[David]

I assume you mean insults. Tough one – because really it depends on who says it, the manner in which it is said, where it’s said … everything. Some people will deal with it better than others. Certainly as a youngster who suffered homophobic bullying at school, yes, it was extremely hurtful. I probably cried myself to sleep more often than not. Research has shown that more than half of young lesbians and gay men who are bullied at school contemplate suicide or self-harm at least once. Almost a third commit self-harm more than once. Remember too, that most young gay people go through this difficult time completely alone. Children bullied for reasons of race or color will have support from their natural family, but for a young gay person who is not out to family, friends or peers, it can be a distressingly lonely time.

As an adult, I’m outraged at the ignorance and insensitivity, but not at a personal level. Hey, if people are socially ignorant, then it reflects on them, not on me, and, unless there is a real threat to my personal safety, I will always challenge homophobia. However, some adults are not so confident. Often years of continual harrassment and name-calling leads to internalized homophobia, where the victim believes it is his or her own fault, that they deserve it, bring it on themselves, etc.

Comments made in front of other people: family, colleagues or, in a social situation where the gay person may not be ‘out,’ can have a huge impact if the victim is not confident of his or her sexuality. At the end of the day, yes, it bothers me that it still goes on, that people are harrassed and verbally abused on a daily basis. Rates of suicide, self-harm and mental health problems are much higher for young gay people than with their straight peers. I’m lucky; I’m 41 and have experience on my side. People around me know I’m gay and that I don’t see it as a weakness in myself, but my concern is for others more vulnerable than I who are less able to cope. What is needed is for more straight people, especially the young, to challenge homophobia when they hear it – in the same way that I, as a white man, will always challenge racist remarks.

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Name : David, Gender : M, Sexual Orientation : Gay, Race : White/Caucasian, Religion : Agnostic, Age : 41, City : Lancashire, State : NA, Country : United Kingdom, Occupation : community worker, Education level : High School Diploma, Social class : Lower middle class, 

[David]

Why are gay people gay?? We just are – as stated in an earlier response it certainly isn’t a choice… Why are YOU straight, Andrew? Did you sit down one day and make an actual decision that you were going to be attracted to girls? Hmmmmmm.. No-one CHOOSES to be anything!!! As for ‘Why do gay people have anal sex?’ Well I think the question should be why do heterosexuals have anal sex? It may surprise you to learn that more heterosexuals do than homosexuals.. Allow me to explain. A survey was done amongst gay men which found that approximately 60% do have anal sex, 40% don’t. A quick arithmatic exercise here. The gay population is estimated to be between 5-10%. Let’s say 7.5%. Lesbians are extremely unlikely (unless I’m completely misguided!)to have anal sex, so the gay MALE population is approx 3.75%. If 60% of gay men practice anal sex, that is 2.25% of the population. So far, so good. (Have patience here!!!) Of the remaining (heterosexual) 90%, it only requires 2.5% of them to practice anal sex to match the number of gay men who do it. That’s just 1 in 40 !!!! Anyone who ever looked at an adult site on the web will see page after page of heterosexual anal sex pics and ‘girls who take it in each hole’ etc etc. Remember too, in many cultures, anal sex is used as a form of contraception. In other cultures also, where the ‘virgin bride’ is still a requirement – anal sex is the pre-marital form of intercourse that ensure the hymen is still intact on the wedding day! All in all, I’d say the heterosexuals who have anal sex far outnumber the homosexual who do! Q.E.D… Oh – and as for fisting? If anyone came near me with a clenched hand and a calving glove I’d run a mile!!

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