my experimentation with what I consider to be a healthy and enjoyable sex life now. It helped me to be familiar with my own body, comfortable with it, and to know what felt good. When you trust another person, and love another person, AND you have that comfort and familiarity with yourself, it makes it easier to discuss it together in the context of the bedroom.
You are still young, and you have a lot of time to learn your body - don't tell yourself you are weird. I think that for women, pleasure in sex is learned/acquired (by oneself at first), not automatic; because we live in a world where sex is taboo, young women don't get an opportunity to learn about it, or they feel 'bad' for doing so. I don't think a sex partner can necessarily teach you about what feels good for your particular body - that is something to learn on your own, and later invite someone in.
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Name : Deb M., Gender : F, Sexual Orientation : Straight, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 26, City : Chicago, State : IL Country : United States, Occupation : Law Student, Education level : Over 4 Years of College, Social class : Upper class,
